Dreaming of my dead mom

**beautymyth** · 04-22-2013 10:55 AM

My mom died 7 years ago this June from Lung cancer, I have already done the grieving, of course I miss her all the time, I was closest to her in my family.
Anyways, I guess this is a reoccurring dream, as I have been having them more often lately then anything.
Could this have to do with my upcoming surgery that is next month??( or that we are finally going to bury her in June?) So my dreams, I will go into detail about some of the ones that I remember fully, the others I remember dreaming of her but I don't remember what happened in them. Hope I can explain them decently

Dream One-
In this dream, I was at a reunion party of people who belong on a website I used to go onto all the time. Anyways we were looking at pictures of all of us( mostly pictures of me doing stupid thing's though?) So after the party I went outside and all of a sudden a Tsunami happened except that it brought the whole world closer together, one second I was in Ontario and the other second I was in California dating my celebrity crush. My mom was buried in the sand with a bunch of my friends, only her hand's were sticking out, I tried to help my mom but she told me that she was fine just to let her go.

Dream Two-
This dream is a little bit more fresh in my memory as I had it last night.
I was just lounging around in my house which happened to have my boyfriend in it and I had an appointment to go to. For some reason my mom was living with us and I asked her if she could wake me up for my appointment that I have( I actually have an appointment on Wednesday) and she said to me " no you are a big girl you can do it by yourself" and then my dream ended.

I have no idea what these dreams are about, I have tried so many times to look them up but I haven't been able to get a straight answer. Please help??

**Nagirroc** · 04-23-2013 02:09 AM

First off, welcome to dreamviews.

I doubt it has anything to do with your surgery. Imo, it's probably because like you said the anniversary is coming up as well as the burial.

I had an aunt that passed away years ago, and one night I found myself talking to her in a black void with stars all around. Only time I ever experienced something like that. I believe it was just a dream character that my subconscious created.

Also I have tsunami dreams as well. Everytime I see one now I know I'm dreaming.

**paigeyemps** · 04-23-2013 11:48 AM

* moved to Dream Interpretation *

**warriorof** · 04-28-2013 07:12 AM

The common theme in both these dreams is your mother telling you to be independent. The reunion may mean you have a desire to reconnect or reach out about your mom. Tsunami is tragedy. Through tragedy (your concerns and missing your mom) people can unite. Those burred in the sand are the others that are not here, and those remembered by those you talk to. The boyfriend maybe a person that you talk to about your problems. He may have told you that the death of your mother is a growing process for you. Or maybe your boyfriend and yourself share memories of your mother, and her memory is being kept alive by you.

As a side note, I have had dreams about my deceased grandfather at certain points of need in my life. One in High School taught me to be a better person, another was him pointing out an important woman in life (at the time I didn't care much for, but now is special to me), and another where he appeared in a dream about my then GF (now ex) cheating on me. I'm a believer (I'm not saying it's true in your situation, so don't get your hopes up) that certain loved ones appear to us in times where we need guidance. I'm not encouraging this belief on anyone, it's just my opinion. You never know...

**Wakinyan** · 04-28-2013 09:34 AM

I think those are two beautiful little dreams, and I agree with warriofof: Your mother is tellling you to let her go and become independent, and it might very well have something to do with the funeral. You are missing her all the time, as you say, and probably thinking about her very much, so much of your energy is caught up in something of the past. Seven years is a long time. The object for that energy is telling you it is time to let it go and the ritual of a funeral is a very good time to do so. Of course, I don't mean to forget her or not love her anymore, but to move on psychologically speaking. When many people are buried in the sand, amongst others friends who are alive today, you are reaching out for your mother, who has passed away years ago in real life. This might be a symbol of how you in real life, instead of directing your attention to people around you, are caught up in the past. I don't know, these are my associations only, but I hope it is of any help.