What IS The Meaning Of These 2 Dreams?

**Anon2342** · 10-06-2013 07:47 PM

Hi All,

So the over the last 2 nights i have had 2 different dreams but they were rather similar and i don't know why i dreamed them.

Ok so the first dream i had was Friday night. I will tell you as much as i can but im struggling to recall most of it, i just remember the key bits.

So in the dream i was in a relationship that had been going on for a while. Then all of a sudden she deiced to leave me. as i was chasing after her i was begging her not to leave me and i was crying and i felt really sad, i mean even tho it was a dream and i was asleep it was like i was aware that i was feeling really emotional and sad. So any way I was chasing her and trying to get her not to leave me but as she got more out of reach i woke up.

Once i woke up i still felt sad for an hour or so until i got on with the day.

Ok the second dream i had last night and i remember this one in more detail.

So the dream started where i was getting out of bed (in the dream). Also in the dream i had remembered sneaking in the night before as i had been out doing something but i have no idea what it was. As i went down to get my breakfast my dad was there and he tells me the girl i had a sort of had a relationship with had given birth to our baby and was asleep up stairs. The girl as i recalled in the dream, i had slept with her after a thew dates and got her pregnant but from that point to this its like in the dream she had not existed and i was not bothered that she was pregnant. So i had my breakfast and as i headed back up stairs so i could take a wash, my cousin was there holding the baby. She passed be the baby and said its a girl. But as soon as i saw the baby it was like been hit by a brick wall of emotion all of a sudden i started to feel amazingly happy and joyfully more then i ever had been. Once again even tho i was a sleep i could really feel the emotion. So as i held the baby i kissed the her on the forehead and i was talking to her. Then from no where the mother turns up. She takes the baby off me and starts to leave. Once again like in the first dream i started to feel really sad even sort of heartbroken, like the worst saddens i had ever felt. Also once again even tho i was dreaming i could still really feel the emotion. So like the first dream i started to chase after them cry and begging her not to leave and trying to tell her how much i wanted to be apart of hers and the babys life and how i had been a fool for not knowing it or doing anything about it during the last 9 months.

Once again i woke up after her and they baby had gotten far out of reach. But this time the sadness and hart break i felt in the dream i can still fill it. at first it was very strong for like 3 hours after waking up, but for the rest of the day it is not as strong. But still now i can feel something deep down in me that feels sad.

I think these dreams are strange and very out of place for me. I am not in any relationship. Im only 21 and have only ever had like 2 girlfriends. the first was when i was around 8 so i dont think that can really counts and the second was while i was about 15 but that did not last long. I also have never been bothered about looking for a girlfriend, as i believe im still young and that the right girl will just come along one day. As for the baby, i just have no idea. I have never even thought about having a baby. As for the feeling sad and heartbroken im also not sure of as im very happy with my life. I have an amazing job that i love and i get to spend a lot of time around my family that i love.

So can anyone help explain my dreams or why i may have had them, also just to add the girl in both dreams was the same girl, but its not a real girl who i know it was just a made up girl.

**JoannaB** · 10-06-2013 08:47 PM

The girl in your dreams does not exist, and you have not been in any relationship, so maybe it is about the idea of the "girl of your dreams" and a secret deep down longing for a relationship? Or maybe the girl in your dreams is a more feminine side of your personality that you wish you were more in tune with?

Babies in dreams often represent new projects or dreams and ideas that are not well developed yet. Have you started some sort of new project at work or in your personal life that you fear losing? Or has some hope of yours been shattered before it even took off?

I had a dream about a baby, and I interpreted it in my dream as representing my self improvement effort. But of course, your dream can mean something very different because you are not me, and very different circumstances result in very different dream interpretations.

Of course, all these ideas may be wrong, and if they do not sound right, feel free to discard them.

**Anon2342** · 10-06-2013 09:20 PM

well i think i can understand that maybe the girl in my dream is a sign i maybe stating to want a proper relationship, and that my idea of been able to continue to live without looking for love and ill just find it is wrong and if i i don't change the way i think i may lose the chance to find a girl that my be the one. im not buying the baby idea, but an idea i have come up with is i am a big family man. i love spending time with my family above anything maybe its a sign im starting to want my own family and once again as i do not have a girlfriend the chance for a family of my own may slip away. but im not sure, up until these 2 dreams i have never put any thought in to having my own family.

**Scionox** · 10-07-2013 02:07 PM

*Moved to Dream Interpretation*

**Sover** · 10-07-2013 04:44 PM

The first question is then, of you are in a relationship in real life, or if you have recently ended a relationship. Do you have a hard time with separation? You bring up a common but dysfunctional way people often deal with relationships. If we are with someone and really like to keep it that way, we try to control this outcome. The most common way is to adapt. Of course a relationship needs some adaptation, but we often start change after what we belive the other person want. Running after someone seems like trying to cling to someone. You wrote:

”Trying to get her not to leave me...” (= trying to control her). Control can be expressed in many relationsships, not just the manipulation by antisocial people. Most people try to control there partners in some way or another, which is just an expression of trying to control our own unplesant thoughts and feelings.

I just read the beginning of your dream.

But mayby I will come in and read some more later.

**Anon2342** · 10-07-2013 05:13 PM

Originally Posted by Sover

The first question is then, of you are in a relationship in real life, or if you have recently ended a relationship. Do you have a hard time with separation? You bring up a common but dysfunctional way people often deal with relationships. If we are with someone and really like to keep it that way, we try to control this outcome. The most common way is to adapt. Of course a relationship needs some adaptation, but we often start change after what we belive the other person want. Running after someone seems like trying to cling to someone. You wrote:

”Trying to get her not to leave me...” (= trying to control her). Control can be expressed in many relationsships, not just the manipulation by antisocial people. Most people try to control there partners in some way or another, which is just an expression of trying to control our own unplesant thoughts and feelings.

I just read the beginning of your dream.

But mayby I will come in and read some more later.

i hope you take the time to read the rest of it, and no im not in a relationship and no i have not just ended one.

**JoannaB** · 10-07-2013 05:17 PM

Part of me wonders whether the relationship in your dream is not actually about a "relationship" at all but whether it is metaphorical for something else. Perhaps another goal, something else that is as important in your life as a relationship would be? That is also possible.