Thread: my dreams are starting to scare me

I've had two dreams were I've had sex with minors. that is some scary kind of dream after you wake up.... I don't remember the first one but the second one was clearly bad enough to through me into shock when I woke up. that would suck if I had one more of those. the dream just had the insides of this building and me getting a bj over ad over again. please tell me there is a metaphorical reason for this because these dreams are not funny.

Even though they're unpleasant to experience in hindsight upon waking up, as long as you don't have waking desires or urges to have sex with minors, I wouldn't let the dreams concern you (in the sense of being worried about somehow being an unconscious closet pedophile or something). Dream content doesn't always have any obvious real-world impetus or even at times any real cause or meaning in and of itself. The only meaning that dreams have are the ones you interpret yourself when reflecting on them.

I'd also keep in mind that the associative brain structures either go silent or are heavily suppressed/"sedated" while dreaming. This has the effect of making the perceptual phenomena you experience much more abstract, and the associations you do make between things are much more creative. Creative here means that the "criteria" for making associations between things becomes significantly looser--the boundaries defining the meaning and that give more rigidity and overall shape/definition to concepts and your understanding of them soften and become very amorphous and open. It allows for a lot of crossover between otherwise seemingly totally unrelated things based on very specific, isolated qualities that are the same between them.

That said, this state of more creative associations that you experience while dreaming causes the imagery and experiences produced by the unconscious mind that are influenced by the past day and its worries and triumphs, etc., to appear almost entirely random and unrelated to the day or your feelings, thoughts, and concerns during it. Sometimes anxieties and worries or the actually stressors behind them will manifest in your dreams in ways that can be very terrifying or concerning, as with nightmares or having dreams about fornicating with minors.

The sex with minors is not an unconscious desire of yours, its a manifestation of some other problem of yours that is very difficult to recognize and become aware of because of how immediately concerning and unpleasant the dream experience is for you when you wake up. In other words, rather than accepting the dreams and that it's some unconscious response to some other issue in your life (some might argue its the unconscious mind trying to communicate the the presence of the issue to you, but I don't think there's actually any unconscious intent or desire to communicate the problem to your conscious self so much as the issue is already at the point of being problematic enough for you that its invading your dream experiences as a natural consequence... it just so happens to be that its manifestation in your dream is still effectively communicates its presence to you anyway), you're being distracted and preoccupied by the alarming nature of the dream content, destroying your chances of accurately identifying the real issue(s) that are behind it all

So, I say relax, and don't read into the experiences too much. Don't let them cause you any self-doubt about the kind of person you are or any desires, unconscious or otherwise, you might have. Just take them as a sign of some other issue that's very difficult for you to recognize the connection between the dream experiences and the problem itself. That's just the nature of dreams and dreaming. It takes a great deal of self-awareness, self analyzation, and conscious awareness of the your daily life experiences to be able to pin down the connections between these things most, if not all the time. It's okay if you can't identify the cause of the dream content or how it connects to anything in your waking life. As long as you know yourself and your feelings about having sex with minors, you shouldn't worry about it. Either the underlying issue will resolve itself over the course of time and the dreams will go away, or you will unwittingly resolve the issue yourself, and likewise, the dreams will go away then too.

It still worries me due to its repeating nature. To anyways that kind of helped.

Possibly you see that your feminine side - perhaps communication being oral, or feelings, or the social area, in some aspect - is not grown as it could be, and this parallels the great discomfort. Unless it can be the other who is immature.
The insides of this building can mean wanting to build it, inside you. Or that it is built.

It seems it is the repeating that worries you, and literally it sucks.
But perhaps it's some specific situation.

ty.. it has stopped.. I see that what you have said kind of makes since... I ave always wanted to be a girl... or at least a girlie tomboy. or a kunoichi{a.k.a a female ninja} since I was really young. makes since because i can't do any of that till my dad dies.