Quote Originally Posted by AstralMango View Post

Now, here's my main problem: telling my parents. My mum loves to talk about how she will eventually have grandchildren. Even though I have a brother who would suit the role of a father much better than I a mother, she just looks at me when she says it. I really want to tell her that I don't want to have kids at all, but I'm really scared that she'll get angry and not accept my choice. I feel so terrible but being a mother is not the life I want.
I can understand, telling parents these difficult things can be completely terrifying. On one hand, you want the burden to be lifted off your shoulders but on the other hand you don't want them to get angry, upset, and any other consequences. I think you should just do it, tell her. I went through a similar experience where I had to tell my dad something but I really didn't want him to get angry and upset and maybe even never speak to me again. But eventually I realized that this constant burden of stress and anxiety was far worse than those few minutes of terror in telling him. And when I did finally tell him, it was almost orgasmic (not sexual), that feeling of no longer having to worry about it anymore even though he was screaming at me and he was completely red in the face. I felt like I was walking on air, it was so wonderful to be free of the worry at last and I really want that for you. What I did to finally tell him was I gave myself 10 seconds of no fear like it was a dream and I could just turn off fear and then I would deal with whatever happened afterwards and during those 10 seconds I told him. Even though he was furious for a bit of time, the openness made us closer after awhile and it made our relationship stronger because I no longer had to keep this secret from him.