That does sound very disturbing. In addition to trying to learn lucid dreaming if you are not already lucid, and either ordering him out or asking him why he is there, etc. I would also suggest focusing your waking life thoughts as much as possible on the current moment. Are you familiar with Buddhist mindfulness practice? The idea is basically to focus on the here and now, and be aware / pay attention to what is happening now, not worrying about the past or the future. Also the idea is to change one's attitude toward the current moment, and be more positive and calm about it, letting go of negative emotions or redirecting them into more positive ones. This type of mental discipline can be practiced by anyone, one does not need to be Buddhist (I am not, but I find this useful). By focusing your waking consciousness more on the present in a more positive way, you should be able to redirect your dreams from their current negative focus on the past.
Furthermore, your past love in your dreams may not be about him at all. This may be about a part of your personality or a current issue that reminds you of him. Is there anything about you in the present that is like him or like your issues with him?
You know the fact that his sister who was your friend was brutally murdered was a traumatic event. That kind of trauma leaves emotional scars. And I would think that this may be related to your having these dreams now. Perhaps you are haunted by what happened to her, and your mind does not want to go there, so it turns to him instead?
Since the dreams restarted after you moved to your home town, if anything else fails, can you try relocating again? It could be that the place holds too many memories that also involve him. For example, maybe you pass a store during the day where you used to go shopping with him together, or stuff like that, and that could be happening often enough that your subconscious gets constant reminders of him, which translate into dreams of him at night. If you lived somewhere else, he would be less on your mind because the places would not hold memories of the part of your life you spent together.
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