Need some help lucid dreaming

[dom139]

So I had been DILDing for a few months a while back but I ended up giving up on it because in every single lucid dream I had I would wake up in my bed, and then just walk around my house with nothing to do. If I tried leaving my house the dream would quickly end. I once tried driving away from my house but I could see the world just disintegrating around me the further I went and then I woke up. I also tried flying but nothing happened I literally couldn't do anything in lucid dreams that I can't do in reality, so it kind of sucked and I gave up. But I want to get back into it again and hopefully be more successful this time around, so has anyone experienced anything similar to this, and how did you overcome it?

[Seltiez]

Thats all most what my first 10 lucid dreams were but i managed to fly in few of them. You need to stabilize your lucid dreams. I think you just became lucid at the end of your dreams thats why it ended so fast. I had this problem for a long time. You need to try other techniques so you could become lucid earlier in your dreams. I would recommend you to try wbtb then wild.

[Sensei]

What do you do in waking life? Dreams seem to be fragments of things that you have thought of the previous day. If you are always in your house in dreams, than maybe you should read some books or watch some movies that are more adventurous or science fiction-y. I normally have fighting zombies, science fiction, fantasy like dreams because I think of this type of thing and watch this type of show (mostly). Stabilization just comes with practice, but it also depends on expectation, so if you think that this will happen each time that you go out of your house (subconsciously) then it will. If you are good enough at DILD to get a few your first few months, I would recommend you stick with it. The more that you do it, the earlier in your dreams you will become lucid and the more time you will have. The dreams closer to waking time (6-8 hours in) normally seem to be the most like my actual life, so if I realize I am dreaming then, I am normally in someplace like home. I can teleport out though, so it isn't much of an issue anymore.

[PowerfulDreamer]

Heya! I would try something else. Personally, WILD is really good and I had my first MILD yesterday too. It all depends on what works for you. If a method isn't proving useful after you've been working so hard on it, maybe it's not the one? When you achieve Lucid control, you must and I can't stress this enough mussttt completely believe that you're going to see what you're about to see or achieve what you're going to do. 1) Example of low lucidity control: I was riding a horse, and even though I knew it was a dream my brain was screaming No no, I can't do this. Needless to say the horse bucked me off! 2) Example of high lucidity control: I was staring at our fridge and squinted my eyes, concentrating so hard on the back wall. I wanted to push it back, and it worked, then forked off into three tunnels. Imagination and conviction is key! Good luck

[Voldmer]

So I had been DILDing for a few months a while back but I ended up giving up on it because in every single lucid dream I had I would wake up in my bed, and then just walk around my house with nothing to do. If I tried leaving my house the dream would quickly end. I once tried driving away from my house but I could see the world just disintegrating around me the further I went and then I woke up. I agree with BrandonBoss and PowerfulDreamer; expecting (or believing) that something will happen, tends to make it happen. Your expectation seems to be that the lucid dream will fail, and so when you try something new, it subsequently fails. You therefore, in my opinion, need to set up a positive feedback loop that gradually makes you expect to be successful. I would suggest that you try making small changes to the environment - e.g. make a flower pot appear, where formerly there was none - and as you observe your own successes of this kind, you will - subconsciously - begin to expect having control over the dream. You can increase the difficulty with every success, so that the flower pot may next become a tiny elephant, and then a door to a secret room, and then a portal to another house, with which you are familiar. And then onto wormholes to other dimensions ... Success breeds confidence, and confidence breeds success. Start small, and work your way up, step by step!

[Seltiez]

I agree with BrandonBoss and PowerfulDreamer; expecting (or believing) that something will happen, tends to make it happen. Your expectation seems to be that the lucid dream will fail, and so when you try something new, it subsequently fails I think that might be your problem. I used to have same problem with controlling my dreams nothing worked except flying because i had read it was possible and never doubted it. I fixed my problem by thinking in waking life that everything is possible in lucid dreams and vizualising things that i wanted to do and when i had a lucid dream i just did it without thinking always worked. Some times if the dream control doesnt work you can say to i can do anything or convice yourself that you can do it this is a lucid dream. I just think in waking life different things to do in lucid dream and when i have i always do it. If you just go to lucid dream without exceptations its hard to realize that its only a dream and you can control everything.