Can Lucid Dreamings Aid in Dating opportunities when in real life?

**voByJunior2013** · 11-20-2014 03:31 AM

I've never had a date in my Life. I never meet any women and i'm disabled so there's no chance because I'm not an ideal Guy to any Women (I have no career, no health, not smart, not attractive, not good with words) out there.

But i wonder if I keep practiicing lucid dreaming and i finally get a lucid dream and then more and more lucid dreams and I ask my lucid dream figures or lucid dream world to help me out with the dating..ANd maybe just maybe the Universe energy will flow so that somehow, a girl that likes me appears before me.

Couldn't that happen?
Cause it's really depressing. People keep saying, that love comes to everybody..just to not look for it because when you don't look for it it comes. That's a bunch of nonsense in my opinion.
I've never been approached by anyone, not even for friendship. NOT EVEN anyone smiles at me or looks at me. NOT EVEN a "Hi"
The only Women that say "Hi" to me or smile are mature women in their 50s and 60s or 70s.

So i was wondering if Lucid dreaming can help by sending messages to the Cosmos and then the Cosmos creates an earthly connection.

**FryingMan** · 11-20-2014 12:02 PM

I think probably #1 is to transform your attitude and to start serious work on self-development. Make yourself into a person that *you* would want to spend time with. Gaining knowledge, skills, learning compassion via volunteering, taking up hobbies that interest *you*, and are not just a "way to bag a chick," are good places to start. Read, learn, use your time wisely. I'm currently pushing the book "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation In Everyday Life" as a great way to learn how to live. The author, Jon Kabat-Zinn, also wrote a book called "Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of You Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness," which probably is also a very good book for you to read (and perhaps to start with).

Oh, and mature women have: daughters, nieces, friends with daughters, granddaughters, etc. And can be quite nice to talk to and spend time with in their own right.

In short, go out and live! Don't place your happiness in a vague "dating" future, learn to live in and appreciate each present moment, because that's all that we every really have, anyway.

**Voldmer** · 11-20-2014 12:47 PM

Notwithstanding FryingMans good advice, I would suggest that lucid dreams are a place, where one can be alone with ones own mind - the physical universe being cast off to a side. Lucid dreams are - at least in my opinion - the perfect place to change one self. Much like a hypnotherapist might try to do, but with the twist that the hypnotherapist is one self.

Also, it is a great place to practice anything ...

If thought transference is possible (I'm leaning towards believing it is), then lucid dreams ought to be the best place to undertake this too. Sending messages out into the Cosmos ... well, it can't hurt to try. If it works, brilliant! If it doesn't, then at least it was a step towards realizing a desired goal, and taking another step towards that goal will become a little easier.

**ixJake** · 11-20-2014 01:42 PM

lucid dreaming aside, you need to change your attitude.

Confidence is a huge factor when attracting woman (not to be confused with being cocky)

I guess lucid dreaming could help build your confidence though

Goodluck!

**MisakaMikoto** · 11-20-2014 02:41 PM

A direct answer to the question would be 'Yes' as long as you put effort, correct approach and confidence in your Lucid Dreaming practices

**Acala** · 11-25-2014 11:06 PM

You are getting great advice here. FryingMan in particular has given you VERY good direction. As long as you feel like you NEED a relationship with a woman to be happy, you will repel them. As soon as you tap into the happiness within you such that you don't need much of anything to be happy, you will be much more attractive.