Thread: Convince my girlfriend to be my lucid partner?

I would probably try to explain to her what drew you towards lucid dreaming in the first place. The mystique and behind any lucid experience cannot ever be fully expressed by words imo, but, to get back to your question, I think you need to explain to her that this is not some voodoo science but actually a very serious art-form. The dream journal is I think very essential (at least for me), and it also a great project to maintain, if nothing else practicing lucid dreaming is like an instrument, a valuable skill. The DJ is also a great way for me to keep track of the time as it passes, like all arts, I can reflect on my DJ entries to an extent and gain insight into whta was happening in my life, at any specific date, just by turning to it's page in my notebook. So, I think you need to convey to her that lucid dreaming is a worthwhile skill to pursue, and if you convince her of that somehow (I think something of this magnitude needs to come from your girlfriend herself), then she will be eager to join you. The hardest part for people is starting something, but I bet if she maintained a dream journal for two weeks, actively recording in it each night, that she would probably enjoy the process. Just tell her to try it and see if its for her. Thats my two cents - in summary, as a community our dreams have become part of our lives more so than we would have ever thought when we started this journey. let her know that this is something she can improve on and work towards forever basically, and also, the alternative is an eight hour blackout.

Hope i didn't ramble too much.

No, you really helped me so much!

If she has had some tough times in the past, her fear of those somehow being conjured up in her dreams is quite understandable.
For those of us who have had an easy time in childhood, it's quite difficult to understand what it means to have the fear of those demons being awoken.

Much as you like the romantic notion of a shared experience, you might have to accept that this is one she is not going to do with you.

I would only advise that you give her space and time. If you are going to talk about your own experiences in lucid dreaming, do so very carefully and gently, respecting her fears, and maybe she will start to come round and realise that actually the control she will get from lucid dreaming is the best way to slay those demons.

One of the difficult dilemmas is that in order to get to lucid dreaming, it's usually necessary to get good non-lucid dream recall, and then it is possible she will have bad non-lucids which could well confirm what she already believes.
However, it is also possible that she won't have nightmares as her recall improves, so it is worth her taking the first few steps into dream recall to see what happens.
It is the nature of dreams that affirmation plays a big part, so if she is in a loving stable environment now, it is quite likely that she will have good dreams.
You can probably see that the balance between her fear of the past and trust in the present is a fine one. If she truly believes that she will have bad recall of the past then it could well happen. If she believes that is all in the past, then she won't.
You are playing a dangerous game if you try to "persuade" her, even subconsciously. You may get very excited about some of your experiences, and it is only natural that you will want to share them with her, but you risk becoming a "dream bore".

Difficult!

I followed the advice of livingthedream and she agreed to have a DJ for 2 weeks, if she likes it she will continue, else she will drop it. I think it is a bit of progress!