I can relate to this too. Especially when I am DEILDing, which is my main lucid dreaming method. When I try too hard to reenter a dream, I'll overthink things and become too aware.

When I simply trust myself that I'll DEILD without thinking about it, I have a successful DEILD.

I think a lot of it comes down to trusting myself. Trusting that I've done the right preparation to have a lucid.

It's kind of like planting a seed. If I over-water it, it won't grow, but if I give it the right conditions to grow and then just let it do it's own planty thing, I'll get a plant! Lucid dreaming is the same in my opinion.