Reality checks aren't really what make people lucid--it's the awareness that they provide, and in other cases we can use them for stability. I think only a couple of lucid dreams I've had actually spawned from RCs. You can read this article about them here--there's a short section if you scroll down called "The truth behind 'I never RC in my dream and yet I get lucid. So RCs are not needed,'" which touches on what you're talking about! ^_^
Anyway, you don't need to start with fun activities if you don't want to! I said the Venus bit as an example (well, traveling to Venus is one of the things I want to get around to doing, don't get me wrong); my true intention is to talk to the man I love's dream version and ask that DC how I might cope with what all is going on. Other things I want to do are: ask the dream how to be a better me, go on a date [this is not for fun like it sounds, but to help soothe anxiety], ask the dream for ways to calm down when I get worked up, and go to a garden so that I can meet up with some kind of "higher power," to see what kind of wisdom can be passed on.
A lot of this is dependent on your imagination, so maybe try to step away from what other people are doing, and just focus on yourself. Though, another tip is simply to ask the dream to do everything for you. In which case, even if things don't come out exactly as you would have pictured it otherwise, the dream will show you what it wants to show you--and also what you need to see, even if you didn't or don't realize it at the time.
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