Thread: Being shy in dreams

Nonlucid, probably.

Lucid, if you realize there's no reason to be shy then you can be more assertive. You'd probably still be a little nervous, though.

Originally Posted by Wolf_Demon15

I'm a very shy person. I don't talk to anyone unless spoken to for the exception of my parents, brothers, sisters, and some family members. If I'm this shy in the real world, would I be just as shy in my dreams?

Hi, yes and no. It depends on the dream plot...I am also a very shy person in real life but I have been an extrovert and talked to people in dreams...with no trace of being shy most of the time.

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I think you will find yourself to be much more assertive in dreams. It may even help you to be more out-going in real life, too. I often do things that are out of character in dreams.

Yea maybe dreams can help you become less shy. Really force yourself to talk to people in dreams. I'm not at all a shy person but when I first started lucid dreaming I would still talk to people as if it was real life, but after awhile you just levitate DC's around like ragdolls ;p

I'm a bit shy as well. I used to extremely shy when I was younger. I'd be too scared to go to the counter in a store, or call and order a pizza or whatever. I'm well and truly over that now though. Now I'm like the guy who doesn't speak that much in conversations unless I have something I really want to say or its a topic I'm really invested in. Except for with really close friends where I open up more.

In my regular dreams it differs. Sometime I'm shy, other times I'm very bold. Occasionally I even lash out and attack people or do weird stuff like that.
In lucid dreams I'm completely brazen. I say to myself that nothing I do can possibly have any consequences, then I just go nuts. Occasionally I do weird trivial stuff like knocking things over and annoying DCs, even taunting them, just because I know I can and will get away with it.

Originally Posted by Hiros

Now I'm like the guy who doesn't speak that much in conversations unless I have something I really want to say or its a topic I'm really invested in. Except for with really close friends where I open up more.

Same here, but mostly because i don't know what to say in response to the other persons answer, or conversation. Online, that's a different story, it just too EASY to know what to say to people (good things or bad).

Dreams could be a good way to get over your shyness....

Originally Posted by Barns

Dreams could be a good way to get over your shyness....

i believe that too. In fact, that's one major reason why I practise Lucid dreaming.

I've been shy all my life. And as I grew older it developed into social phobia. So yeah. In my normal dreams social encounters make me uncomfortable just like in real life. But in my Lucid Dreams I don't feel that fear or social pressure at all. I'm hoping that by subjecting myself to social encounters in my lucid dreams it will help me overcome my fear in waking life.

A part of being shy is - always thinking about consequences of your actions. My personal opinion that this type of behavior totally disappears in dreams, and defiantly is not present in lucid dreams. So i think no, doesn't mater how shy you are, in dreams you feel total freedom from your social problems.

I'm on the borderline between introvert and extrovert. I hardly speak in public, as well. However, by some odd twist of mind, my dreams, whether lucid or not, are filled with dream characters with which I tend to interact.

It may affect your first few lucids, just because you may not truly get the full gist of "they aren't real people." The extent your shyness will recede depends on how much you want it to recede, of course.