 Originally Posted by BossMan
Sigh another failure tonight! Bah! I had a big meeting in the morning though and I was honestly a bit worried about missing it because of an LD. No problem though, I can try again tonight and the day after is a weekend so I can sleep in!!! 
Yeah, man, no worries on that! There are just going to be nights where you know you need to get up early, you go to bed too tired, or just can't face doing a WBTB. It would have been challenging for you to properly focus on your LD attempt because of the meeting. And you want to be well-rested for those days where you've got the big meeting, the big presentation, the incredibly challenging technical problem to solve, etc.
So it sounds to me like you did it right! An important part of LD practice is to keep yourself rested and healthy so that you avoid danger of burning out. In fact, I had to wake up early this morning and I purposely blew off doing a WBTB last night. Saving my energy for tonight! 
 Originally Posted by BossMan
I want to have a minimum of 1 LD a week though! CanisLucidus, how do you keep reality checks from becoming a mindless habit and how often do you perform them?
I am sure you will get there! LDs can kind of ebb and flow, so don't stress too much if you have some peaks and valleys in your frequency. I had a >2 month gap between my 1st and 2nd LDs so you are already doing way better than I was when I started out!
Good question on the reality checks. My relationship with them has really changed over time, and I actually perform physical reality checks fairly infrequently. I perform mental reality checks pretty much any time that I either find myself getting swept up in the current of the day's events or if it has simply been a while since I mentally proved to myself that I wasn't dreaming.
I usually do physical checks when I see something that makes me feel unusually weird. Like seeing a person behaving strangely, misidentifying some object, or just generally feeling creeped out. Physical checks are very useful, but for me they play a back-up role to my mental reality checks.
Essentially, I have formed the habit of frequently getting that, "Oh crap, I'm supposed to be sure I'm not dreaming!" feeling. I compare it to that feeling you get whenever you are late for an important meeting or forgot to pick up something at the store. I have programmed myself to feel a very, very slight sense of urgency periodically throughout the day. When I am in the "more-aware" phases of sleep (such as late-stage REM), this sense of urgency will come to me in a dream. That almost always yields a DILD or a lucid fragment.
Just estimating, these "mental checks" probably occur to me 4-8 times per hour. They are fast (3-5 seconds), intense, and entirely internal to my brain. The physical checks aren't too frequent for me these days, but that's just how I personally do things these days. As long as you do them mindfully, RCs are great.
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