the boy in my dreams

**stillsleeping** · 02-05-2011 03:26 PM

i'll give you a bit of background on my situation first. i'm a 15 year old freshman in high school. and although i don't believe teenagers can fall in love, i have strong feelings for another 15 year old, but a sophomore (we'll say alex). the first time i saw him was two years ago, and i just couldn't stop looking at him. i'd call it a crush, but me, being socially awkward and quiet thought i'd never talk to him, so i abandoned it. well. this year, in september, we were formally introduced. and there was a spark there. we both acknowledged it, we've talked about it, and for two months, i was very very happy with him. we didn't date although we both liked eachother. this was because of another girl. we'll call her kate. he'd liked her for two years. since i first saw him, which i thought was wierd. well, kate, is a bitch to me. she found out i liked him, told me to go for him, and then made out with him. there have been several other cases of her manipulating me, and i hate it. they started dating december 03, and he's convinced they'll be together forever.

the most recent dream i had, i'm having trouble with. i was sitting at a round table that sits eight, eating with my friends, and him, seeing as she was on vacation (which she actually is right now.) my friend "cal" came over to sit down, so i had to move closer to alex to make room. i was looking across the table (which was exactly like the table i used to sit at in middle school. we were all sitting in the same order that we did too) and he, sitting on my right side, reached over and started rubbing my back. his hand was on my left shoulder blade, and he was rubbing in a small circular motion. soon after that, there was something involving a gated pool, and although i remember i didn't go in the water, i forget what the significant was, as after the pool, the dream went black.

i'm having a lot of trouble with the symbolism of the dream, i have really cryptic dreams about him as it is. if anyone knows how to help, that would be great. thank you

~averie

**Shadow27** · 02-05-2011 03:55 PM

Just look at your own feelings, your brain doesn't know anything you don't.
You're probably feeling envious or hurt in some manner, which is natural.
Things like this kinda suck

. Well I wish you good luck with the whole
situation. Its always sad to see this stuff, as I'm going through something
quite similar myself.

Good luck,
~Wes

**NoctemConArtist** · 02-05-2011 05:06 PM

Sounds like a sexual fantasy to me. Believe me, I've been through what you've been through. 15 and 16 years old, dreamt nightly (or should I say afternoonly?) about my two intense crushes over two years. It's a shame I didn't start a dream journal then, because those dreams were trippy as hell. I wanted each of those guys incredibly. And here's my verdict: you just want him, is all. There's nothing bad about it. Our brains just love to fuck with us. And as long as the crush keeps going on, you'll keep dreaming about him.

Now as I've said, I've been through what you've been through, and I know it's tough. I should probably let you experience it for yourself. You never know until you've tried. It hurts, and I'll preview for you: it won't a while after you've given up, that is, if you do. It sounds impossible - I know, when someone told me to give up I didn't think it would be possible - but it IS. Just recognize that for this whole time, this guy has been stringing you along. He's not what you saw in your lovesick haze. If he's dating that bitch, then he obviously was never worth your time.

My recent ex-crush started dating someone around the same time, and they're still together. I'm not hurt, though, because I've given up and recognized that he really wasn't worth my time. What I do know, and pride myself on knowing, however, is that they won't last forever. Few teenage relationships last. Especially if he's dating a sleazy easy whore, who my ex-crush is dating, and yours too apparently. Maybe all this I'm saying will mean nothing to you at this point, but it will eventually.

But here's my advice. If you're still in love with the dude, go with the flow. You can't stop it, don't force yourself to. Take advantage of lucid dreaming. (Btw, welcome to the forum!) Learn how, then use your dreams to do the impossible with him.

Good luck!

**Shadow27** · 02-05-2011 05:12 PM

Hehe, Noctem said it better than I ever could have

But yeah he will keep manifesting in your dreams, most likely very often. If you
look at my dream journal, you will see that nearly every dream either involves
my crush or has some reference to her. I am almost 19 and have liked her for
about 2 and a half years. It really does suck. The only thing I can do is as Noctem
said, "take advantage of lucid dreaming". it's a beautiful thing.

**stillsleeping** · 02-05-2011 09:47 PM

shadow- thank you, it's good to know i'm not the only one going through crappy stuff, although i wouldn't wish it on anyone else. he does appear in my dreams quite a bit in one form or another. i wish you luck with your situation. that's also rough. it doesn't make it better that the boy i liked before him, i'd liked for almost two years. he didnt help

noctem- that seems to make sense. most of my dreams involve just being with him, not being all over him. i've been able to make sense of the fact that he isnt who i thought he is, believe me. the thing that hurts about it is i trusted him, and he just disappeared. but he was still there. i'll try to get over it, but i''m still at the point that everything i see and hear (including a good 70 songs on my ipod) remind me of him. i intend to take advantage of lucid dreaming haha, but like you said going with the flow is gonna be the current course of action. and thanks! same to you

**Shadow27** · 02-05-2011 09:50 PM

Originally Posted by stillsleeping

shadow- thank you, it's good to know i'm not the only one going through crappy stuff, although i wouldn't wish it on anyone else. he does appear in my dreams quite a bit in one form or another. i wish you luck with your situation. that's also rough. it doesn't make it better that the boy i liked before him, i'd liked for almost two years. he didnt help

I liked my previous crush for about 6 years so yeah I tend to hold on to things like that a little too much...