hi all, im new to lucid dreaming (and writing on forums as well for that matter) and need some tips from experienced lucid dreamers.
i have had unintentional lucid dreams and sleep paralysis in the past but i started trying to become lucid 4 days ago and so far i have had a WILD each day even though i don't do reality checks or write a dream journal.
So my problem isn't becoming lucid it's that i lose lucidity after a few seconds, i can't control anything in my dreams and also my subconscious mind seems to be trolling me.

so far my lucid dreams have been like this...

day 1 - i become lucid and then go looking for sex, then i lose all my motor skills collapse on a bed then wake up.

day 2 - i become lucid then start jumping up and down trying to fly which doesn't work, then i start searching for a female dream character, i finally find one and ask if she wants to have sex and she agrees and then after taking all her clothes off i wake up.

day 3 - i become lucid and then find a wand and try to summon up the female i want to have sex with but instead summon some fat hairy bloke that is dressed as her, i then try again and manage to summon her up and then wake up.

day 4 - i become lucid and it is dark so i try to turn on the lights with the light switch but nothing happens, so i then start shouting for it to work but the lights that i didn't want to turn on go on instead. my subconscious then creates a second light switch for the lights i wanted turning on making out as though i was an idiot, then i try to go outside but the door wont open until in the end i shout at it to open. then after finally being able to go outside i wake up.

cheers

ps i have tried spinning and rubbing my hands but it doesn't seem to work