Thread: How Do You Get A Girl To Like You?

Originally Posted by Kaniaz

She either likes you or she doesn't. I don't think you can force anything.
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Force? No. Influence? Yes. Definitely.

hey Amythyst Star.

you have to understand that sex drive is a lot different for guys. when a guy see's another attractive woman anywhere. within 3 seconds he's thinking (damn i'd like to have my way with her for a night). he's not thinking about "gee that's the woman i wanna spend the rest of my life with".

about how everyone is different. yes, everyobody is different. yet, there are common traits that you can incorporate into your personality that will be percieved as attractive. eg. if you slouch, you are percieved as low self esteem, however if the person learns to adjust thier posture, they will notice more often that people will tend to like them more.


Or about the googily eyed guy. he steals glances at girls because he is too afraid to approach or even say hi.
very rarely will a woman go "awww he's shy!". they might think he's a wierdo or a creep. when 90% he's just shy and doesn't know how to communicate. I've known some women to not think of this type as a creep.

and i have to dissagree again on the statement. "maybe people aren't made to have love lives" BS. unless they have downsyndrome, or a deformed whatever. because as i said earlier. "everyone on this earth was biologically chosen over other potential but inferior mates determined by their parents attraction". the reason why some guys aren't happy in thier love life isn't because of some mystical Karma. It's because somewhere down the line they volintarily or involuntarily were CONDITIONED to be this way. sometimes it's because of lack of male influence in their lives.

what's every single mother tell her little boys about women. "be a nice guy, take her to dinner, buy her flowers" which of course is VALID in a longterm relationship. But it's NOT valid if the people are meeting for the first time. I'm not saying you should be a jerk. but balance being nice with being confident. i mean don't take shit sometimes. BE A MAN! but also at the right time show your sensitive side.

sitting around wondering if "she" likes "me ". is not being a man. Going for what you want is being a man.
i wouldn't even think of buying a girl flowers. unless i've already gotten along with her really well and it's obvious a good relationship will come out of it.

Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills. You know, like nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, computer hacking skills...

Good. A bit of what you said there cleared some stuff up.

If you're talking changing yourself physically to become more attractive, then there's nothing wrong with it (as long as you don't take it overboard). I'm refering more to changes in personaity. With your example about the "shy guy," it's not a personality change if he decides to step up and ask a girl out. That's called taking initiative. It's when guys start wearing t-shirts that say "God's gift to women" that I really start to wonder as to how foolish some men (and some women are guilty of it, too) are to think that the opposite sex would fall for that. Now, if someone did, well... I'd hope that his personality didn't emulate his fashion.

It may be true that some guys think "hot girl = sex," but that's not true for every guy, or at least they don't allow that thought to prevail when developing a relationship. I have a very conservative view of sex, in that while it's not a bad thing by any stretch of the imagination, it should be kept within the parameters of marriage. You may disagree with me on that, and I don't mean to be abrupt, but if that's the deciding factor then there really isn't much else to talk about.

I also just want to say that you misquoted me in your last post, so I want to clarify briefly. I said that I believed that not everyone is necessarily meant to have a marriage or life-long relationship. I don't believe that anyone is meant to be alone, however. That just means that some day I may come to the realization that there isn't someone I would see myself with x-many years in the future. But I have great guy and girl friends and I don't think that that's ever going to change.

Mainly what I'm trying to say is that if you're a shy-guy, don't try to get a girl by actin' the playa'.

Originally Posted by DuB

Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills. You know, like nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, computer hacking skills...

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Dammit. I should've said that!

First off.

NEVER EVER EVER ask a women out. EVER. it KILLS any chance. Believe me I've taken the initiative and asked girls out. EVERY SINGLE TIME i was rejected. ok. and the times i did have girl friends, it was something that happened SPONTANEOUSLY. it may be cute in junior high, but in adulthood it's a serious mistake.

when i think about it. there's a very good reason: it kills sexual tension or romantic tension! it lets the cat out of the bag, RUINS the mystery and Anticipation. I don't go out on DATES with women i "Get together" with them.
you see going on a date requires me to behave a certain way. which isn't congruent with who i am at all. BUT when i get together and just hang out as friends, anything romantic that happens is natural and not stressed.

remember what i said about Cat-String theory. Asking a woman out is dropping the string and the cat loses interest.

to REALLY take initiative of your love life. go out and APPROACH. you don't have to use lines. for me i just started out saying HI to random people on the street. when i found out most reactions to this were good. i felt good. I even went to a mall one day and approach 10 women that i thought were attractive. all i said was "Hi, i'm trying to overcome shyness and it's my goal today to approach a few women. i want your opinion on something? i got to go to a party and i wanna look half descent can you give me tips on what kind of clothes people will find attractive." And you wouldn't believe how nice they were too me. after that. i could act a little more crazy and get away with it. and my goal is never to get a phone number, or to get laid, or start a relationship. my only goal is to have fun, and to make sure it's fun for them.

now i was the typical shy guy. in fact i was dangerously shy. i had a HUGE crush on a girl in JH and i barely ever talked to her. i SHOOK in her prescence. My biggest regret is that i moved far away from her town and i never once talked to her. in fact my staring probly creeped her out. i never wanted to let an opportunity like that slip by again. So i made a decision to work on my self and on my social skills. so that if she walks by me again at least i'll have the balls to say something.

I Highly reccomend for guys like me. to just go out and approach. it's literally the best thing you can do for yourself. not only will you build confidence. but you'll build a personality that EVERYONE, not just women, will want to be around.

Oh and BTW: I'm not god's gift to women. Women are god's gift to ME!

"The only way to bag a classy lady like veronica corningstone is give her two tickets to the gunshow and see if she likes the goods"-Ron Burgandy

dude and if that doesn't work tell her you have a pet monkey back at your house and when she gets there and doesn't see a monkey be all like "im the only animal here"

i know it sounds crazy but i swear it worked when me and this girl were both drunk.. oh yeah get drunk first

I'm a bit more of a traditionalist in that I'll wait for the guy to ask me out. (However, I have been seriously thinking about dropping hints with one guy.... but that's beside the point ) Anyway, just thought I'd say that some women will wait for the guy to make the first move, so if some of you guys are waiting for her, you may be waiting for a while....

And ranma, that really is a great story. It's good to see that guys will take the time to improve themselves (without necessarily trying to turn into someone else).

Originally Posted by ranma187

Oh and BTW: I'm not god's gift to women. Women are god's gift to ME!
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He he

So ranma, how old are you again?

Doesn't this thread just fill you with self esteem?

Originally Posted by ;305207

ok. the very biggest mistake of all is to "be yourself". be realistic, are you really all that impressive? intellegent? interesting?. no of course not...that's why you have to ask for advice and why she's not into you already. dont ever be yourself...ever...never ever. (you can do that when you are completely alone or something.)

so you have to do something much better than being yourself. you've gotta fake it. lie. be as deceitful as possible. find out what she wants to hear and see and do it. And if she figures out the lies there is any easy solution for that too...jsut lie more...lies are meant to cover other lies...thats why they were invented man...
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Originally Posted by ;305207

I think he has a really good point. I haven't been myself in public since I was four years old when I first started school. If you are truely being yourself then you're not being the best person you can be. You can always make yourself more interesting and popular by making "being yourself" the last thing on your list of priorities. It's true and most of you know it but won't accept it. People who "are themselves" are uaually weird and lonely.
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Hahahaha!

This is definitely a candidate for the best thread ever.

Some small advice: be confident and be charismatic.
no one really takes notice of the quiet guy sitting in the corner. most girls like that.

Girls just like it when you surprise them. For instance, surprise them with sex.

The girl however, might experience it as rape.

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Basically, I have no idea how girls work : /

Originally Posted by Neruo

Girls just like it when you surprise them. For instance, surprise them with sex.

The girl however, might experience it as rape.

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Basically, I have no idea how girls work : /
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Well we do like surprises. But yes, being surprpised with sex is usually considered as being raped.

Dont come off as "all that" and dont come off as "super shy guy"... be talkative, but dont be obnoxious. Be mysterious but be alluring too. Tell her you like her ... drawing of that thing she did in art class, or ask her for the homework assignment you missed. Make her notice you by the small things first, then mabey she'll bring you up to her friends and say "that --- guy is really cool." and she'll think of you once in awhile, thensoon you can have conversations!! idk you posted this thread awhile ago, so mabey you already have you.. luck to you

~R~

If all else fails.
SUPRISE BUTTSEX!

OK...so we all realize that surprise anal sex and things like GHB work and can make for a beautiful relationship...but Only in the Short Term!

You need to be a little more tactful if you want to make it last…(regular sex)
First...use Facebook, this is key.
Now assuming you are using Facebook like it was meant to be used (aka you are in college or university...and so is the "Target Girl"...) Look up her class scheduling...infact create a chart+map that represents where she is and at what times (you may also wish to represent this "Intel" with a graph)
Since you already know everything that is important about her (she's hot&#33 You just have to figure out all the boring shit..consult Facebook...Study her profile...learn it all...memorize her favourite things...movies...books...all that shit. Once you have figured this out you have to sort of hangout around the areas she will be...and at the right times (check said chart+map) Make sure you have bought the clothing you think she will like (fuck what you actually wear)...make sure you are carrying some sort of Starbucks coffee,. or a book like Atonement...cause you should already know its her favourite...
somehow catch her attention...and start a conversation...talk about things she likes..and lie about having the same interests! For example: "hey have you ever heard the CD Here Comes The Indian?" Yah I love it too!" or "hey is that book your holding written by Atwood? don't you just love the ironic subtleties??" (you already know she does...)
the last thing you need to do. and this takes time. is slowly update your Facebook profile to make sure that it fits with hers...just change 1 thing every few days to eventually have all the same interests as hers. You are now well on your way to success...the “cat” is in the bag!


Now I know what you’re all thinking…”yah but.. ~~0///?\~d~~shark!, how come I can't just use Ketamine to put her in a temporary coma? Its soo much easier!”
And I agree...it is so much easier...but there really wouldn't be any class in it, would there? Thats what makes this scheme so much better!

Originally Posted by Gez

If all else fails.
SUPRISE BUTTSEX!
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And if that doesn't work...
GO GO GADGET CHLOROFORM!

Why don't you just not be ugly and workout loads. If you are ugly then you should workout harder to make up for it. Then just talk to her. That should do it.

If you want a girl to like you, slap her on the butt. Girls like that.

Originally Posted by Neruo

Girls just like it when you surprise them. For instance, surprise them with sex.

The girl however, might experience it as rape.

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Basically, I have no idea how girls work : /
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Haha, that's also a good way

LOL @ Neuro.

Yes. Rape is the way to a girl's heart.
Great advice guys.

oh yah and a good place to pick up girls is in a laundrymat...chics love cleaning.

Ask her "does this cloth smell like choroform to you?"
the rest is up to you.

funny and cocky

google double your dating

I don't agree that people being honest and nice are the ones who will always end up failing. Shyness isn't that bad, it just lowers your chances of getting someone to notice you. (I'm shy myself, but I'm working on it.) Of course being confident is a good thing. Why expect someone else to like you, if you don't even like yourself?

Why don't you just not be ugly and workout loads. If you are ugly then you should workout harder to make up for it. Then just talk to her. That should do it.[/b]

Yeah, working out is always good. It's healthy. And people tend to like healthy people.

It's good to show your good sides more often than your bad sides. Also, imitating the girl more or less is something good too. It creates a bond. With imitating I don't mean picking the same interests (however, it certainly won't hurt to have the same interests ). However, when she tends to laugh a lot, laugh along with her. When she smiles, smile with her. When you're drinking something with a girl, try to imitate the things she does a little, just like her. I don't really know why this works. I guess it feels more natural when you're overlapping each other on things. You shouldn't put too much effort in this, though. If you overdo this, it will feel more unnatural than natural. That's what I think...

But lying and all, that's just not neat. There are too many liars in this world already. We don't need more. It's just like somebody else already said: "When you pretend to be someone else, and you get a girl to like you, then she isn't really liking ~you~."