Relationships

[*Dark*]

This is just to see how many people think what I think.

[Seeker]

I've been in a serious relationship for 25 years now. Nothing to be afriad of, that is unless your significant other catches you having lucid sex with a dream character

[Moonbeam]

I've been in a serious relationship for 25 years now. Nothing to be afriad of, that is unless your significant other catches you having lucid sex with a dream character [/b] I;m telling you, you won't get caught!

[Howie]

Hi dark. I have been married for two years. But even prior to that I was not afraid to get serious if the person I was with, I could take serious. There were times I was afraid to get serious and it turned out for good reason. So I am not sure if you are currently involved and afraid or just afraid. But my advice... (not that you asked ) would be to trust your own judgement and reasoning. If you analyze the situation and it does not seem that there is really any good reason to be afraid, yet you are, it may be something you need to work on. Does that make any sense?

[FreshBrains]

Ugh, here we go again... I'm not terrified of it, but.... LEASE, DON'T BUY!

[OmnipotentTitan]

are you scared of being hurt ? if you cant feel pain in life then you arent living :yumdumdoodledum:

[FreshBrains]

Uh, no. I'm not scared of a serious relationship, not that I have anything to base it on... I'm 14, I don't think I'm gonna jump into an engagement anytime soon.

[OmnipotentTitan]

Uh, no. I'm not scared of a serious relationship, not that I have anything to base it on... I'm 14, I don't think I'm gonna jump into an engagement anytime soon. [/b] a serious relationship can just be a relationship you take serious n dont mess around and you stay together long at that age

[Seeker]

I'm 14, I don't think I'm gonna jump into an engagement anytime soon. [/b] You guys are going to have to quit lying about your age when you register!!!!!!!

[FreshBrains]

Well, that's what I'm aiming for anyway. I doubt polygamy works well in real life.

[Gwendolyn]

Relationships are beautiful, and and that includes serious ones. I've been in a serious relationship for almost two years, and though this isn't a significant amount of time in the scheme of things, they have been some of the best years of my life.

[King and God]

If I could find some girl I'd enjoy spending time with, then a serious relationship would be fine. But I can't think of any girl I'd like to spend time with.

[jacobo]

i'm scared of being hurt, but i'm not scared of commiting. no regrets.

[*Dark*]

i'm scared of being hurt, but i'm not scared of commiting. no regrets. [/b] That's what I think too! I'm scared of being hurt again.

[Tsen]

Not in the slightest. My problem's been that I haven't been in a truly deep relationship at all up to this point. I mean, I'm only 18 so it's not a big deal, but finding somebody I could really be serious with would be refreshing.

[Keeper]

I like the idea of a relationship with someone, and if you are hurt in that relationship you will just learn to be a bit more reserved with your affections

[Howie]

I like the idea of a relationship with someone, and if you are hurt in that relationship you will just learn to be a bit more reserved with your affections[/b] That is a crappy way to look at it. Sure, learn form your mistakes and what others have done to you or perhaps things you have done wrong. But by no means should someone you fall in love with get the short end of the stick because of your past experiences. Why should they get a reserved set of affections?

[Burns]

I was cheated on and had my heart broken by the guy I was with before my husband. I thought I'd never trust a guy again - it was always in the back of my mind that I was being hoodwinked and cheated on behind my back, causing me to become crazy paranoid. But I had to rationalize that not every guy is going to cheat and there are some good, honest ones out there too. I had to let go and trust myself to open my heart to someone who I am confident would never hurt me like that. It was very difficult to let go of those past wounds, but dwelling on it will only cause more pain in the long run.

[*Dark*]

I was cheated on and had my heart broken by the guy I was with before my husband. I thought I'd never trust a guy again - it was always in the back of my mind that I was being hoodwinked and cheated on behind my back, causing me to become crazy paranoid. But I had to rationalize that not every guy is going to cheat and there are some good, honest ones out there too. I had to let go and trust myself to open my heart to someone who I am confident would never hurt me like that. It was very difficult to let go of those past wounds, but dwelling on it will only cause more pain in the long run. [/b] I know I'm paranoid right now and the sad thing is I have a baby with him and it makes it harder for me to want to be with anybody else cause I don't want anybody else to be the father of my baby but I have to let go Im too hurt and Im scare I wont find anybody that would treat me right.

[Gabi]

If you don't risk, you can't win. Wounds heal. But try to know who is the other person so you don't realize later it is a mask. Even the best person can make mistakes and who look bad could be the best person. Sometimes it's hard, but it's worth.

[Keeper]

perhaps I didn't say what I ment properly It is good to be rezerved with your feelings until someone can pull that barrier down. This doesn't have to do with romantic relationships, but when I was younger I was given a very hard time by people. you see, my mind works differently from most other people. maby not good, maby not bad, but it still is different. I was mocked, ridiculed, and in the end I formed a barrier between me and everyone else. That barrier is one of many masks I ware, and it takes the form of over politness, sarcassim and humour. I keep it up until I am sure som oen wont hurt me, and then I let them see the real me

[TweaK]

I know I'm paranoid right now and the sad thing is I have a baby with him and it makes it harder for me to want to be with anybody else cause I don't want anybody else to be the father of my baby but I have to let go Im too hurt and Im scare I wont find anybody that would treat me right. [/b] You're 18 and have a baby? ..Wow.

[jacobo]

You're 18 and have a baby? ..Wow. [/b] not all that "wow"

[LucidTortoise]

As a 16 year old male who has never been in a relationship, I am somewhat hesitant to ever allow myself to be in one. This is something I have always felt, and never fully understand. I love women, but I rarely show it if it's not in some vulgar way, like one would find in conversations that are peppered throughout the campus of an all boys school. The problem with me, I have come to believe, is that I am terrified of raising a child. Some people would argue that at my age, I should not even be thinking about that, and that sex is not necessary in a relationship, and a moot point if you are safe. Yet, I cannot see myself as a father, and no way do I want to be responsible for the creation and raising of a human being. Still, a relationship, to be with someone I can trust and love, to be intimate... is something I long for. Yet, I resist. In pertinence to the poll questions, it's not that I am afraid of getting hurt, I am simply afraid of hurting others.

[Moonbeam]

and no way do I want to be responsible for the creation and raising of a human being. [/b] You and me both. Luckily this is not inevitable if one is careful. Everyone is so serious. Easy come, easy go. Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed. It takes at least a year to even begin to get to know someone, so don't make any irreversible (or hard to reverse) decisions before that. If there still around three years later, maybe there's hope for a long-term thing. Or not. Sometimes a particular person is what you need at some stage in your life, but things change and you move on. Do what is right at the time. If I believed in marriage I'd be divorced about four or five times, but I have spared myself the time and expense by not promising anything to our legal system that I might change my mind about later. That part of the law is like a vampire, it can't affect you if you don't ask it to step in. (except in certain common law situations). However, you may find someone that you actually think might be around when you are old, so don't rule out the possibility. Be flexible and try to give a little more than you take. If they do the same, everyone is even.