Thread: tell me what annoys you

People that arent dead piss me off.

In other words, people.

Originally Posted by Xox

People that arent dead piss me off.

In other words, people.

You rebel without a cause, you.


You play by nobodies rules but your own!

Lets see, recently a few people within my "extended circle of friends" (i.e. not my friends but people somehow associated with them) have helped me realize some of the things I really hate.

And here they are in no particular order:

1. Gossip
2. Jealousy
3. Facades


and anything that would fall under the category "dumbass high school drama". You’re fucking adults, act like it you shits!! (not you guys)





ahhhh

Big population
Religions (especially when beeing war because people thing of different things, what to eat, clothes .....)
Crappy enviroment
People think that they are best at everything
selfish people
peeping sound in my room
failing LD for a long time XD
My sister

Haaaaa!!! High school kids are NOT adults. Hell, college (i.e. university for you Brits) ones aren't either.

Our generation doesn't reach adulthood until 30. That annoys me, I suppose.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Haaaaa!!! High school kids are NOT adults. Hell, college (i.e. university for you Brits) ones aren't either.

Our generation doesn't reach adulthood until 30. That annoys me, I suppose.

The sad thing is that none of us are actually in high school anymore (havent been for 3 years)...which is why "high school" drama is unnacceptable. Do women ever grow out of that phase Mes? Sometimes I think its just the way womens brains might be hardwired, to be jealous, to be gossipy, to be insecure... I see full grown people in their 40's acting the same way 16 year old girls used to act in high school.

And what sucks the ost is that these people I am talking about are pretty integrated into my circle of freinds, meaning its almost impossible to simply avoid them, nor is it an option to confront them and give them a piece of my mind. And now I'm afraid that they are starting to spread their posion to my friends (untrue accusations, skewed perspectives, half-truths).

What should I do? Please give me some good advice. Sometimes I wish I were female just so I could beat their ass and leave it at that. Fucking inter-relationship politics. They've got a smear campaign going on

Hate
Intolerance
War
Closed minds
unwillingness to forgive
Thieves
violence
evangelist of all sorts

Originally Posted by ethen

The sad thing is that none of us are actually in high school anymore (havent been for 3 years)...which is why "high school" drama is unnacceptable. Do women ever grow out of that phase Mes? Sometimes I think its just the way womens brains might be hardwired, to be jealous, to be gossipy, to be insecure... I see full grown people in their 40's acting the same way 16 year old girls used to act in high school.

And what sucks the ost is that these people I am talking about are pretty integrated into my circle of freinds, meaning its almost impossible to simply avoid them, nor is it an option to confront them and give them a piece of my mind. And now I'm afraid that they are starting to spread their posion to my friends (untrue accusations, skewed perspectives, half-truths).

What should I do? Please give me some good advice. Sometimes I wish I were female just so I could beat their ass and leave it at that. Fucking inter-relationship politics. They've got a smear campaign going on

Have you tried just ignoring what they say entirely? Obviously these people are below you, so you should feel like they are not worth getting worked up about. Do they spread lies about you?

Some women grow out of this, others don't, and yet others were never a part of this type of thing to begin with. Meh, you just gotta choose your friends wisely.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Have you tried just ignoring what they say entirely? Obviously these people are below you, so you should feel like they are not worth getting worked up about. Do they spread lies about you?

I have tried ignoring it, but that’s hard to do when your friends come to you asking about the crap these other people are gossiping about. I know I shouldn't care, but I have this horrible feeling that my friends are actually starting to look at me in a different way based on this nonsense. And that’s what’s really hard to ignore. I could care less about what the other people think, but my friend's opinions do matter to me.

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Meh, you just gotta choose your friends wisely.

See that’s the thing, it's not my friends doing this. These people are friends of my friends, with little or no direct connection to me. Let me try to break it down for you:

It all started back in high school. This girl (we'll call her "A") had a thing for me. "A" was best friends with "B", who also had a thing for me (already a recipe for disaster, I know). I was best friends with B's brother, we'll call him "C". Just to recap, I was best friends with C, and his little sister and her friend had a thing for me.

Ok. "C" was aware that "A" had a thing for me, but he wasn't aware that his little sister (B) did as well. As a result, and as a friend trying to do me a favor, he was constantly trying to get me to date "A". But I didn't like "A", I liked "B" and I didn't know she liked me as well. One thing led to another and after a few years, "B" and I got into a relationship.

"A" didn't take this too well, even though at the time she was already in a relationship with someone else (in fact the same person she is still in a relationship with 3 years later) and even though I never showed any interest in her as it was. "B" even asked "A" if it were ok if she dated me, and since "A" was already in a relationship, she pretended and said yes.

We'll she lied (as if it were up to her anyway), never the less, she openly held that against "B" for a long time despite all of the reasons why she shouldn't have. After many fights and a few years, they ended up putting the past behind them (or so "A" says) and becoming friends again. But, both I and "B" (who I am currently engaged to), have seen an underlying resentment seep through her facade every now and then. In fact, it’s becoming more and more frequent and blatant as time goes on.

This brings us to the present. I have a friend named "D", and his little brother ("E") dates "A", and has since the time me and "B" had gotten together. And what's worse than that is that A's new friend, "F", is also a girl friend of another one of my friends ("G"). They love to gossip, both of them, but the problem is that "A" has a problem with "B" and always has some sort of criticism to spread around, which ultimately makes it around to all of my friends. And of course, D's girl friend "H" is not opposed to partaking in this whole "lets talk about other peoples business" fiasco.

So here's what you have. I am engaged to "B", and "A" has never really forgiven "B" for getting together with me. She seems to gossip a lot about us, either directly (ex. "You never know what "B" did...) or indirectly by making an observation about us, and at a different time, talking shit about people who fit that observation (but never us specifically of course *rolls eyes*). She is able to do this because her new friend "F" enjoys gossiping herself, generally speaking. The problem is that "F" shares the juicy gossip with her boyfriend, my friend "G", and "A" no doubt shares this gossip her boy friend "E", who is the little brother of one of my best friends "D".

So basically, when "A" feels the need to take a jab at us, it spreads like a virus throughout my whole circle of friends. But since it’s so hush-hush, we never actually have a chance to bring it up and defend ourselves without looking all paranoid and crazy. "A" always denies doing it, even though "F" has admitted that they have done it before. And since we never get to contradict this stuff, I'm afraid that it’s just seeping in to the way our REAL friends see us, even if they aren't aware of it.

Recently there was a big ordeal because "B" brought over some new friends for my 22nd b-day party we have over at D's house. The girls had never seen them before, and all three of them ("A","F",and "H") literally sat around a table talking shit about them so much that these new friends of ours left the party early. And when "B" got angry and confronted them about the rudeness, "A" of course denied it, "F" admitted to it, and "H" was very open about not liking those girls. Then, after we all kind of get over it, "A" comes back around and starts taking shit about "B" and how she took the new friends' side over hers! And God knows what else she has said, but *my* friends have been acting differently around us ever since.

She is SO manipulative...and its only something that becomes noticeable when both sides come together and talk without "A" being the middle man (like when "B" talks directly to "F", totally different level of honestly...i'll give "F" that, she is up-front if you confront her).

Seattle is HORRIBLE at snow removal. Snow is so rare that it's not really a consideration (but with the last few years behind us, maybe that will change). It's also illegal to salt, cause people whine about it damaging their cars (get a wax job and get on with your lives). It's amazing how these people have no idea how dangerous black ice is on a hill...

other silly annoyance: Non-descriptive thread titles. I see so much crap like: "Would you do...." and "what if I...." What if you frakking WHAT? If your thread is crap, and if I'll skip it anyway, don't waste my time by making me read the first sentence :p

Originally Posted by Replicon

It's also illegal to salt, cause people whine about it damaging their cars (get a wax job and get on with your lives).

That's just ridiculous. No plows, no salt, no winter tires, what the hell are you supposed to do?

Originally Posted by Replicon

Seattle is HORRIBLE at snow removal. Snow is so rare that it's not really a consideration (but with the last few years behind us, maybe that will change). It's also illegal to salt, cause people whine about it damaging their cars (get a wax job and get on with your lives). It's amazing how these people have no idea how dangerous black ice is on a hill...

Illegal???

... Wait. How would salt get on their cars anyway?

ethen, I will read that once I get home. I'm at the gym and shouldn't be on here anyway.

What annoys me? MSN nudges...can't people take a hint?

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Illegal???

... Wait. How would salt get on their cars anyway?

It's a bylaw or something. The front tires kick it up onto the underside of the car, which causes rust or something. I'm not sure what the laws are for sidewalks.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

What annoys me? MSN nudges...can't people take a hint?

Ha! I know.

Solution = appear offline.

I'm with you Jeff, people do that all too often.

OMG okay so I was in the bathroom doing my business and when finished standing at the taps washing my hands, when the guy who was also there doing his business finishes then just walked right out the door getting his dirty hands all on the bathroom door handle! THEN another guy comes out the cubicle and walks straight out the door as I am drying my hands! I mean come one FFS!!!! THATS DISCUSTING!!!!

Originally Posted by Adam

OMG okay so I was in the bathroom doing my business and when finished standing at the taps washing my hands, when the guy who was also there doing his business finishes then just walked right out the door getting his dirty hands all on the bathroom door handle! THEN another guy comes out the cubicle and walks straight out the door as I am drying my hands! I mean come one FFS!!!! THATS DISCUSTING!!!!

You know how many times I have seen people walk straight from the cubicle to the door? And leave......

My advice - use your damp napkin to open the door. That's what I do.

Originally Posted by Adam

OMG okay so I was in the bathroom doing my business and when finished standing at the taps washing my hands, when the guy who was also there doing his business finishes then just walked right out the door getting his dirty hands all on the bathroom door handle! THEN another guy comes out the cubicle and walks straight out the door as I am drying my hands! I mean come one FFS!!!! THATS DISCUSTING!!!!

God, that's horrible.

I am never touching another human being again.

Unless it's Adam. Cuz he's clean.

Originally Posted by ethen

Just to recap, I was best friends with C, and his little sister and her friend had a thing for me.

Are you still friends with C?

That's a pretty nutty ordeal, indeed. If I were you, I would simply inform every link in this shit-chain about A's tendencies (other than the first three who start everything). The best you can do after that is just hope that your close friends are good enough to ignore all of the crap that comes down the line.

In short, talk to the friends you're worried about directly, ignore the crap-spewers.

Originally Posted by Xox

My advice - use your damp napkin to open the door. That's what I do.

Yeah I never touch public restroom door handles either... I always use a paper towel or something - it may seem germophobic to some people who see me do it, but hey, I don't want any funky crotch disease from those dirty people who don't wash their hands!

Originally Posted by Burns

Yeah I never touch public restroom door handles either... I always use a paper towel or something - it may seem germophobic to some people who see me do it, but hey, I don't want any funky crotch disease from those dirty people who don't wash their hands!

Not to imply that I don't wash my hands, but if you really considered the matter on a biological (and not social) level, you're probably better off washing your crotch after touching it with your dirty hands than the other way around.

I can understand the feces thing, but again most people never come in contact with any fecal germs (it's called toilet paper). Unless you really fail at relieving yourself and get urine or fecal matter all over your hands...

Originally Posted by thegnome54

Not to imply that I don't wash my hands, but if you really considered the matter on a biological (and not social) level, you're probably better off washing your crotch after touching it with your dirty hands than the other way around.

I meant that I don't want someone's crotch disease on my hands (especially if I'm at a restaurant and will then be eating a meal). Well, it doesn't necessarily have to be a crotch disease... any sort of pathogen can stay clear of me and my freshly washed hands! lol


It annoys me when I call tech support and I know more than tech support does. And that's not saying very much for them