Thread: Does Skin Color Affect Attractiveness?

Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

I randomly moved to Korea about 10 months ago, and since coming here I have become obsessed with Asian guys. Like... obsessed. And I wasn't like this, ever, before coming here!

Except...you totally were. I kinda recall a lot of talk about the Asian boys before the move

^^ Yeah come to think of it... I'll tell you why, though. It's because I happened to really like someone who happened to be Asian-ish. And so I immediately noticed anyone who resembled him in some way.

Definitely a different (or at least way more intense) story now.

I prefer asian females over any other, but it really depends on appearences. And personality.

I am a Native/African lady who is attracted to white fellas, usually very fair men. I also am attracted to VERY dark men and Indian men.

Originally Posted by Pixielady

I am a Native/African lady who is attracted to white fellas, usually very fair men. I also am attracted to VERY dark men and Indian men.

I think I forgot to mention that Im incredibly attracted to native american females and hindu women. Let me clarify, - AMERICANIZED native american and hindu women.

Originally Posted by Sandform

1. Do you find lighter skinned people to be more attractive than the darkest of dark skinned people? Or do you find darker skinned people more attractive? Somewhere in between? Why do you think this is?
2. Do you think the majority of the people in your society currently share your opinion, or do they have a differing view?
3. Is it racist to not find darker skins equally attractive, or is there a better word for it than racism? In either case, why?

1. no, i dont find light skinned people more attractive. im white and native American, and my girlfriend is black, and she is the most beautiful woman i have ever seen. i have no predjudices.
2. no, of course they dont. people will say they dont, but thats not how our society raises people. its just like religion, if you get it in your head from an early age, its hard to get out. thats why only around 7% of american couples are interracial.
3. like i said, it propbably has to do with how you were raised, imo. i mean, im sure it's racism in some cases, but not all. some people jsut dont want people of another race, for whatever reason.

First, The basic answers
1. Do you find lighter skinned people to be more attractive than the darkest of dark skinned people? Or do you find darker skinned people more attractive? Somewhere in between? Why do you think this is?

I look for any woman that I feel I can make a connection with. Skin color, and tone have nothing to do with it.


2. Do you think the majority of the people in your society currently share your opinion, or do they have a differing view? I don't worry about my "society"...I just live in it, and do what I want to do. Everyone's entitled to there own opinions, but I don't care about them.


3. Is it racist to not find darker skins equally attractive, or is there a better word for it than racism? In either case, why?
Going on MY opinion, if someone doesn't find a darker or lighter color attractive, thats not racist. They're just limiting themselves....and there chances to be with the person they should truly be with for the rest of there lives. I've met people who "date only black guys", and I never give them the chance of dating me, because I know the person I'll end up with wont limit an initial attraction based on skill complexion.


here are bonus stats of this 29 y/o M to back up the things that I'm saying.

My race Black
first girl I ever dated? Multi Racial
first girl I ever loved? Thai
second girl I ever loved? Puerto Rican
third girl I loved? Black
First girl that took my virginity? White
Race of girl that I've had sex with most? Mexican
Race of girl that had me at a point where I just wanted to make them happy as I was when I was with them? White, Black, Jamaican, Polish, Mexican, Black/white mixed, Black/Puerto Rican mixed, Puerto Rican, Filipino.

Skin color that attracted me? Everyone on the planet. Anyone who has ever dated me, or knows me will attest that, I don't worry about the race or skintone. I go for the eyes. The eyes tell me everything. They tell me if that woman wants me, they tell me, if that woman loves me, they tell me if I really want to be with her. When I get old with that chick who I decide to be with, the only thing that'll stay the same, are her eyes. Everything else will wrinkle, sag, drop ect. But her eyes will stay the same. And if she's blind, then we're at the exact level we need to be on. Because we'll both be attracted to each others hearts.

oh....and more of the racism. Racism is about HATE. Not preference.

eg.

Bob prefers Asians over Europeans.

Kent prefers Europeans over Asians

Jim prefers Darker skinned people over lighter skinned people

John hates Indians and likes Mexicans
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The reader doesn't know what "race" the subject falls under, but they know what demographic, tone, or race, they prefer, like or hate.

With the given statements above, ALL subjects could be racist, and they just could be hiding the fact they HATE a certain race. But given ONLY information at hand only one person truly is racist. And that's John.

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Even race is a touchy subject. It's cool to know that part of my heritage were highlanders, and there are parts of it that helped build the pyramids. That's as far as it should go. Religious people believe everyone came from adam and eve. And scientist don't separate race from other animals? So why should we? Are we waiting on aliens to come here and say hi? so we can all be humans again? Are we (as in north americans) waiting on that trip to Europe, Asia, Africa ect, to be called "Americans", and realize that there's more to it? Are we waiting on Orcas to evolve and talk and say "hey stop calling us "killer whales"; "we're dolphins!"?

Until the mean time, I'll let the people who don't know me keep trying to classify me as "white boy", "blackboy", "gamer", "lucid dreamer" ect ect. Until they FINALLY realize they should've called me "friend", like everyone else I really know.

haha....I always tell myself that I have a certain preference when it comes to what ethnicity girl I'm into (and the preference always changes), but I always end up falling in love with a girl of a race I least expect...I think the last one was Indian.

but think of it this way...at least I learn how to make different kinds of food

Originally Posted by Sandform

Now, I happen to agree that to me, light skin colors are more attractive, but that has more to do with me growing up around light skinned people and developing my attraction without dark skinned people to incorporate into my model of what is attractive, in the future I may have a different opinion, who knows.

However, many Hispanic looking people are attractive to me, which makes sense considering I grew up in an area where Hispanic people were around me more often than black people. I think it has more to do with what you are used to, and the places I have lived throughout my life usually have not had extremely dark skinned people, and it is because of this that I think my personal tastes lean toward a lighter skinned person.

I would not find it odd that, at least in the U.S., the norm might be to find lighter skinned people more attractive since the races are mixing and there are fewer and fewer very dark skinned black people for us to incorporate into our model of what we consider beautiful.

The man in this 9 or so month video puts it rather rudely, but it is what prompted me to make this thread.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3ZxrXiSY3Y
But what do you think?

1. Do you find lighter skinned people to be more attractive than the darkest of dark skinned people? Or do you find darker skinned people more attractive? Somewhere in between? Why do you think this is?
2. Do you think the majority of the people in your society currently share your opinion, or do they have a differing view?
3. Is it racist to not find darker skins equally attractive, or is there a better word for it than racism? In either case, why?

Do you think the answers to these questions might change based on the gender of the person in question? Would you consider it a cultural thing, or are there more complicated explanations?

Not for me.

In no way at all.

HOWEVER

certain skin tones tend to go hand in hand with bone structures etc which i dont find as attractive, which would make it seem on the whole i find some tones less attractive, but that isnt due to the colour itself.

im cool with all.

yo.

Hm, so it would seem, Sandy, that answers have been split right down the middle regarding attraction to lighter skin tone and/or attraction to any skin tone.

I'm italian, so naturally I love redheads and freckles.

However, the dark seductresses can be so delicious!

cuucooch!

1. Do you find lighter skinned people to be more attractive than the darkest of dark skinned people? Or do you find darker skinned people more attractive? Somewhere in between? Why do you think this is?
2. Do you think the majority of the people in your society currently share your opinion, or do they have a differing view?
3. Is it racist to not find darker skins equally attractive, or is there a better word for it than racism? In either case, why?

first: no, i don't. i've never understood how "dark" means unattractive to so many people and why "light" is apparently better. Color isn't an issue to me. it's just a pigment. i mean, brown, tan, peach, ect. all these are shades/tints of orange...so we're really all from the same color. think about it.

second: no, i don't. All my family is pretty much hick and only like whites. i hate it.

third: yes, i do. I think if it really bothers you that the person you're with isn't the same shade as you then something is up. maybe racist isn't the word. I think prejudiced or something might be better. I also find it interesting that the issue is "dark skin" here. imo it's almost as if the discussion is "Dark: is that beautiful?" which i find a bit offensive. I've never understood why color is such an issue with people. I mean, if the person is the right personality, you click with that person, and you think the person is great, why does skin color automatically change your mind?

I know a lot of white guys who would never date a black person or any other race but they have a couple of "exceptions" so apparently that doesn't make them racist. i dont see how it does. if you don't want someone because he or she is "too dark" or "too light" that's racist.

i'm a white girl and i don't care about color. i think it's mean to say "well, she/he isn't light/dark enough...next!"

if that is not racism i don't know what is?

Originally Posted by MidnightFlyer

1. Do you find lighter skinned people to be more attractive than the darkest of dark skinned people? Or do you find darker skinned people more attractive? Somewhere in between? Why do you think this is?
2. Do you think the majority of the people in your society currently share your opinion, or do they have a differing view?
3. Is it racist to not find darker skins equally attractive, or is there a better word for it than racism? In either case, why?

first: no, i don't. i've never understood how "dark" means unattractive to so many people and why "light" is apparently better. Color isn't an issue to me. it's just a pigment. i mean, brown, tan, peach, ect. all these are shades/tints of orange...so we're really all from the same color. think about it.

second: no, i don't. All my family is pretty much hick and only like whites. i hate it.

third: yes, i do. I think if it really bothers you that the person you're with isn't the same shade as you then something is up. maybe racist isn't the word. I think prejudiced or something might be better. I also find it interesting that the issue is "dark skin" here. imo it's almost as if the discussion is "Dark: is that beautiful?" which i find a bit offensive. I've never understood why color is such an issue with people. I mean, if the person is the right personality, you click with that person, and you think the person is great, why does skin color automatically change your mind?

I know a lot of white guys who would never date a black person or any other race but they have a couple of "exceptions" so apparently that doesn't make them racist. i dont see how it does. if you don't want someone because he or she is "too dark" or "too light" that's racist.

i'm a white girl and i don't care about color. i think it's mean to say "well, she/he isn't light/dark enough...next!"

if that is not racism i don't know what is?

It's not about prejudice or who you want to be with. It's about what's attractive. You can't say it's prejudiced when it's something that people don't even think about themselves.
You can't really argue with your attractions, so if you don't like dark skin, then that's just the way it is. Even if it's silly, you won't be able to change it. And that doesn't mean you can't love dark people, you just won't find them attractive.

And for me... Yes. I'm quite exclusive for light skin. Anything that's lighter than what's considered "black"... And in some cases, black goes too \o/

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^ actually, i can say what i want because it's my opinion i guess i'm of a higher or lower species of man because i dont see how skin shade/tint can change what people find attractive in the first place...

for example, if someone has a thing for white girls * in this case meaning she has 'light' skin;* does that mean this person will no longer find her attractive if she tans herself to get a darker?

if so, then okay, but if not then what does that mean, if it's just a matter of color skin?

It definitely does have to do with how you were brought up and where you were brought up. As for me I am attracted to lighter skinned people more than else most likely because that is how I was raised (around those people). I am not sure whether people in my area agree with me, as I do not care, but I do not think it has anything to do with race. So no it is not racist, and to bring race into it would suggest a racist himself.
For example, I am sure if I was raised only around one ethnic group and only one sex most of my life, I would be attracted to those types of people the most, if not exclusively. This is nearly indisputable.

Depends on whether you are black white or hispanic.

And I mean like black african black. Like not socialized into white america. n stuff.

But I do think the most beautiful women are mixed.

Little bit of vanilla n chocolate swirl ya know

ok, I'll get more specific: http://gorillamask.net/gm_media.php?...&page_id=23540 Goddess, mmmm-hmmm,

I happen to be Lakota, Welsch and Greek... a rather interesting combo... but I'm naturally olive toned and very tan all year round and I've found that I've been attracted to pale men especially if they have green eyes, because where and who I've grown up around they're uncommon, an eye catcher. But the decider is always the person inside.

Hahahahah, I did some *ahem* research on youtube and my post above = completely false.

Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I like 'em all. nvm

If you got the goods, your body (and yeah personality obviously) does the talkin' not the skin.

Meagan Good and Gabrielle Union, jesus christ: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZMb82Lk8BY

I have a confession to make... I'm starting to lean... away... from white women. :shrug:

White supremacist brother would be disappointed lol. whatev.

eh, this is hard to answer, this is like asking what clothing item you like in the mall and you haven't gone in the mall yet to see whats there..you need to browse to see what you like.

I like all women, I'm attracted to any women who is beautiful, has a brain, and is not on the extremity side of skin complexion ( very very black, or very very white), but in between that, it's really all about preference.

You know, it really doesn't matter...I've seen interracial relationships, there's nothing wrong with it. Looks find to me. It's what YOU want, and not what anyone else thinks. If i want a Japanese women or a Brazilian women, that's my preference, and that's what I'll get, and no one has any influence or can say anything to change my mind. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You do YOU..don't play a role society has given you.

Originally Posted by HaRd_WiReD

eh, this is hard to answer, this is like asking what clothing item you like in the mall and you haven't gone in the mall yet to see whats there..you need to browse to see what you like.

I like all women, I'm attracted to any women who is beautiful, has a brain, and is not on the extremity side of skin complexion ( very very black, or very very white), but in between that, it's really all about preference.

You know, it really doesn't matter...I've seen interracial relationships, there's nothing wrong with it. Looks find to me. It's what YOU want, and not what anyone else thinks. If i want a Japanese women or a Brazilian women, that's my preference, and that's what I'll get, and no one has any influence or can say anything to change my mind. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You do YOU..don't play a role society has given you.

You seem rather defensive. Nonetheless, interesting perspective. I thought I'd pass this on to you.

Detailed Statistics on Interracial Relationships

Instead of looking at raw data which may not feel that relevant to your life, it’s more interesting to examine how often men and women of each race have interracial marriages. Keep in mind that since this data represents marriages, the number of interracial dating or cohabitating couples is usually higher.

African-American and White relationships

When African-Americans and Whites marry, there is 2.65 times more likely to be an African-American husband and a white wife. In fact, 73 percent of all African-American and White marriages have this setup.

Asian and White relationships

When Asians and Whites marry, the situation is nearly reversed. In these marriages, it is 3.08 times more likely for the husband to be White and the wife to be Asian.

African-American and Asian relationships

These marriages are still fairly rare. When these couples do marry, it’s 6.15 times more likely that the husband will be African-American and the wife Asian.

Hispanic Relationships

When Hispanic men and women decide to marry someone of a different race, the difference between men and women is nearly equal. Eighteen percent of Hispanic wives are married to a non-Hispanic man. On the flip side, 15 percent of Hispanic men have a non-Hispanic wife.

In marriages involving Hispanics and Whites, it is 1.17 times more likely that the wife is Hispanic and the husband is White than the other way around.

While the majority of all races still marry another person of the same race, it can sometimes feel like members of your own race are being chosen by another race. This can occasionally cause a problem if you only want to date or marry someone of your own race.

For example, African-American women have to compete with White women for African-American men, as the numbers above reveal.

Asian men actually are statistically worse off than African-American women. For every 1,000 married Asian women, only 860 Asian men are married. In comparison, for every 1,000 married African-American women, there were 1,059 married African-American men.

This data suggests that Asian men prefer to marry Asian women, but since Asian women are more likely to marry a man of another race, it leaves less Asian women to choose from.

Source: http://dating.lovetoknow.com/Statist..._Relationships

Jeff..how do i sound like I'm "defensive"...I'm just stating what i think

and your actually looking at interracial "stats" to prove some kind of point... lol

why do stats matter so much to you? So if you liked an asian women you wouldn't go after her because the stats between black men and asian women are low? ya know, I think that's kind of close minded....and kinda sad :p, if you like Asian or white women, you go and get them...don't play a role society has given you.

Those stats mean nothing to me, I still stick with what I said. You want it to be one way..but it's not. I'm not trying to be offensive jeff..it just seems like you post stats to prove how it "is" in the world and that's it. Who cares? I like Asian women..and I've had Asian women before, regardless of how the "stats" look lol.

Originally Posted by HaRd_WiReD

Jeff..how do i sound like I'm "defensive"...I'm just stating what i think

and your actually looking at interracial "stats" to prove some kind of point... lol

why do stats matter so much to you? So if you liked an asian women you wouldn't go after her because the stats between black men and asian women are low? ya know, I think that's kind of close minded....and kinda sad :p, if you like Asian or white women, you go and get them...don't play a role society has given you.

Those stats mean nothing to me, I still stick with what I said. You want it to be one way..but it's not. I'm not trying to be offensive jeff..it just seems like you post stats to prove how it "is" in the world and that's it. Who cares? I like Asian women..and I've had Asian women before, regardless of how the "stats" look lol.

You...somehow...managed...to...misinterpret...my.. .entire...post.

I stated you seemed defensive though nothing anyone said warranted such defensiveness. And as for the stats, they were not meant to prove a point. I just thought it was an interesting read and since your post was largely about interracial relationships, I thought you would enjoy it. I suppose I was wrong. In the post I am quoting above, you are being defensive as well. Calm down. Noone is attacking you dude.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

You...somehow...managed...to...misinterpret...my.. .entire...post.

I stated you seemed defensive though nothing anyone said warranted such defensiveness. And as for the stats, they were not meant to prove a point. I just thought it was an interesting read and since your post was largely about interracial relationships, I thought you would enjoy it. I suppose I was wrong. In the post I am quoting above, you are being defensive as well. Calm down. Noone is attacking you dude.

heh, I was kind of tipsy when I wrote that , sorry lol. No worries though. Alchy makes you defensive :p