Changed Sexuality...IN A LUCID!!!

**lucidreamsavy** · 06-24-2010 05:16 PM

OK, this is VERY weird. I have had lucids before where I am a dude, but I like girls. IRL, I like dudes. I guess for me this was "different" because it still is a guy and a girl (I have nothing against gay people), but instead of me being the girl, I am the guy

. I had a lucid like this this morning. I didn't even choose to become a guy-it just happened. But, I can prove to you that I did realize that I am really a girl in the dream, but for some reason I still wanted to go ALONG with being the guy. I was with the girl in my dream, and we had kissed. She complimented me on my eyes. Of course I was going to compliment hers too, that's what you do. They were gray and pretty, but my point is I realized that I really am a girl, but wanted to go along with this scenario in a sense. Before I was lucid, it kind of started off to be like this.

So...I don't know how to ask this...has anyone ever had a different sexuality in a dream?! This is mostly about lucids, because if it were a normal dream, it would just be different...IDK! This is weird. I don't know if me asking this is even stupid, because for some reason I did want to be this in my dream

. IDK!!

**LRT** · 06-25-2010 01:03 AM

I've had non-lucids in which I was gay, but I am completely straight in real life. It never bugged me.

**lucidreamsavy** · 06-25-2010 02:10 AM

Originally Posted by LRT

I've had non-lucids in which I was gay, but I am completely straight in real life. It never bugged me.

In a NON LUCID! But to me, that is different. This is a lucid and I knew what I was doing...Yet I didn't think about it. It's weird...I've had non lucids where I'm a dude and I like this girl, but I didn't know what was happening, and I was just going along with the scenario.

**Malfunction** · 06-25-2010 02:50 PM

Isn't that being more of a semi-lucid than a lucid? You know it's a dream, you're aware of everything you're doing, but for some reason you just go with the flow. You're not in complete control of everything, but you do realize that you're dreaming.

**lucidreamsavy** · 06-25-2010 06:19 PM

Originally Posted by Malfunction

Isn't that being more of a semi-lucid than a lucid? You know it's a dream, you're aware of everything you're doing, but for some reason you just go with the flow. You're not in complete control of everything, but you do realize that you're dreaming.

I suppose it might be, but yet I was still consious of what I was doing. I just did what I did, I didn't think about it too much, except that one time. It's like I knew that I was a girl and that was a girl, but I didn't CARE for the sake of the lucid.

**Samael** · 06-29-2010 11:30 PM

Hey, LDS. I've been thinking about what you wrote in your journal. Here are a few of my thoughts:

Dreams are a completely safe and non-threatening environment in which to explore your sexuality (or your mind to explore your sexuality regardless of your input). Just because you have a few dreams from the perspective of a character with a different gender or sexual orientation than you do, does not mean you have to rewrite your entire identity. I think of dreams as a form of storytelling. Just because you identify with a character in a book does not mean you immediately take on all of his or her characteristics.

Also, don't forget that women are conditioned to empathize with fictional male characters. If I can use the Harry Potter books as an example, a male main character is used to introduce the young reader to a wonderful world of magic. This is typical; the idea is that female audiences can identify with male characters, but male audiences can't identify with female characters. Basically, all of our mainstream entertainment is written in a way that's supposed to appeal to the male audience, and women learn to identify with this type of storytelling. In feminist terms, men are considered to be the default; women are considered "other".

It stands out to me that you dreamed that you were a straight, male character - the default, in other words. You put yourself in the shoes of a character that you've been encouraged to identify with by mainstream media: books, television, movies, and so on. Nothing about that stands out to me as strange.

As for this being a lucid dream: like Malfunction pointed out, there are different levels of lucidity. You might know that you're in a dream, but not every element of the dream might pop out to you as strange. For example, I've had a few lucid dreams where I look around and think that my surroundings look exactly like such-and-such a place. I might even marvel at how exact everything is. Then I wake up and wonder what the hell I was thinking; that place doesn't look anything like the dream did. You might be lucid, but you're still unconscious. Things that are out of place might still seem entirely normal in a lucid.

has anyone ever had a different sexuality in a dream?!

I'm pan/bisexual, so not so much. If I ever start running around in a lucid, screaming about how I'm actually 100% straight/gay, I'll let you know.

I have nothing against gay people

Just a note: if you have to use this as a disclaimer, you should make sure you think extra hard about what you're saying to warrant it. That said, nothing you've said is offensive, and I don't think you're homophobic. Just think about it.

**Man of Shred** · 06-29-2010 11:45 PM

one of my goals in a LDis to change my sex.... I imagine it would be like giving booze to a drunkard

**Portalboat** · 06-30-2010 03:54 AM

+1 to Man of Shred, I want to do that also.

While I would never, EVER, go straight out gay (boy on boy action) in a dream, I don't think that having a single dream like that makes you a lesbian/gay. I definitely understand how/why someone would want to do this. I'd had some pretty nasty dreams before, and I don't get freaked out by them. (At least, not as much as you are).

**lucidreamsavy** · 06-30-2010 03:57 AM

Originally Posted by Portalboat

+1 to Man of Shred, I want to do that also.

While I would never, EVER, go straight out gay (boy on boy action) in a dream, I don't think that having a single dream like that makes you a lesbian/gay. I definitely understand how/why someone would want to do this. I'd had some pretty nasty dreams before, and I don't get freaked out by them. (At least, not as much as you are).

Wo, wo, wo. I am CERTAINLY not freaking out, I was just a bit odded out kinda...

I DEFINITLY don't think I am a lesbian. NO WAY.

**Portalboat** · 06-30-2010 04:00 AM

Ok, then....

**lucidreamsavy** · 06-30-2010 04:02 AM

Originally Posted by Portalboat

Ok, then....

I guess I just found it a bit odd, and I wanted to see what others would say about it

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**Andra** · 07-01-2010 12:00 PM

I've never changed sexuality in a lucid but I've had lots of non-lucid dreams where I was the same guy(most of the time since sometimes I'm Jack Bauer from 24)

But i had this dream where I was a dude and my girlfriend was leaving back to Australia and we were very sad and before she left we kissed

It wasn't a bad dream at all since she was extremely beautiful but it made me sad while I was dreaming...Anyways since then I had another dream with her in this really amazing garden and I was again a man.After I saw her I just starred at her thinking how beautiful she is and because of this I woke up....

And if I have a lucid dream with her then yeah...I'd definately play her boyfriends role