Originally Posted by
JoannaB
Ah, 16. I remember being 16, such a difficult age: I remember thinking back then that I was an adult emotionally and mentally, but later looking back realizing that I had not been one yet. It is also an impressionable age, so as I said tread carefully. If your questions are such that, if your mother were to find out that you are asking them, she would have a big problem with that, then think whether these questions need to be asked now or whether they can wait a couple of years. If your sister asks you questions and initiates the conversation, that's one thing, but if you initiate a conversation that might cause family trouble, that's another. That said, it does sound like you are being careful, and I personally have no problem with what you are telling / asking your sister. However, given what you have told us about your mother, I assume she would have trouble with it, and as long as she is your minor sister's guardian and your sister lives in her house, your mom's rules matter a lot, where your sister is concerned, no matter how distasteful these rules may seem to you. Personally, I was 18 or 19 when I changed into a tolerant open minded liberal adult from a homophobic abortion-is-murder no-shades-of-grey teen. And I am glad I made that transition as an adult. Not that I think I should have been that way as a teen, but if I had changed earlier, life with my dad would have been worse at that time. And by the time I was 18 or 19 I was mature enough to question things that drastically. Plus being a teen girl with all the hormonal shit going on is tough enough in some ways - I once heard that teen girls are hormonally more like women with constant PMS only even worse so.
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