Thread: Dreams that are a cruel joke

Originally Posted by Mattrick

I understand this is my real life fear manifesting in my dreams but these dreams sure don't instill and confidence.

I don't see why you try to draw a correlation that way when it could also be that your waking life is manifested by your dreams. Ever thought that way?

However way it works (if at all), wouldn't one possible way to take influence be to become lucid in such a dream and change its course. Or you do the same in your waking life. There are so many ways. If there really is a correlation and it's not just coincidence, both situations should be altered by changing something relevant in one of the realities.

Originally Posted by Mattrick

I'm not sure if anyone has had dreams like this, but they are my least favourite kind. I'll take a nightmare over one of these. Often my anxieties manifest themselves in dreams and often I find myself making the same mistakes I do in real life, I get hit hard sometimes. And when I awake I've a clear remembrance of what it felt like.

Starting your day off feeling defeated doesn't help.

Well, recently, I've had dreams about this girl I've met. We've hung out and talked a lot but I'm unsure of how she feels about me. As some one with an inferiority complex and intense fear of rejection I'd not yet let it be known to her how I felt, at least not outright. I think she may like me back but I've got this voice in my head that says 'no, it won't work. turn away. don't let yourself get devastated'

That same voice is what fuels these dreams. Almost every night for two weeks I've dreamt about her. Each time I try and get close to her or explain how I feel and it never works. She either gets angry or offended or gets cozy with someone else. I understand this is my real life fear manifesting in my dreams but these dreams sure don't instill and confidence.

I've been having dreams like this for a long time. Where what I want in life is teased in front of me and I right before I'm about to obtain it....it gets pulled away. And I mean this actually. A dream will build up to something good and right before it happens I wake up.

These are my least favourite dreams because I feel so weak after them. It's like if I can't find solace or happiness inside my own head, in my dreams...then how can I obtain it in life?


Anyone else that have dreams whose soul purpose is to build you up and then let you fall right before you wake up?

Cruel joke.....YES! Dreams can be... Been having lots of dreams about my Mum not having long to live or dying ever since she died last year.

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Originally Posted by Mattrick

I'm not sure if anyone has had dreams like this, but they are my least favourite kind. I'll take a nightmare over one of these. Often my anxieties manifest themselves in dreams and often I find myself making the same mistakes I do in real life, I get hit hard sometimes. And when I awake I've a clear remembrance of what it felt like.

Starting your day off feeling defeated doesn't help.

Well, recently, I've had dreams about this girl I've met. We've hung out and talked a lot but I'm unsure of how she feels about me. As some one with an inferiority complex and intense fear of rejection I'd not yet let it be known to her how I felt, at least not outright. I think she may like me back but I've got this voice in my head that says 'no, it won't work. turn away. don't let yourself get devastated'

That same voice is what fuels these dreams. Almost every night for two weeks I've dreamt about her. Each time I try and get close to her or explain how I feel and it never works. She either gets angry or offended or gets cozy with someone else. I understand this is my real life fear manifesting in my dreams but these dreams sure don't instill and confidence.

I've been having dreams like this for a long time. Where what I want in life is teased in front of me and I right before I'm about to obtain it....it gets pulled away. And I mean this actually. A dream will build up to something good and right before it happens I wake up.

These are my least favourite dreams because I feel so weak after them. It's like if I can't find solace or happiness inside my own head, in my dreams...then how can I obtain it in life?


Anyone else that have dreams whose soul purpose is to build you up and then let you fall right before you wake up?

try doing a reality check next time you see her and keep on doing it... eventually you'll do it when you see her in your dream and you'll know youre having a lucid dream. then ask her (in the dream obviously) what she thinks of you and tell her ur feelings. see what happens.

at least thats what i would do.

I actually just went over that hump in real life. Hopefully the dreams will stop now. Didn't have many last night which I hope will help.

On a related note, last weed I had a dream where my cousin with Downs Syndrome had died. The entire dream took place at my uncle's house afterwards and it was so real. The pain and the anguish. I remember being stoic as I often am at funerals and breaking down looking at a picture of him i my uncle/aunt's bedroom. When I woke up I had to remind myself that he wasn't actually dead, despite the fact I remember too well what it felt like for him to be.

All the time, my friend, all the time.

I had these sorts of dreams for about a year and a half, maybe - maybe a bit longer, actually. It wasn't that bad - as usually they didn't end poorly - but man, was it cruel. As I had viertually no means of communication with the girl, seeing her almost every night in my dreams was good and bad. I kind of took them in a joking way, however, and found irony in each one and laughed at it when I remembered the dream.

when i was in love with a girl back in my junior year of high school i had dreams of dating with her and flying, i would wake up and hope that maybe it was a shared dream, but in reality she rejected me before i had these dreams i felt stupid every time i woke up from that dream.
dreams have tricked me too with false realities

I used to have a few of these when i was younger (alot younger)

I remember this one dream i had woken up in my parents bed after having a nightmare, and my mother started to tickle me, and she wouldnt stop. Doesnt sound as bad as it was at the time, but i HATED being tickled, and it went on for quite a few minutes before i woke.

Eh I never minded self-deprecating dreams like that, I just interpret it as my mind giving me constructive criticism the next day and work to change whatever it is that got me down.

The ones that really get me are, say, ones where I get the girl. My mind likes the idea so much it interprets it as reality, which becomes an epic disappointment when I awaken. Its only happened twice but they made for two shitty days.

Sorry to say, but the only way to redeem yourself from these defeating dreams is to face your fears. The anxiety from keeping your problems at bay does manifest itself in your dreams. In order to stop the dreams, you must stop the anxiety. Get rejected or accepted. Learn to live with what happens. That's what these dreams are telling you: personal growth. If anything is better than those dreams, then that includes facing them in real life.

Are you....ya know, kind of, sorta, not all the way -?