Shared dreaming: How can I find a dreamer I've connected with?

**distorted** · 09-22-2011 03:21 AM

Tonight I was pondering over one of the most vivid dreams I have ever had, one of the first and few dreams I can recall from my adolescent years, that led me to one of my first experiences with sleep paralysis hallucinations--I think I may have just realized for the first time that I was being guided by another dreamer, not a dream character, in this dream. What I can remember from the dream is that I was being led through a dim path with many other people walking around aimlessly, people I both knew/did not know/were indistinguishable from strangers and memories--I was being led by an older man, quiet and gentle in nature, who told me many things, but the only one thing I can remember, CLEAR as crystal in my memory, is that this man whispered in my ear "Dreams are the secret to life." Then I had one of my first false awakenings in which I was woken up by being choked by a little girl in a white dress. For some reason, after thinking everything over again tonight, I am now convinced that this was a dreamer that spotted me in one of my earliest ventures in dream control and somehow knew to guide me. This dream has stuck with me permanently and has changed my life in the way that I seek to live amongst my dreams as well.

So my question is... Does anyone think I could try to find this person, somehow? Also, for some reason, I haven't been able to have control in my dreams for the last 6 months, other than ONE false awakening I had in a car that only lasted for a few minutes. My lack of consciousness in my dreams is starting to really distress me. Can anyone come find me and help me come back to the dream world? Or offer any advice as to how to make it back? I'd like to say I was an avid lucid dreamer for about a year, did not ever practice using reality checks or dream logging, but now this beautiful skill has left me and can no longer realize I am dreaming. What happened? Why can't I reach the other side any more?

**Avalanche** · 09-28-2011 04:09 PM

"For some reason, after thinking everything over again tonight, I am now convinced that this was a dreamer that spotted me in one of my earliest ventures in dream control and somehow knew to guide me."

What evidence do you have to support this other than gut feeling or something else?

Also, R.C.s and keeping a journal are the very core basics of lucid dreaming. I doubt you will find anyone else who has had success without these (other than naturals). You may as well not try if you don't do them.
Also, it's not as simple as asking someone to come find you in a dream. If you really believe people here can come and pull you into lucidity, then think of it from their perspective.
They still have to look for you. That means knowing where you are and what you look like. You online name is rarely enough, most if not all the people here who dream share know alot about their dream sharing partners.

So either tell us more about you, and keep with reality checks and a dream journal, or
don't do either and try to struggle on without anyone being able to help you and not do R.C.s and keeping a DJ.