Originally Posted by Kattrinka
Could you explain what you mean by giving her psychic space?
Sounds like you were already trying to do what I was suggesting. Nothing more to do about it maybe. I'm sorry it hasn't gone better. I'm fortunate that my wife and mom get along well.
I think everyone has at least a bit of psychic ability. Like nearly everything else, some people have more of it than others. But its still very weak even in those people who have it the strongest.
The supernatural dream stuff really took off for me when I was about 40. Before that it happened rarely, but it got so that was happening pretty much every night. I still don't have much of an idea of what to do with it. Maybe its like learning violin, you have to practice for a long time before it sounds very much like music. And 'long time' in this case could be much longer than the span of a human life. I don't believe in reincarnation in the conventional way, but I think that we do inherit karma so to speak, so other people can eventually pick up where we left off.
I have a very hard time letting go of people. I'm still attached to classmates I knew as a child, even though I understand that its unhealthy. I think its getting better with age though. One thing that I've come to understand is that just being in my presence is unhealthy for some people, its not really what I'm doing so much as who I am, which interacts in an uncomfortable way with who they are.
I think you've given us a good conjecture of what "shadow people" are. They are tactile projections of what we feel about other people's desires in relation to ourselves. So the shadow people are real people, but they look like shadows because we're feeling their want, and there's no light or color to that. The time-warp thing, where some of the related events come after the dream, is pretty much to be expected. Everything at this level seems to work like that.
Most substantial book as food for thought that I've read is Thinking and Destiny by H. W. Percival. Its available for free here (http://thewordfoundation.com/PDF/T%26D_14th_ver01.pdf). Its at least half bullshit though, and it will make you nuts if you swallow it whole, so if you read it be careful.
I feel fear in relation to experiencing this 'spiritual' side of myself. I can't say how much it holds me back. I think sometimes fear is worth paying attention to, most things that we're afraid of are actually dangerous. Despite the fear, I have to pursue this stuff though, its part of life, and I feel like I'm suffocating otherwise. So here would be an opposite interpretation of the shadow figures, for you. They're all the people that want to hold you back because they're afraid of themselves, and you becoming more alive in yourself makes their own souls pull more strongly on them. Because of the way we are all in each other. So from that standpoint the shadows aren't trying to pull you into exploring the depths of your mind, they're trying to pull you away from it. But the shadows are also like all the people who advocate astral projection, trying to pull you out of your body. In my experience, all dreams have multiple contradictory interpretations like this, its built into the holistic/dyslexic way the mind works. A dream like this doesn't have one interpretation that does it justice.
About 15 years ago I had an experience where I 'found' another suppressed part of myself, by allowing myself to feel and express that part. This part was and is in a lot of pain, having been condemned to darkness for a very long time, so to speak. When this door opened a little bit, and I gave voice to that aspect of myself, experiencing myself as her, it was like a huge weight was lifted off of me. I felt this as a literal lifting of a weight from my chest, as if I could breathe for the first time. The weight had become so familiar that I didn't even notice it was there. Similarly, from that standpoint I feel the pressure of my personality almost like a literal mask around my eyes.
This ability to 'move' my identity and become someone more is to some extent something I learned from reading this book: http://www.beasyouare.info/beasyouare.pdf. I don't believe their theology, in other words, I don't think their "who am I" line of questioning leads to nirvana and liberation from nature. And I think that a lot of the mental layers that you go through which the brush off as an illusory distraction are actually worth looking at and understanding. However, I think the process is valuable. I never practiced meditation that way, but it happened to some extent just from reading about it.
For myself, another aspect of this is just empathetic. When I meet a new person, and feel something of who they are, that awakens an awareness of something similar in myself. So I grow and become more alive that way. But it remains a part of them also. All of my premonitory and 'shared' dreaming experience comes out of this I guess.
Another trick I used to use, is if I'm upset about something, I look at what it is that seems to be violated that I'm concerned about. Looking at that, my awareness of that something becomes stronger. As a hypothetical example, if I were afraid of dying, I'd look at the part of me that wants to live. As I hold my attention on that, and feel what it is, and why I want it, my awareness of that part grows. And a characteristic it seems to have is that it does not die. So then the fear is greatly weakened, and I have discovered something that was the opposite of what I was afraid of. I think a lot of my 'growth' came this way also.
I think a common fallacy to watch out for is the assumption that a spiritual intuition has authority of truth on account of having been obtained psychically. Actually, almost all of what we tap into internally is other people's thoughts about stuff, and just because an insight comes with an accurate premonition or even an overt miracle really doesn't mean squat in terms of how trustworthy it is. In the same way that the human world doesn't divide into 'good' people and 'bad' people, the spirit world doesn't divide neatly into benevolent angels and evil spirits. Its a lot messier than that. Everyone gets caught by this to varying degrees, since we're all confused about who we are and what we can trust. When you look to a spiritual source as an authority, you're abandoning the negative feedback that's needed to correct mistakes in that part of us. Its like people collectively chasing their own tail, the tail follows us and can't tell us where to go. Thinking for ourselves is a crucial part of our growth. Likewise for learning from experience. There are limits to what can be gained through intuition and mental focus, which is where I disagree with raja yoga and other similar teachings.
Another tool I've used that has probably helped some is relating things in terms of complementary principles like male/female, light/dark, electric/magnetic, outside/inside, matter/spirit, desire/feeling, reason/conscience, conscious/subconscious, sun/moon etc. Often awareness of one side is suppressed more than the other, so you can exercise it just by thinking about it in relation to its counterpart. These dichotomies start to break down for me eventually though. So for instance the male/female division inside of myself is less meaningful to me now than it seemed to be years ago when I was first discovering it.
Here's my favorite Tao Te Ching translation: Tao Te Ching, English by Lin Yutang, Terebess Asia Online (TAO)
And my favorite I Ching translation: I Ching Wilhelm Translation
Any translation by Cleary is pretty good too I think.
I think most of this stuff is going to be useless to you, I'm just telling you about it in case it helps, because some of it is not easy to find. And in my view these books are a higher caliber than most books at least in terms of depth and intelligence, even if they are not quite what they pretend to be either.
James Allen was sort of a Buddhist with an emphasis on character development: As A Man Thinketh by James Allen. His other books are of comparable quality
Once upon a time, A Course in Miracles was one of my two favorite books, along with Thinking and Destiny. I take a fairly dim view of it now though, it really only has an inspired but distorted grasp of one part of the puzzle, and over-reaches. By teaching that all problems can be easily undone by thinking in a guilt-free way, it creates guilt by making you implicitly responsible for failing to resolve things you can't actually resolve. Its appropriate that their foundation has spiraled into a mess of self-righteousness, lawsuits, and profiteering. The book is strong medicine though, and could be transformative in a positive way if you don't take it too seriously. Here's a free version: A Course In Miracles ~ Free Searchable Urtext Version | Home
Gospel of Thomas is by far my favorite gospel: Gospel of Thomas (Lambdin Translation) -- The Nag Hammadi Library. I doubt that the sayings are all really by Jesus, the historical character. Back then people were plagiarizing texts left and right, and attributing stuff to Jesus as a way of getting credibility, sort of a fraudulent appeal to authority. It has truth in it though, in my opinion, even though its a bit cryptic.
Anyway, I hope something there gives you something to think about.
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