Thread: Evolving Shared Dreaming

Originally Posted by Darkmatters

This is very intriguing.

Is it important to converse with that person enough to have a good idea of what they're like/establish some connection with them? I would think name is more of just a symbol for their personality, in the same way that in waking life we think of places in terms of street addresses, but our actual experience of those places is more about the general feel of the place, the aggregate of sights sounds and smells and the lay of the land and the feelings we associate with it. The address/name is just an easy symbol that we can remember, which calls up this whole association chain.

Darkmatters
It is an interesting question. I think it definitely helps, but it is not a must. I think you can have a shared dream with a person to whom you never spoke. But to increase the probability of having a shared dream, it is important to have a conversation. You need to see and feel how your partner communicates in general, you need to be able to recognize his behavior. This might be different from person to person, but looking from my perspective, I experience many dreams and not all of them are shared, it is important to feel the moment when you are there with another person.
For example, if you are trying to have a shared dream, you might simply take your dream partner as a regular DC. You will not pay any attention to him, he might feel the same, you will skip each other as you would skip any other DC. That is why it is important to know the personality of your dream partner, the moment you meet him in your dream you will know that it is not a DC. You will feel that there is a difference now, you will realize that this might be a shared dream and you will act accordingly. Perhaps you will want to make your partner realize the same, that is what I often try to do. You need to make something extraordinary, first of all to make them lucid(if they are not) and second to give them a hint that it is "you", you found him. This is why I think conversation is important.


Yes, you are absolutely right about "more of just a symbol for their personality". People associate their name with their personality, this is why name helps the most.

Not always your shared dream partner will look the same as he looks in real life. In fact, most of the time he will look to you as he thinks he looks in real life or as he wants to look like. Sometimes dream partner might appear the way he feels. You will rarely see your dream partner exactly the same as you saw him on photo.

I am not sure if searching a place with a specific emotional connection to your dream partner would help, maybe yes.



Sageous
Thanks, I hope so too!



~ Dreamer ~
Great, will be waiting for your insights on this subject.