Originally Posted by GestaltAlteration
Not that I'm one to talk but...
I'm glad to hear someone say that.
Thank you. I feel like I'm the only one around here who ever stands up for what's right and just and who speaks out openly against what's wrong with the world. Even though I know for a fact that quite a few members actually stand by me in private (PMs and such), it's a rarity that some one actually has the guts (or freedom, in some people's cases) to publicly side with what's right rather than to put upon a pedestal all the bull crap that permeates today's world.
Originally Posted by Carôusoul
Oh noes.
If you don't believe in Middle Earth you are destined to be without it your whole life. Sucks.
I'm once again pelted by the immature ramblings of some one who has no idea what he's talking about. You know, with everything I see of you I like you just a little bit less (alright, that's an exageration for my own sick amusement). Coincidence? I think not. Nothing personal, of course.
Ugh. I'm just saying you can't rave about soemthings greatness having never done it. Stick to "admiring from afar".
That's another prime example of the fact that you are far too immature to make such a decision. Come speak to me in about 10 years and we'll see how much your opinion has grown. My guess is that you'll have a much better perspective on the world and a far greater ability to make an intelligent stance on the marriage issue. Until then, you're just speaking from your rectum.
Rectum? Hell, damn near killed 'em.
What's important in life? Failed marriages?
When you're done smoking that crack may I have a word with you? Dude, your eyes are so glazed over. You might want to lay down for a little while. Feeling better? Good... From what in my posting history have you derived "failed marriage = good"? I'm guessing it's the part you just retrieved from your ass because my stance is in rather remarkable contrast to your implications.
Originally Posted by grasshoppa
Can I get your opinion on gay marriage? Since you seem to think it's so imporatnt and sacred.
No, you may not. I'm not opening another door for children to bash a mature view of the world. I will refer only to marriage in the traditional sense. Nothing else is relevant to this conversation.
Grown-ups...lol havent used that term since I was 5.
So what has changed for you in the past year? Besides the whole turning 6 thing?
Why do you need to be married in order to feel like you are commiting yourself? You should be commited to that person before marriage if you ever want to have a chance of it lasting.
One of these days some one here will actually read before they comment. I know, don't hold my breath.
Exactly when did I claim that love comes only with a marriage vow? Answer: NEVER. In fact, I believe that love MUST come before marriage in order for it to have even a glimmer of hope. Whoaaa! Deja-vu... It seems like I've already stated all of this. Could it be my mind playing tricks on me? Nope, I'll be damned. I DID say this already. Oh you silly kids these days. Always putting your foot in your mouth.
Originally Posted by cuddleyperson
hmm Oneironaught i guess i'll speak my mind, however i am only 16, so disregard what my opinions from lack of life experience if you will...
I respect your opinion. What I don't respect is the way others find joy in bashing marriage simply because they lack the ability to appreciate what it means and stands for. More importantly: what it CAN mean to those involved.
Obviously marriage is very important to you, may i ask if this is related to any religious beliefs/upbringing?
To be honest, I don't draw my views from a religious standpoint at all. I just believe that marriage is a contract that should only be entered into if both parties are serious about it. I'm tired of seeing everything that makes life great being systematically destroyed by those who couldn't give a shit. I'm tired of seeing the trends gravitate towards "serve thyself and fuck everybody else". I'm tired of people who think they have to cater to bullshit and bow to idiocy trying to fuck up what's worked for so long. I'm tired of seeing people fuck over others because they feel entitled to do so. I believe that your word is all your really have, as far as your interaction with others goes.
Like I've said, if some one doesn't feel marriage is right for them: FINE. I have no problem with some one not wanting to become involved and give their all to some one else for the greater good of each. But don't think I'm going to stand by while a bunch of people who have just sprouted the first pubes on their nuts try to bash what's good and right with the world.
If you've never been in love - I mean truly in love, not some playground crush - then to say that marriage is a pile of bullshit is, well, a pile of bullshit. All it proves is how short-sighted and shallow people can be.
However i don't think you have the right to portray all those who do not agree marriage is necessary for commitment as people who cannot love or have commitment themselves.
Not another word until you READ WHAT I SAID. I'm sick of being taken out of context and I'm sick of people trying to put words into my mouth. Especially when I've plainly stated my view and have left no room for misinterpretation.
Although it's obvious you disagree with this opinion i will say it anyway. I believe that if a couple are even thinking of marriage, then in their hearts they should already have an ever lasting love and commitment to one another.
I agree with that (the bolded part) 100%.
So personally i don't see, apart from to prove it others if you need to do that for reinforcement, what a piece of paper and some vows really add to your commitment.
Wait until you find "The one". Hopefully you will have a change of heart. Even if you don't, I can respect that. But don't be fooled into thinking that marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper. That paper is only what the government sees. It's the underlying intention and commitment that gives the paper its value. It's the willingness to make that step into the ultimate relationship situation that gives it its value. You folks are searching for the forest when you're standing here completely surrounded by trees.
Don't look at the legal crap. That's only formality and posturing. Look at what it means if you want to understand what marriage is. Look at the implications. Look at the enormous promise to love and cherish you make. It can be the ultimate in expression, the ultimate in commitment: as long as it's done for the right reasons.
But i just think marriage can make a relationship seem forced, especially with time if there are troubles.
ONLY if it's done for the wrong reasons. Remember, marriage is to be a binding heart-to-heart contract for only those who VALUE its message and significance. Not every relationship is marriage material. Hell, most are not.
1) Marriage is not needed for full commitment or love
I think I've already hammered that one to death*. Verdict: agreed. Next...
2) Things don't always last forever, as sad as it is, when people need to move on, marriage can be a depressing obstacle in any cases.
That's why it's of utmost importance that the vows be taken seriously. I can't stress enough that it's all about what you put into it. If one or both parties enter marriage with a half-assed attitude of "Well, the odds are against us but, what the hell. I'm up for a fun frolic" then it's doomed before it begins.
Another part of marriage is the courage to not bail just because you're going through a rocky patch. Every relationship has its ups and downs. If you love some one enough to marry them don't you think they deserve for you two to try to work past the rough patches? When you are with the right person, those are just speed bumps, not Earth shakers. And sure, not all marriages are going to be a success. But you can increase your odds of a happy marriage by cooking with the right ingredients. If it's all based in lies, cheating and half-hearted superficial promises then, yes, your chances are pretty darned poor. That's why it's so vital to realise that marriage must be taken seriously, not thrown around like so many cliches.
The underlying problem is that we've developed a culture wherein marriage has become a joke. Too many people get married for all the wrong reasons: convenience, babies out of wedlock, "something to do for the weekend", etc... with little regard for what they are really doing and for the promise they are making to someone who expects that promise to be honored.
I don't want to fight about it though, your entitled to your opinion also, it is a very noble one.
As are you and yours. Hopefully you (and I) will one day find some one who fills your heart with so much love that you can't imagine life without them. THAT'S what marriage is about.
You dont have to have been married yourself to understand the significance it can have in your life. But it has to be with the right person and it has to be for the right reasons. Just because so many fools today enter marriage on a shallow whim doesn't discredit the entire institution. It only strengthens the notion that you have to mean what you say and say what you mean.
"I do" doesn't mean "I do whomever and whatever I please." Save that shit for Jerry Springer. Better tidy up the green room. You're about to be called on stage.
* That's what she said :-)
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