When I first started lucid dreaming, I felt like my subconscious was wrangling control back from me by force. If I exerted too much control, I would often spontaneously lose all motor control and balance. I would basically flop around on the floor like a fish as I was unable to control my limbs or tell which way was up. This would go on until I had given up and surrendered control of the dream back to my subconscious. I suspect that the subconscious of some does not take well to having the conscious mind butt in on it's playground. For me, lucid dreaming was incredibly difficult. It took me two years of trying before I had my first, and then as I've said I had to learn to modulate the level of control such that my subconscious was alright with it. Over time, that level of control would increase. Once I learned how to meditate in my lucid dreams, this barrier dissolved completely.
For now, I say just keep doing what you're doing. You'll find that you can stay lucid for longer each time. Also, I make this odd recommendation to everyone: treat your brain like you're training a dog. When it does something you want it to, give it a cookie. This doesn't have to be a literal cookie, sometimes it can just be a pat on the back, but sometimes it can literally be a cookie. When you have a lucid dream, even if you can't control it, give yourself a cookie. Once you've got that down, then start to taper that off. Perhaps flip a coin, if you were lucid and it lands on heads, then give yourself a cookie. Then do this only if it lands on heads twice in a row. Then start rewarding yourself for being able to control your dreams and stop rewarding yourself for only being lucid. You've just moved the goalpost. At the same time, don't beat yourself up for not doing what you set out to accomplish. However, it might be useful to verbalize out loud something like "no cookie for you, you didn't give me a lucid dream!"
This works by engaging the reward centers of our brains. Getting the dopamine going helps build the connections associated with that behavior. Over time, your brain becomes much better behaved. Interestingly, this strategy also works outside of the dream world. My little sister uses it for her social anxiety. When she goes to big crowded stores, she stays for slightly longer that she feels comfortable, then if she's successful she rewards herself with a treat she only indulges in for this purpose. It sounds bonkers, but it works. I actually do recommend that the reward be something specific to your purpose. Don't let it be associated with any other task or behavior. Don't let it be something you would randomly partake in. Devote the reward completely to the behavior you want to encourage.
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