Me VS Subconscious- Confusing dreams

**grischkaja008** · 08-29-2010 11:01 AM

Hello

I need some help to interpret my two related dreams, which came in an interval of 3 months.
Here some information which helps to interpret the two dreams: I'm 20, male and a student. Last year, I wanted to start a relationship with a girl named N. She was very disappointed about her current relationship in such a way, that she ended up completely drunk at a party, where I was also invited.
I began to have feelings for her and I felt really attracted by her. But she didn't want a relationship with me. She even told everybody I knew that I was in love with her, although I wanted it to be a secret, because I'm a introverted person.
Since the day I told her I was in love with her, she provoked me at each occasion by saying for example:" You will ever have a special place in my heart"; by dancing close to me at parties; by bumping into me "by chance", so that I come in contact with her body; etc.
Well, to sum up, she broke my heart and I started to hate her. I forgot all my feelings for her. Only problem that remained was, that I see her a lot at school (we are in the same class) and at parties.
At least I thought that there remained nothing between us. But I had two confusing dreams about her. Apparently, there remains something in my subconscious... but what? I need some help to analyse both dreams, because I really want to know what my actual feelings are or what my subconscious wants.

Here my first dream:

I'm in class. I'm sitting in the third row and in front of me sits a girl named N. She's smiling and very happy. She has a new hairstyle, very different from the style she used to have. Next to me is good friend named L. I explained something to him (but I don't know what was the subject). He is listening to me. Suddenly, during my conservation, she leaned over my desk and kissed me on the cheek. I knew it was some kind of provocation. She starts laughing and she gives me a challenging look. I get angry, really angry and started shouting at here. I even wanted to beat her up, but I couldn't, because I knew, that she wanted that I overreact.

Second dream:

I'm at a really great party, music was great and I really had fun. Next to me stands my good friend L. and in front of me N. She was smiling and seemed to be really happy. I wonder why and ask her, why she's so happy. She tells me that she's in a relationship with me. My first thought was: "what a bitch! Just another provocation"
I look at her and suddenly I had the feeling that she told the truth. I whispered to my friend L., although the music was very loud. I asked him: "Am I really in a relationship with her?" Instantly I looked at N. who nodded. But L. said to me: " I don't think so" and he started smiling. I wasn't sure if he was right so I tried something: I went close to her and wanted to kiss her on the mouth to feel if she's really in love with me. She refused and only turned her cheek to get the kiss on her cheek. So I was convinced that she lied. But suddenly, our lips touched and we had a really long kiss about ten seconds or so. I really felt her feelings for me, but suddenly I got afraid that I made a huge mistake and I got kicked out of my dream.

Thanks to everyone who read this very long post and thanks in advance to your replies.

**grischkaja008** · 08-30-2010 04:35 PM

Sorry for the mistakes, but I can't edit the post any more

**Snowboy** · 08-30-2010 04:54 PM

Umm... that was a bit confusing. Is she just trying to tease you or do you think it is real?

I can't really figure out what it might mean... you are sending some mixed messages. Maybe you aren't sure of what to think... that's the best I got. Sorry.

**grischkaja008** · 08-30-2010 05:01 PM

Yes it's a bit confusing.
I try to explain it once more

She was desperate in her relationship. She got a bit self destructive. I felt pity, than love. She doesn't want me. She made fun of me, behind my back. She broke my heart, I started to hate her. All feelings are gone, at least I thought, and now this 2 dreams.

I don't know if she just tease me or if it's me, who thinks she wants to provoke me. The only thing I know that she's extroverted and a bit nasty.

**daeryk** · 09-12-2010 05:32 PM

The first thing you need to realize is that all dreams are actually messages using symbols. So people, places, animals, colors, haircuts, clothing, etc are all symbols for how you are thinking.

This girl is clearly your projection of her, or a symbol for desire you have. Desire means that you want something, but don't believe you can ever have it. So you kissing the girl and being in a relationship with her in a dream is symbolic message that you are very close to your desire for girls or things you want, but don't believe you can ever have. You aren't resisting it an you think she or something else in your life is so important you'd sacrifice anything to have it including your power and self-respect.

The dreams are basically just saying that you either have strong desire for this girl, or for someone or something else in your life. The solution to a dream like this is to never desire someone and always want to only get to know them first. You are allowing sexual attraction and the belief that you need something to control your decisions. You need to begin to only want simple things in life, and to only have interest in girls whom you get to know first. Your bitterness towards her is just because she won't date you as you'd clearly jump at the chance to date her as soon as she provokes you into wanting her. Resist this as hard as you can.

My advice to snap out of it. Wake up. This girl is no good for you, and she wants nothing from you except to control your mind by making you desire her. Your physical attraction overpowers your decisions. People like her are arrogant, and controlling. Your best option is to begin to make her feel like you don't desire her at all. Look for flaws and things about her you don't like. You need to convince yourself that she isn't as attractive as you thought she was, and that her personality is completely out of touch with what you really want in a girl. You already see what her problem is, even if you don't totally understand how to deal with it.

Your dreams are just pointing out what I've told you, so don't look at them like they are telling you she wants you because obviously she doesn't. You just need to move on, and stop allowing her to control you.