Thread: Is there anyone else with my "disease"

Well how old are you

funny I've always thought of love as a disease.

18 years on the 14th of February, how ironic, born on the day of love...

And no, if you can't love you really feel the need for love, it somehow hurts.

I can post this here because it's all anonymous, no friend of mine knows this.

Originally Posted by mathmagic

18 years on the 14th of February, how ironic, born on the day of love...

And no, if you can't love you really feel the need for love, it somehow hurts.

I can post this here because it's all anonymous, no friend of mine knows this.

The fact you're a teenager devalidates this whole thread, I'm afraid :[

Yes but I don't know anyone who hasn't loved yet. It worries me.

Fuck. You know plenty of people who haven't

When they say they have loved you have no idea what they mean

and every fucking 15 year old thinks they're in love.

During my lke, 15th or 16th year of life I had maybe 8 girls tell me i was "the one" or in love with me. of course none of them were [I think], its just hormones getting the best of them and their fragile forms.

You're 18. Don't sweat.


Seriously, get a grip of your situation.

i dont think many people love/know love untill at least their twenties.

This girl that I think I'm falling in love with is so intelligent, not extremely beautiful but she has something special. If someone should be my girlfriend than it would be her. I only don't really know if I really love her because I've known her for a long time and I have never had any feelings for her. She's also taken so now I don't stand a chance.

I don't think about her all day long, I just feel more comfortable in her presence. I also don't have all these weird feelings I had when I was in love when I was an eight year old. I know that's child love but back then love seemed so much more intense, so it worries me that I'm not really in love.

Originally Posted by mathmagic

This girl that I think I'm falling in love with is so intelligent, not extremely beautiful but she has something special. If someone should be my girlfriend than it would be her. I only don't really know if I really love her because I've known her for a long time and I have never had any feelings for her. She's also taken so now I don't stand a chance.

I don't think about her all day long, I just feel more comfortable in her presence. I also don't have all these weird feelings I had when I was in love when I was an eight year old. I know that's child love but back then love seemed so much more intense, so it worries me that I'm not really in love.

Do you go to a small school? That can limit the number of types of women you meet. There is a very specific and rare type of woman that I have romantic chemistry with, and if I had not gone to big schools, I probably wouldn't have met too many of them in school.

Originally Posted by Universal Mind

Do you go to a small school? That can limit the number of types of women you meet. There is a very specific and rare type of woman that I have romantic chemistry with, and if I had not gone to big schools, I probably wouldn't have met too many of them in school.

my school contains 1700 people and in these six years I only felt love or what I think is love once and that is now. I also felt love once when I was 14 on a summer camp. both these girls aren't really beautiful. It's just the social connection. I have many female friends, also pretty girls but I don't think they're really intelligent, they just laugh at my jokes and tell stupid stories, I also hate the girls that laugh at my jokes all the time. That's an advice for a girl, don't laugh at everything he says! I, myself am the fool of the "gang", always joking, hyperactive, some people think I'm enervating. I can never be serious, don't know why but actually I do have this sentimental me that I always keep inside. I laugh frustration away, and if I get more frustrated, I get less serious. I know what my problem towards girls is but I can't do anything about it for any reason.

99.9% of couples in high school, aren't in love, have never been in love, don't even know what the words mean. they just confuse love with some other emotion. teenagers fear being alone and will hold onto anyone for dear life. so don't compare yourself to other teenagers, they have no idea what they're talking about

it's more important that you have a best friend, male or female. a best friend will give you a better idea of what love really means than any high school fling. why? because romantic feelings don't last forever, for many couples they only last one to two years. without friendship to cement the relationship, the relationship will fall apart after romantic feelings fade. a long lasting stable relationship, is ALWAYS founded first on friendship

ps. if you want to love someone, love them

love isn't a closed box only meant to be given to one person and one person only, or something you can trap into only one type of relationship - sexual. so love those friends for who they are, even if you will never be in a romantic relationship with them. there are other kinds of relationships that are just as worthy as persuing

I haven't had a 'romantic interest' for 2 years or so, but that's basically because there's nobody around. I'd imagine the same is in your case. Just look around, or wait. Whatever. It's hardly time to start panicking. There's nothing wrong with you.

During my lke, 15th or 16th year of life I had maybe 8 girls tell me i was "the one" or in love with me. of course none of them were [I think], its just hormones getting the best of them and their fragile forms.

80 here.

Originally Posted by Xei

80 here.

thats nearly two a week fuck

Originally Posted by Xei

80 here.

81 here.

Love is nothing to rush into, just take your time. Find your desire in life and love will come to you when you least expect it. The more you rush it, the more it hurts when it ends. DON'T RUSH, enjoy your life.

Happily dating for 3+ years, to be married someday.

Love and hate go hand in hand.

Everyone can find someone if they try. It's not a walk in the park by any means. Relationships are trying.

Don't force love, find someone you enjoy being around... see what happens.

Well do you have any really good friends? Do you really care about your parents or siblings? If you care about any of them, then you are fully capable of loving another person.

If you think you 'might' be in love with someone, and you want to be in love with them. Chances are you really do care about them, and a good chance you love them as well. It sounds like you are more nervous than anything. Though its a relationship worth exploring.

For me it's the exact opposite, I fall in love multiple times a day. Too many hot girls... =D

Originally Posted by ChaybaChayba

For me it's the exact opposite, I fall in love multiple times a day. Too many hot girls... =D

No you don't.

I think there is a smaller percentage of people that are capable of truly loving anyone other than themselves or their family, than many people think. But maybe I'm just pessimistic, or have a different kind of idea of what love really is. I can say that about 90% of the time, highschool "love" is not love. Dating, breaking up, and never wanting to speak to that person again is not love. Not accepting others' downfalls as part of who they are, is not love.

But as others in the thread have said, it's nothing to worry about. In fact, there is also a small percentage of people that aren't happy unless they feel they are in love (which likely means they really aren't).

And you don't want to be one of those people.

Find happiness in yourself, and in giving to others. And love comes around when its supposed to. Love isn't always instantaneous.

But I would think that analyzing it and comparing it to other past feelings might be a way of talking yourself out of a relationship that could eventually be love...and giving yourself some sort of complex, thinking you are uncapable of it, might make it more difficult to open yourself up let others in....

I'm 21 years old, I've been in "love" once. Since her I've not cared about any girl at all what so ever in a "love" way, no where close.

So, I suffer from your disease now. :]

Love is disease that should be gotten rid of.

Originally Posted by nitsuJ

I'm 21 years old, I've been in "love" once. Since her I've not cared about any girl at all what so ever in a "love" way, no where close.

So, I suffer from your disease now. :]

Love is disease that should be gotten rid of.

No.
Whys everyone sound so morbid, relax and stop searching so desperatly and things will end up all right.. Or expect failure, and why else do you expect?

Be careful to not too get wrapped up in a Hollywood version of what love "should be". Love is different for everyone.
I've been in several serious relationships and married twice. Yet I've never been what most people would call "in love". I can live without another person by my side. I don't need someone to validate or rescue me and I don't feel overly compelled to do such for someone else either.
For me, love is finding a dear friend you could happily spend forever with. It's wanting to be around them, the first person you want to talk to when you're happy or sad, it's wanting to learn all about them and sharing secrets with them. And most of all, it's loyalty.

You're young. Don't feel bad, don't rush things because you or others think you "should". Take your time and enjoy life and enjoy looking for your special someone.

I really did fall in love. I've also experienced this "fake love". She didn't feel the same, though. Of course, it was clear to me that any relationship between us would fail epically, so I decided it was best we be friends....but eventually our friendship was ripped apart due to her refusal to tell the truth. I still think of the girl who was subject to my desire every day. She was the best friend I had in a long time. I probably would have forgotten sooner, but I have not anyone to replace her. It's weird, she was so nice, but she was an extremely subtle attention whore. Guess I got lured into her trap. But still, I wish we were still friends.

I envy psychopaths, who are incapable of feelings such as fear or love. They do not carry typical human burdens.