Dreams and Reality bleeding together?

**Theepicdreamer** · 01-27-2014 07:12 AM

So before, all was fine, because I interacted alot with people in real life
But now the 2 most important people in my life, a girl literally from my dreams who lives a state away, and a past fling now with some guy, I communicate completely and almost completely respectively through Instant messaging. The problem being that I have been getting very realistic dreams in which the topics of which are quite delicate, such as the past fling leaving her boyfriend for me in a text in a dream. I have so far been able to *mostly* stay in front of these, making sure not to confuse dreams and reality, but I'm still worried. What do I do

**severed13** · 01-27-2014 11:17 PM

This is amazing. I only so far know a few individuals who have had dreams this realistic. I have nothing to say at the moment, but keep that mind of yours going.

**Validus** · 01-28-2014 12:00 AM

Well, I mean.. You could use reality checks if your legitametely having a hard time distinguishing RL from the DW. Maybe if it's possible, make that dream a reality so you won't have to worry..?

**Laurelindo** · 01-28-2014 03:36 PM

If you really keep a lookout for dreamsigns whenever you feel like you could be dreaming, chances are very high that you will notice something that is at least slightly incosistent with your waking life.
I doubt that a dream can mimic waking life so well that every single detail is perfect for longer than a couple minutes.

**StephL** · 01-28-2014 05:57 PM

Hm - sounds like wishful thinking making you believe you not only dreamt of something - but actually remember it.
Like that girl leaving her boyfriend for you - you probably had such a positive psychological reaction to that dream-fact, that your day-time mind wants to believe.

Happened to me, too - a dream was very close to actual reality and something happened in it, which could also have happened irl - and for a short moment, I thought, it had really been happening. Even something completely banal.

It's rare - and you sound, as if you also get to notice the mix-up - don't worry - I expected wilder stuff, clicking this thread.
You mention specifically, that you don't have close contacts irl, now that girl has a boyfriend and is geographically remote from you.
Sounds trivial - and is not so easy to do maybe - but go out more - get to meet new people and try to solve your fixation on the past and this unhappy love-story.

**benni** · 01-28-2014 06:06 PM

Is there no option of changing this situation? Like catching up with those people or so? Either way I think the above advice is great - RCs should always do the job and maybe you could try finding a solution in your LDs? I'm sure that if you are willing to distinguish dream and reality and try finding a solution within your dreams as well as your waking life then you will probably be okay.
Are those realistic dreams that you have usually very similar to your situation in waking life?

**LucasPotter** · 01-28-2014 06:26 PM

That happens to me sometimes, usually when I'm sleep deprived, so I have some advices: ADA (all-day-awareness). If you pay attention to your surroundings, you'll be able to notice when things are real and when there's something weird going on. Reality checks, because sometimes all you need is to question reality for two seconds to realise it's not real at all. And finally, write on your dream journal everytime you wake up. Not only it'll help you identify dream signs, but it might be very helpful to have your dreams written down. If you use the dream journals here, you can tag your entries, so you can use, for example, "girl A" for the girl you like and then you'll have all your dream interactions with her under one tag. Then, if you're confused about something, you can just check the tag and you'll see if it really happened of it was just a dream.

Good luck!