Hi Misanthrope392. It sounds like you already have gotten some really good advice, but I'll add my 2 cents.
First off, if you really feel uncomfortable with the idea of lucid dreaming, then there is nothing wrong with backing off for a while. You don't have to give yourself any particular time limit. Just clear your thoughts of those negative images and fill them with peaceful ones. When you are in a more peaceful place in your life, whether in a few weeks or few years, then you'll know, and you can begin again in earnest.
But if you do decide to keep up the effort to become a lucid dreamer now, then here are some things that I have found through my ten years of experience. I have never had anything nightmarish show up after I have become lucid. In fact, it's always been the opposite. I will be having a non-lucid nightmare that causes me to become lucid, and being lucid completely changes my focus away from whatever bad thing was going on. And I can basically begin a new dream from a clean slate. Are any of your fears showing up in non-lucid dreams? If they are, then lucidity will give you power and control. It will give you an advantage. If they aren't showing up in non-lucid dreams then my guess is that they won't show up in lucid ones where you are more in control.
Another thing I would practice, is deciding right now thing things you want to do when you become lucid. That way, you will immediately focus on that goal, and it will fill your dream. So before going to sleep at night, or before doing a WBTB, lay in bed and visualize exactly what you want to do and how you will do it. I find when I do this, my dreams naturally seem to head in this direction even before I am lucid. I'm much more likely to question my reality and actually become lucid. And I am way more likely to remember the goal the moment I become lucid. It also gives me confidence in the dream, and things I want to accomplish come much more easily.
I was thinking about just going into the dream with the attentions of nothing negative manifesting at all and being 100% certain of that from the start, but i do not know how well this would work.
Yes, but instead of thinking about the negative thing not happening. Just focus entirely on the positive thing you want to accomplish. Intentions go a long way in dreams.
Anyway, good luck in whatever you decide to do. Just don't pressure yourself either way. When I first started to try to lucid dream. I pressured myself for a month. I'd wake up discouraged because I missed my dream sign....again. Then I decided to give up. I actually believed that since I couldn't do this, that lucid dreaming must be fake and everyone was just making things up. Haha. Yep, I actually thought that for one whole day. But the night after I gave up and stopped worrying about it, I had my first lucid dream. So sometimes it helps to relax and not stress about it for a while.
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