i'm glad this topic has received so much interest! i think, whether you ultimately decide that one should or should not be moral in dreams, it is a topic that everybody (especially everybody who does LDing!) should consider and come to a decision for your own self.
that said, i'm glad to continue the discussion. i think the video game analogy seems to work rather well. although a dream is much more realistic than a video game, it's similar in that it does not have a bearing in the real world. if i kill people in my dreams or in GTA, nobody actually dies. however, i do agree that committing immoral acts, whether real, dream, or videogame, can be degrading to one's character. note that i said can, not will. the key here is moderation. i must admit, i'm a big fan of the GTA series. but, i enjoy it much more for the missions and plot-related goals than for the potential for killing sprees. sure, sometimes when i'm pissed off at the world, i need to go on a killing spree through san andreas, but these are rare occasions, and before too long, killing sprees can get boring and i just want to get back to the story and missions. likewise with dreams. if you need to kill someone in your dream who's been really bothering you recently, do it. but don't make it a habit. dreamtime should not be your nightly killing spree.
I do however think that you shouldn't go around doing bad things too much (especially really bad things like killing and raping), because it will twist your mind. A dream isn't really like GTA. It feels more real than any game.[/b]
which is why moderation is key.
as to sex and whether dream-sex is cheating, my wife and i have a simple rule for things like porn, masturbation, etc. if it causes me to lose interest in her, then that's too much. if i don't lose interest in her, that's fine. of course, this does NOT apply to extra-marital sex, as she does not want to share me. but i would tend to put dream-sex in the same category as porn or masturbation. as long as i'm interested in her when i'm awake, it doesn't matter who i'm interested in when i'm asleep. if it got to the point where i was not interested in having sex with her, because i was just looking forward to going to sleep and having sex with my dream-mistress, that would be a problem. but until it gets to that point, there is no problem.
phowaboy, interesting thoughts on karma. i would definitely agree that it's the action and effect that affect karma. so i would think that dreams would only affect karma to the extent that they affect waking actions. if dream-violence makes me more prone to commit waking-violence, than the dream has affected my karma.
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