Significant others

**Jvail** · 01-30-2011 05:14 PM

With my developing habits involving dreaming (recalls, journals, etc.) I can see a problem ahead. My wife knows of my attempts to recall and move toward lucidity. She has no problem with it right now. I love her very much, but I do know that she can be nosy and insecure. I can see her trying to get at my most private thoughts, or becoming jealous of a dream sex partner. Has anyone had to deal with this or have any advice?

**Maria92** · 01-30-2011 05:27 PM

Either don't journal content you don't want her to see, or journal it and protect it well. You could use a journal on your computer and password protect it. Just choose a really strong password and don't write it down anywhere (but don't forget!).

**Snowboy** · 01-30-2011 05:36 PM

You can try writing down the general idea of the dream. That usually works just as well as writing out every single detail. Plus, you don't have to write down parts that could get her jealous/upset/angry/whatever.

**Alucinor XIII** · 01-30-2011 07:10 PM

You could simply use a code. For example, rather than "Had sex with X" you "went downtown with X"...yeah, that's not the best example, but you get my drift. =P

If you have a laptop/PC, you could use a password protected Word document. Not likely she'll get into that.

**Maria92** · 01-30-2011 07:46 PM

Originally Posted by Alucinor XIII

You could simply use a code. For example, rather than "Had sex with X" you "went downtown with X"...yeah, that's not the best example, but you get my drift. =P

You went to "your wife's" "kitchen" to get some "cake."

**Lorgarn** · 01-31-2011 03:27 AM

This is a social problem, which should not require a technical solution. A dream log is mich like diary, a very, very personal thing. If you do not wish anyone to read it, your significient other should respect this. I told my girlfried what I am writing down every night, and I said her she is free to read my log BUT I will not comment on anything or will defend myself for anything written down there. She has decided not do read it so far.

Regards
Lorgarn

**Drokens** · 01-31-2011 04:16 AM

My advice would be to not skip any part of your dreams. All of the parts, regardless of content, are important and should be recorded. I would either explain his to her, or just keep your journal private.

**gyan** · 02-10-2011 08:45 AM

Originally Posted by Mario92

Either don't journal content you don't want her to see, or journal it and protect it well. You could use a journal on your computer and password protect it. Just choose a really strong password and don't write it down anywhere (but don't forget!).

Regarding a strong password... Check out PasswordCake. It gives you a strong password that is also easy to remember.

**Arra** · 02-10-2011 09:26 AM

I don't know about your wife, but I personally wouldn't care if my boyfriend was having sex in his dreams. There is absolutely nothing real about a dream girl, and the purpose would be purely for sex, no emotional attachment involved. It might bother me very slightly but not much. I'm not giving advice though. You hopefully know your wife well enough to decide whether it would bother her or not, and if you don't know, what would be wrong with asking her?

It has been shown through SCIENCE that women tend to be bothered more by the idea of their partner 'emotionally cheating' on them (liking another woman in a nonsexual way or having a love relationship with another woman) than sexually cheating. With men, the opposite was found. Men tend to be more bothered by the idea of their partner sexually cheating. That's just a fact I thought might be relevant.