Feeling disconnected in my lucid dreams.

[ShiinobiiCP9]

Hey guys, this is my first post on this site and I was just wondering if you could help me out on a bit of a dilemna. I seem to be having trouble keeping a dream stable I've read all over this site about how to stabilize dreams but it feels as though im completely powerless. I've had about 6 lucid dreams and none have lasted longer than 15 seconds, it discourages me because 2 of those were WILD lucid dreams and the others were through reality checks through an already existing dream. My latest lucid dream was today. I fell asleep and noticed I was in an unfamiliar place, I was being chased by an unknown enemy and was in the middle of a long road. I couldn't really see anything to be honest, I could make out the basic shapes of things (like when you wear someones glasses and they are blurry) also I couldn't feel anything either it was like the only available sense was sight. I flew up into the sky at a fast speed and looked down at my pursuers and i noticed the dream falling apart. I closed my eyes and tried commands like 'Stabilize dream', 'increase clarity', rubbing my hands, nothing seemed to work. I have never had a lucid dream in which I have felt as though it was real life, It's as if everytime I'm lucid I can only see the dream not feel it. I'm starting to feel discouraged because even if I calm myself and attempt to meditate and be one with the surroundings it doesn't work at all. Even when I initiate a WILD it still lacks the feel and reality im looking for. The best way to put it is that I'm present in the dream I can perform very small actions but it feels like everythings muted and very numb in the sense that its like miming etc. Is there any tips you guys could give me because I have a big imagination and want to really try to experiment what I could do with dreams and find a method to lengthen them and such. Thanks for taking the time out to read this and I look forward to your help

[Hukif]

6 lucids is too little though <.< Also, first problem, don't fly fast... that will make vision blurry and the dream will fall apart like in your dream, thats common. If you are new and only sight works, take a moment or two to check on the details of stuff in the dream instead of quickly trying to do anything, that way the dream will stabilize instead of lose quality each second. And also, try to calm down. You will get your goals done with time, don't try to rush yourself or that will not help with dream stabilization lol

[Oneironaut Zero]

Also, closing your eyes isn't a great way to stabilize the dream. That puts the focus back on your mental process and takes away from visual aspect of the dream, which is likely to give you a change of scenery or at least destabilize the one you were just in. As Hukif said, take the time to slow things down. You have to get accustomed to the dream a little bit, unless your anxiety and excitement is going to probably wake you up. Look at your hands. Really look at them. Take in all the details. How many fingers do you have. How deep are the contours of your fingertips. How big are your heart-lines. Things like that. This puts more and more of your attention into the dream, instead of taking it out. Once you've done this for a moment, and your hands have become more detailed, you can look away from them, and the rest of the dream world should have increased in clarity as well. Congratulations on your first few lucids, though! Keep it up, and welcome to Dream Views!

[ShiinobiiCP9]

Thanks for the reply guys it really means alot, I will try to incorperate some of the tips you have given me into my next lucid dream and hopefully see the results and try to practice more patience.