I, too, agree with Philosopher. But it's easier said than done. Especially in this time of overcrowded schools and apathetic teachers.
I had typical bullies throughout my school life. In middle school, I was pushed down the stairs, thrown against lockers, mocked, you name it. Then a rumor was started that I was a Witch. I started carrying a rune pouch on my hip and a Bible with my books (yeah, yeah, I know) and slowly the bullying stopped. (In one school, a huge black boy took it upon himself to unofficially guard me, he'd just walk beside me and I don't think I ever learned his name).
Anyhow... people started fearing I would curse or bewitch them or something
It was wonderful lol
Then I got to highschool. People still left me alone, for the most part. But one girl always stuck gum in my hair or on my clothes in Math class. Rumors of a different sort were flying and the emotionally abuse began. I was meek, horribly shy and TINY for my age. Everyone accused me of being anorexic or being addicted to drugs, having cancer, having AIDS. I eventually dropped out during my 11th year. (Not a course I recommend).
Now my daughters are being bullied. But the playing field has changed since I was a kid. The kids now operate in gangs. I don't know how to handle that sort of thing.
I never really stood up for myself. But in the 9th grade, I had a gay friend and some giant of a guy started harassing him during lunch. It was getting bad and I stood up to the punk and told him off. The giant walked away and never bothered my friend again. I think he was more shocked than anything. I weighted all of about 80 pounds. I had no trouble defending others.
But now I'm an adult. What do I do for my kids?
I went to the cops and filed a complaint against one girl who was hounding my 13 year old daughter. But they don't have daily dealings. My 14 year old has to ride the bus with her bullies.
So, we're moving... back to the country, 45 minutes away from civilization.
That's not an option everyone has.
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