Thread: What does it feel like to be...straight?

Gay guy here. I just CANNOT for the life of me find women sexually attractive. No matter how much I look at them, pictures, videos, real life, etc., I just can't find myself having a girlfriend/wife. ...I can't even jerk-off to women. For as long as I've known, I've only found men sexually attractive. There's no way else I can describe it.

I'm just asking how YOU, straight guys, can find it possible to like women. Don't be afraid to be specific either.

Girls are welcome to contribute, obviously.

well it's pretty simple, I like to stick my cock in vaginas. I like the moist insides of them, it feels warm and smooth against my sensitive dickhead.

Originally Posted by CRAZY BONE

well it's pretty simple, I like to stick my cock in vaginas. I like the moist insides of them, it feels warm and smooth against my sensitive dickhead.

I imagine you can have the same feelings inside a man's asshole.
So no, it's not that simple, unless you agree that a man's asshole is just as appealing.

I guess it's the same idea as why some heterosexual people don't understand why we find people of the same gender appealing.

I find dicks disgusting. And some guy's constant thoughts of sex disgusting too.

Originally Posted by CRAZY BONE

well it's pretty simple, I like to stick my cock in vaginas. I like the moist insides of them, it feels warm and smooth against my sensitive dickhead.

This tells me nothing. Your reply is like a Youtube comment on a video entitled "Girl takes off top."

Originally Posted by Carrot

I guess it's the same idea as why some heterosexual people don't understand why we find people of the same gender appealing.

I find dicks disgusting. And some guy's constant thoughts of sex disgusting too.

Perhaps some heterosexual people think it's choice? Try telling a straight person when they chose to be gay. I certainly didn't choose to be gay.

Personally to me, I don't find boobs, vaginas, or any other part of the female body disgusting, I don't get turned off when I see them. I'm just...neutral. Basically, they do nothing for me.

Maybe if I tried REALLY, really hard and thought in a really sensual way, I could get off with women.

I really think most people are probably bisexual to some degree or another, and what they lean towards is based on preference and whatever environment they were raised in.

I would ask you, do you find group scene with a man and woman sexy? Do you find a man who has hormone replacement or something and big breasts but still a man where it counts attractive at all? What about someone all man but dresses semi feminine?

The point I am trying to get out is do you only find masculine men attractive? If so it is probably not just men that get you off, but the very masculine stereotypes that do. If not, and you find feminine men attractive, then why not woman with similar looks?

I bet you regardless of which it is, you can be tricked into finding a woman to be attractive, because they look like a man in some way. And if you can do that, you can probably find someone similar and without tricking you, still find that person attractive.

Well, for physical stuff, make a list of all of the things that are attractive in men. We have an arbitrary list like that for women, too.

Originally Posted by DestFinis

Perhaps some heterosexual people think it's choice? Try telling a straight person when they chose to be gay. I certainly didn't choose to be gay.

I didn't choose to be lesbian too.

If homosexual is a choice, heterosexual is a choice too.

Originally Posted by DestFinis

Personally to me, I don't find boobs, vaginas, or any other part of the female body disgusting, I don't get turned off when I see them. I'm just...neutral. Basically, they do nothing for me.

Maybe if I tried REALLY, really hard and thought in a really sensual way, I could get off with women.

I just... Hate guys sometimes.

Originally Posted by Carrot

I didn't choose to be lesbian too.

If homosexual is a choice, heterosexual is a choice too.

Ah, that's the kicker. Most people really don't think about it like that. Those who think that homosexuality is a choice practically always consider heterosexuality to be the default.

I just... Hate guys sometimes.

What do you mean by that?

Originally Posted by Indeed

What do you mean by that?

Because previously I mentioned I find certain aspects of guys disgusting, so I was explaining why.

In my experience, mostly it hurts. If you want more details, read Hemingway.

Originally Posted by Indeed

Those who think that homosexuality is a choice practically always consider heterosexuality to be the default.

A lot of times it seems like the opposite. I mean, you do have people like Santorum saying that homosexuality would disappear without gay porn (kind of a chicken and egg argument there...), but a lot of people also seem to think that without a social stigma the earth would be instantly depopulated because everyone would just scissor and sex butts.

Do gay men constantly think of other men, like straight men constantly think of women?

Originally Posted by dave1701

Do gay men constantly think of other men, like straight men constantly think of women?

Yes, furthermore, I do so identify with the OP, it's not that women are disgusting to me and the thought of being with a woman is absolutely repulsive, I just couldn't because there is NO attraction.

Originally Posted by mooseantlers

Yes, furthermore, I do so identify with the OP, it's not that women are disgusting to me and the thought of being with a woman is absolutely repulsive, I just couldn't because there is NO attraction.

You said you were a bi-mo, though. This to me suggest that your only use for any woman you've ever been with was sex. Are you admitting to everyone here at DV that you only use women for pleasure?

I don't know, maybe it's that you just have a problem controlling your sexual impulses. I mean, you're obviously a fairy, so why would have sex with a woman?

For your health!

Originally Posted by greenhavoc

You said you were a bi-mo, though. This to me suggest that your only use for any woman you've ever been with was sex. Are you admitting to everyone here at DV that you only use women for pleasure?

I don't know, maybe it's that you just have a problem controlling your sexual impulses. I mean, you're obviously a fairy, so why would have sex with a woman?

For your health!

youre bad at forums

Originally Posted by greenhavoc

You said you were a bi-mo, though

I used to think so. And @ your later post, nah I'm a male physically, and sorta both mentally. But mostly just a gay guy, that has the occaisonal strong feminine feeling, I just like the both genders symbol I'm also a virgin, so no impulses were fulfilled.

Originally Posted by dave1701

Do gay men constantly think of other men, like straight men constantly think of women?

I don't think about anything lol

Originally Posted by DestFinis

I'm just asking how YOU, straight guys, can find it possible to like women?

It is just an instinctual attraction for me, I am just naturally attracted to women. I cannot explain it in any more detail.

Originally Posted by DestFinis

Gay guy here. I just CANNOT for the life of me find women sexually attractive. No matter how much I look at them, pictures, videos, real life, etc., I just can't find myself having a girlfriend/wife. ...I can't even jerk-off to women. For as long as I've known, I've only found men sexually attractive. There's no way else I can describe it.

I'm just asking how YOU, straight guys, can find it possible to like women. Don't be afraid to be specific either.

Girls are welcome to contribute, obviously.

It's a very hard question to answer for any sexual attraction. It's impossible to tell what exactly makes it happen. For heterosexuality, you can bring up evolutionary progression to explain why certain attributes are attractive to the heterosexual person. So the best thing you can do is come up with a list of attributes.

For heterosexuals, it would be (for some) something like large breasts, wide hips, long legs, youthful face, etc.
I'm guessing homosexuals have something similar, right?

For either one, it doesn't seem possible to answer why those attributes or the combination of attributes are attractive. You can name them, and state that you find them appealing, but explaining it seems impossible, just like explaining why blue is your favorite color, or why you really like the taste of ice cream. ("It's sweet and has a nice consistency" - "Yeah well, what do you like about sweetness and the consistency?" - "Well, I like sweet things." - "Why?")

If you can't see how hard the question is to answer, try to apply the same questions to your own sexuality. How is it possible to like men? In fact, you already did answer the question.

I think it's a weird question, and weirdly I've encountered it a lot. Most people here know of my odd sexuality, and I've even seen people from within that community asking a similar question. A lot of people seem to be unable to understand how other people can percieve things differently than they do. Whatever sexuality we have, if it isn't heterosexuality, then our brains fucked something up. It's not necessarily a bad thing, and since it's so subjective, it can't be "wrong" either. It's just different.

I find the easiest way to understand these differences is to compare it to color preferences, music taste and general taste. We all like different things. It's impossible to argue the tastes because they are 100% subjective and thus there is no right answer.

However, I would like to see an arbitrary list of attractive traits from the different sexualities. I mean, what does a dendrophile find attractive in trees?

Originally Posted by Alric

I bet you regardless of which it is, you can be tricked into finding a woman to be attractive, because they look like a man in some way. And if you can do that, you can probably find someone similar and without tricking you, still find that person attractive.

Well that seems a bit unfair to me. That's just because sexuality doesn't actually work in the way we seem to want it to. We want to place tags on everything and have our sexualities target those tags. Like homosexuality means that men are attractive. But that doesn't mean all mean are attractive. So that's not really what homosexuality means, rather, it means that you're attracted to some specific bundle of characteristics that could maybe be described as "masculinity". Minus turn-offs. The brain doesn't give two shits about these tags we place on everything. It just looks for stuff that has that bundle of traits it likes, and then it runs boner.exe, no matter how much you object to it because you know it's a "trick".

So of course; if there's a woman that looks like an attractive man, then of course a gay person is going to be attracted to that woman. Because she looks like an attractive woman. That doesn't make the gay guy heterosexual, or even bisexual. To be bisexual, the gay guy would have to be attracted to someone who looks like a woman.

Conclusion: We all have specific traits we like. If you spot those traits anywhere, be it on a guy, a girl or on a dumpster - you will find it attractive unless a turn-off trait is also included.

It's just innate and yes I can probably make up a list of some of the things I find attractive about women in general but that doesn't really explain why.

The only answer is that it feels good right, brooooo.

I find my girlfriend sexually attractive (VERY sexually attractive, even thinking about it makes me want to her. lol) For the same reason you probably find men sexually attractive. Biology bro.
we are all wired differently and enjoy different things. Take fetishes for example, some people like whips some like chains. Personal prefrence.

Im offensive and i find this hetero...

Originally Posted by Myke Gregory

I find my girlfriend sexually attractive (VERY sexually attractive, even thinking about it makes me want to her. lol).

Man, I never knew there was an emoticon for that! Shame on you, internet lol.

Originally Posted by ColdCrisis

Im offensive and i find this hetero...

wat is this i dont even.

I think I'm a heterophobe. Even the thought of a vagina makes me nauseous.

I prefer it banana style.

Originally Posted by anderj101

Hahaha, I didn't notice the scared banana at first, that totally made my night.