Well, after reading that whole entire thing...I can say one thing. Speak your mind. Instead of worrying about it, sit down and talk to Joe and Pj at different times (or together if you want) to clear the fog. It may be tough to do, but it will give you reassurance. Talking always helps Just ask Joe not to get too close. If he is your friend, he'll keep that in mind. Don't do it in a rude way though, because as Adam said, it could push Pj away. Keep it calm and simple.