Quote Originally Posted by Adam View Post
There's a lot I want to say, but don't know how to say it without sounding negative. I will just jot it all down here:


That being said, they may just be good friends, like you two were before you got together, and she never cheated on her ex with you, or left her ex for you when you were so close - so why should she cheat on you, or leave you for Joe? And you cannot expect her to tell you everything, or being open to only you because she will have things she needs to talk about with other friends, and you have to accept that.

My point being that she will want to have friends, and you cannot prevent that. She will also know in her heart who she wants to be with, and at the moment she is with you, so you should be happy and treat her no different. If you start to get jealous and try to question her friendship with Joe you're likely to push her away and lose her anyway. If Joe was any sort of real friend he should know and respect the boundaries between him and PJ. try speaking to him again and asking if he has any motives other than just being friends... Seems an odd scenario to me.

Good luck.
Thank you adam for your reassuring words.

I understand that I can't fill her entire world and she needs to have friends besides me. That being said, I know that its easier for girls to maintain cross-gender friendships than it is for guys.And like I said before, she grew up as somewhat of a tomboy so she's comfortable around guys and having them as friends. Guys and girls can be different like that. I'm worried she'll let him in too close, and he'll be all to happy to be there because his crush isn't gone.

By the way, she did cheat on her ex with me. Emotionally, mentally, physically (not sex, but not just kissing). We were going out on dates way before they got the label of "dates" ya know?



we broke up last night.

I picked her up from work and we got to talking. We still love each other very much but we decided we're both not ready and not mature enough for a relationship like this.


I woke up, felt like shit then went back to bed. (no lucidity...damn) Then got woken up by her txting me seeing how I was doing.
I found out her and Joe are hanging out right now watching a movie. She called him after we broke up last night and was crying and whining over the phone.

I was trying to be as polite as humanly possible about how she might want to be careful letting him so close, but she thought I was just being paranoid and jealous. I told her thats great that she has someone. Its not an issue now but it might be later down the road if he has dual-motives.

does thinking you're the last sane person on earth make you crazy?

I called her up and explained it better. it ended well.

thx for the input, both of you guys. I know, we're all teenagers. we're dumb