Hey all. Been a while since I posted in these forums. I do alot more reading than posting tho.

Anyways, I got somewhat of an issue here. OR maybe I'm overreacting. ? I talked about it with a friend and my sister, but I wanted to hear what u unbiased people out there in web-land who don't know me thought about this. this is kind of a long read, but im hoping at least 1 person will read it and give me some good insight.


Here's the gist of it. I got a girlfriend. I'll call her Pj in this. We've been going out officially for about 2 months now. And right now I'm a little sketched out by one of her good friends getting a little too close to her for my comfort...but he's "just a friend".

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I've been getting to know this girl over the course of two years. We both graduated high school this past June. we're both 18. we became really good friends by sitting next to each other, 3 classes a day for the entire school year junior year and having one-on-one lunches for a long time. Besides having classes and lunch periods together, we began skipping class a lot to be with each other and we got to talking on the phone every now and then. I developed a crush on her and kept it from her through one of her boyfriends because I didn't want it to be an issue between us. I always put our friendship before me wanting her...but she kept leading me on like I had ground to stand on. Anyways--

Then senior year came, she broke up with the guy and I still liked her and was just waiting, giving her some time to collect herself after the guy so I could ask her out. I let her know I liked her. Little bit of flirting here and there, she found a note i didn't mean for her to find (yeeah i know, cheesey). Then I found out she liked me too. But then WHAM! She starts going out with this other guy. A handsome fellow, socialite, outgoing, drives a car, goes to college, I got no shot right?
So they go out for 10 MONTHS. the whole while me and her are still great friends. We had a few classes with each other and we would hang out outside of school once in a long while.

Apparently, I fell hard for this girl. It didn't hit me until I found out they had had sex. She was a virgin before him. That hit me like a TON of fucking bricks. I had had a crush on her, but after i found that out, i realized I fell very...very hard for this chick. We had got to talking on the phone. It grew from a few messages (txt/myspace/etc) to a few phone calls, then it grew to talking for hours at a time like 4 times a week. We just clicked really effortlessly. Every time I looked at my cell phone I'd be like "no way did 4 hours just go by". We talked about everything. childhood, growing up, God, life, death, family, school, jobs, the future, favorite stuff. man, like everything. The whole while we'd both be making jokes and stuff. Its not like we'd talk like that all the time either. it always started talking about something interesting that happened that day or something funny i heard yadya yadya yadya.

I could go deeper on that, but anyways. Bottom line, I love this girl. I'm still very much in love with this girl. She's loves me, she says she's in love with me. but lately, i dont feel it from her.

Now, here's the problem
There's this other guy. he's a friend of mine. we'll call him Joe. Joe is good friends with my gf and me, we hang out. sometimes the 3 of us, sometimes more. But anyways, I've been getting hints that Joe likes Pj...like more than a friend. I called him on it...and basically, he does. It was obvious to me, the paranoid boyfriend. He just changed depending on when me and pj were doing good and when we were having issues. He changed whether or not his "chance" was still there. ya follow?

This is where it gets tricky. Pj, my girlfriend, is very good at being friends with guys. She grew up as somewhat of a tomboy (grew up into a gorgeous girl thankfully) and is very trusting of guys and lets them in close.

That is exactly how I got so close to her. I always let her know I'd be a friend, but i was always there as something more. She let me in closer than she was with her boyfriends. She called or texted me goodnight instead of her boyfriend. She talked to me at night until she passed out at 6am. we developed such a strong and deep bond.

So I'm worried that she'll let this other guy in as close as he can get, which he'll be more than happy to do, like she did with me...also pushing me out of the picture as she realizes what I'm missing out on that Joe has.

I trust her, but I know she's a teenager like me and "love" and "in love" are strange things. I don't know if she'll develop a bond like we have, thats where I'm worried. Like theres too much of an investment in me because we're more than just friends. And Joe is more than happy to be that go-to-guy for her. If I say anything its like I'm controlling and don't trust her or him.

...which i suppose is kind of the case here.

I could go on, but thats the big picture.
Any ideas?
Thoughts?
Should I let them be friends and not worry?


-JJ [[ B166ER ]]