Thread: Questions to ask dates

"What's your view on abortion/gay rights/Iraq?" If their views on wrong, correct them.

^ Joke, NEVER ask a date that

How about "What's your favourite movie?" "Who's your favourite band/signer?"... Then discuss, a date should be a conversation, not an interview.

Originally Posted by ninja9578

"What's your view on abortion/gay rights/Iraq?" If their views on wrong, correct them.

^ Joke, NEVER ask a date that

How about "What's your favourite movie?" "Who's your favourite band/signer?"... Then discuss, a date should be a conversation, not an interview.

HAHA
Yeah I wouldn't ask that. I semi-agree about the not an interview thing. I think girls like to talk about themselves, so I tend to think asking more questions than talking about myself would be better.

Cummon people! Please give me some more ideas.

You should maybe have more of a concept in your head, rather than a
certain question, you want to ask. Think of something you find interesting
that she might, too, and casually bring that up. The questions will then
evolve out of the conversation.

But my questions would be in a field I was interested in. I would maybe
bring up lucid dreaming and then see her reactions and judge from them,
if it would be a good idea to go into more detail.

I would strike up a conversation about travelling, for example, and the
questions would come naturally. 'where have you been?' 'O rly, I was there
once, how did you like the _______'.

What I guess is a good idea as well, is to find out more about her. But here
you should actually have an interest in the persona and not asking rehearsed
'standart questions'. You may start off with 'Do you have any siblings?', but
whatever comes next is dependent on what she has to say.

But all in all, you'd just really benefit, if you'd concentrate on a more natural
conversation flow, especially in dating, sincerity goes a long way.

Originally Posted by dajo

You should maybe have more of a concept in your head, rather than a
certain question, you want to ask. Think of something you find interesting
that she might, too, and casually bring that up. The questions will then
evolve out of the conversation.

But my questions would be in a field I was interested in. I would maybe
bring up lucid dreaming and then see her reactions and judge from them,
if it would be a good idea to go into more detail.

I would strike up a conversation about travelling, for example, and the
questions would come naturally. 'where have you been?' 'O rly, I was there
once, how did you like the _______'.

What I guess is a good idea as well, is to find out more about her. But here
you should actually have an interest in the persona and not asking rehearsed
'standart questions'. You may start off with 'Do you have any siblings?', but
whatever comes next is dependent on what she has to say.

But all in all, you'd just really benefit, if you'd concentrate on a more natural
conversation flow, especially in dating, sincerity goes a long way.

That's definitely good advice. Thanks dajo!

Well, here are some things NOT to ask:

"Are you a Democrat or a Republican?"

"Do you masturbate frequently?"

"Do you believe in fairies?"

"I'm a Scientologist, are you?"

Instead of asking too many surface-level interview-type questions, try to go deeper. I mean, really, what you WANT to be finding out is what her passions are, and what makes her feel wonderful.

You SHOULD NOT ask too many questions on a date. Then you'll look like your boring average guy, because that's what they all do. No matter how interesting the question is, too many will do you harm. Just aim at having fun, there's no point in making the date an "interview." Remember when your on a date it's not about "exchanging information" but having a fun, relaxing time and remember-able. Just make sure you do not talk about boring topics, and remember to just have fun!

and if you dont know what shes taking about don't just say that you do cause it will came around to bite you in the ass.

Ask them what their interests are, who they be with. Things to make them smile, what numbers to dial.

Want to have sex


har har

save this^ one for a later date, not in the single digits lol


I would let you in on my technique but it's a sacred art handed down from master to student through the ages, and i'm not yet in a position to be handing it down yet.

What i can do is give a snippet: When she smiles big try to smile small, don't do the mimic thing most guys NATURALLY do, it can make you look shallow and desperate (some times). Rather try to appear different and unique, but not too much to where you're a big walking question mark. Make her want to find out what makes you tick, maybe throw in a " I'll save that for another time" or " i'll think on that and let you know next (whatever your date is, ie movies, miniature golf, or throw in something you'd like to do on the next date)". This lets her know that you plan on taking her on another date, or at least that you're confident enough of yourself to hope for another date with her, and that also you're enjoying her company enough to already be thinking of the next date. Don't however use "Calendar Dates" as this will make you look too demanding and controlling.

The way i usually go about it is: I give the girl my number, invite them to call me regarding the upcoming weekend and a certain event. This usually puts her in the position of control for the first date which most girls enjoy, seeing as they will be judging you on whether or not to grant a second.

I could go on but i now feel like a pig for sharing parts of the trade. Ladies i apologize if i seemed like an ass about this, just something to help the guy out, and am not meaning for these to be used to undermine any female and coerce her into a meaningless sexual encounter,

though

sexual encounter

may be a side effect of these steps

Don't ask her questions and don't answer her dumb ass questions.

Thanks guys! Guess I've got some things to think about.

I've got some things I could bring up, but it doesn't seem like I could keep a conversation going for even an hour. Movies, Dancing (she dances), Art.... lol that's all I can think of, I guess I'll have to hope the conversation itself sparks some ideas and take your advice!

another thing, avoid politics, politics and religion. Avoid them like them plague, if she brings them up, then so be it. The reason i say this is that while it could bring up a powerful response, it will usually dampen the mood and are two hard subjects to change from in a conversation.

Some topics that are good neutral grounds:
travel;
art;
entertainment;
preferred foods;
if he/she has been out of country;
recent events in the media (remember no political or religious);
hobbies;
siblings;
family in general;
weather (use only once very briefly);
profession/job;
do not stray into past relationship convo, this is bad territory unless you're very close or she openly divulges the info, don't talk about your past girlfriends either;
find out if she likes sports;
books;
my personal favorite "So what do you like to do on a rainy day?"
it doesn't dive to deep but allows her to share as much as she wants, and has the potential to open other avenues in the conversation.

Remember that she'll most likely talk to someone about you, and think about how you want to make an impression on her. Most of all, be yourself. Good luck man, i'm just getting back into the game myself, having to refresh myself...

Walk in having planned out the conversation.

Having decided what topics to cover. What questions to ask. What jokes to tell.

That'll be fun.

If you can't talk with a girl for over an over without running dry, then she isn't the girl for you. Unless you're the physical type. But this is you. Asking for help. On the internet.
You are not the physical type.

Originally Posted by Siиdяed

Walk in having planned out the conversation.

Having decided what topics to cover. What questions to ask. What jokes to tell.

That'll be fun.

If you can't talk with a girl for over an over without running dry, then she isn't the girl for you. Unless you're the physical type. But this is you. Asking for help. On the internet.
You are not the physical type.

Oh I AM the physical type. I've just never been on a date before. Not this this is really a date, but it may as well be, if you know what I mean.

Thanks heaps Memento, I think I may write those down and try to remember them lol

I always ask them if they are gay.

It's important, you know.

Don't plan too much. Be natural. If you guys truly click it shouldn't be hard.

The best things to talk about are politics and religion.

just kidding of course

I started to ask this very same question not too long ago . . . but it sort of became a moot point after our insanely long phone conversations, honestly.

Just talk about everything. You can lead the conversation, or you can follow, depending on how talkative she is and you are. Ask her about not just the facts, but how she feels about them. Share your own ideas, opinions, feelings. If you guys click, like Xox says, good shit will happen, and you'll not want to stop talking. Hours will go by, the sun will start to come up, and you'll go, "Damn, I have to be at work in twenty minutes," before you know it.

The thing is also that there's just not only one way.

Even though politics for most is a turn off, it is entirely possible that you can
have a date, who is into it. While some want to talk about themselves, some
may want to hear more about you. For some, being nice is a reason to date
you, for others it is a reason not to date you. You've got to feel it, don't
concentrate on yourself and what you should say next too much, but also
focus on her.

It's bullshit that you couldn't keep up a conversation for an hour. If it
comes down to it, you can talk about anything - and you have posted in
a variety of different topics here, so it's hard to believe you couldn't think
of anything to talk about. It's important that you have an image of yourself
of someone who is good at this, because then, you are. It's just talking.

It's bullshit that you couldn't keep up a conversation for an hour. If it
comes down to it, you can talk about anything - and you have posted in
a variety of different topics here, so it's hard to believe you couldn't think
of anything to talk about. It's important that you have an image of yourself
of someone who is good at this, because then, you are. It's just talking.

Thanks dajo, that's true. I just get nervous if I talk for too long. But I think you're right. Because sometimes when I get really in to a conversation I don't think about that. I guess I just need to practice not concentrating on myself so much, and more just the conversation. THANKYOU!

Originally Posted by Kromoh

I always ask them if they are gay.

It's important, you know.

Hehe, probably you should find that out beforehand.

My place or yours?

I bought a new bed, wanna try it out?

Ask the above BEFORE dessert. Not after. If you ask her after, you blew it.

Originally Posted by Jeff777

blew it.

obviously not