Thread: Ask me about being Transgender

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Thanks for the answers!

Please allow me a final attempt at debugging: since you are attracted to women - what if you fall in love with a straight girl?

Have you been in love before?

5 Bits of Advice That Don't Make Sense Until It's Too Late | Cracked.com #5 is the relevant one. I've always been a big fan of the whole million-fish-in-the-sea idea, so I'd be just as likely to turn around and "fall in love" with some other random girl. Eventually, one of them will be a lesbian. The only real way I could actually love a straight girl is if she thinks she's gay for years and then suddenly wakes up straight (which doesn't happen). I can't change to accommodate that. If she doesn't love me for who I am, the relationship is destined to fail.

I've been in infatuation before, but not love.

Respect. I tried.

Just out of curiosity: if you had to narrow it down to one single variable, what would you say made you this way?

I was actually looking forward to a conversation with you, but the moment I read this:

Originally Posted by Mario92

Have a question, serious or goofy? Ask away. Please don't troll. Religious extremists eager to condemn me to hell can piss right the fuck off.

I knew anything I said that hit home would either be deleted by a mod, or blamed on trolln and simply avoided all together.
Later, guy.

Lies. Mario92 was great at answering my questions, which could easily be construed as rude.

are you born with penis? and you replaced with a vagina

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Thanks for the answers!

Please allow me a final attempt at debugging: since you are attracted to women - what if you fall in love with a straight girl?

Have you been in love before?

This is exactly the same problem as a lesbian falling in love with a straight girl, or a gay guy falling in love with a straight guy, or of course the reverse, a straight person falling in love with a homosexual person. There's not much you can do about it really. You just have to let them go.

Ever worry its not going to be as great as you hope? Like you might not feel feminine enough or right, even after hormones and surgery?
How much is all this gonna end up coasting?

@ Jeff -

Didn't I already answer this?

Squishy boobs was not a serious answer to Squishdiboo's question, more a play on her name.

And - Damn!!

I heard they can't change the voice, is it true?

Originally Posted by pllplp

Ever worry its not going to be as great as you hope? Like you might not feel feminine enough or right, even after hormones and surgery?
How much is all this gonna end up coasting?

Can't speak from experience, but I would be surprised if it wasn't enough. Hormones do so much.

Are you female in dreams? Lucid or not.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Respect. I tried.

Just out of curiosity: if you had to narrow it down to one single variable, what would you say made you this way?

The current theory is that during development in the womb, there is enough testosterone present to shape the genitals but not enough to make the brain develop as male. Puberty is really what makes males men and females ladies. Marvo is right, the hormones do amazing things. I'll essentially have a second puberty.

Originally Posted by marwanin

are you born with penis? and you replaced with a vagina

That's the general idea, yeah.

Originally Posted by pllplp

Ever worry its not going to be as great as you hope? Like you might not feel feminine enough or right, even after hormones and surgery?
How much is all this gonna end up coasting?

I'm not too worried about it. I shaved my arms and legs about a week ago and it still feels like exactly the right thing to do. I'm already pretty feminine, and it feels pretty good.
This whole fiasco should take up between $10,000 and $20,000. Around half of that goes to the SRS. The rest is for laser hair removal, electrolysis, hormones, and clothes.

Originally Posted by TruMotion

I heard they can't change the voice, is it true?

They can't change it surgically. FtM's do get a deeper voice with hormones, but FtM's are stuck with longer vocal cords. That said, it is possible to learn how to use your voice in a new default tone (and I'm well underway with this fun learning experience), which means it is possible to get a female voice. Using it becomes natural and subconscious after a little while, such that it becomes your own.

Originally Posted by Marvo

Can't speak from experience, but I would be surprised if it wasn't enough. Hormones do so much.

Bingo bango bongo. It's called magic girly juice for a reason.

Originally Posted by MischiefManaged

Are you female in dreams? Lucid or not.

I don't recall much, but I've been female much more frequently as of late. I initially took up lucid dreaming with the intention of switching sexes.

oh !!

how could you cut off your penis? and replaced it by vagina?

I just can't imagine that


and what about your friends and family ? one day will found you wearing lingeries with huge fake boobs lol ( fake vagina too )

I feel sorry for you.

Originally Posted by marwanin

oh !!

how could you cut off your penis? and replaced it by vagina?

I just can't imagine that


and what about your friends and family ? one day will found you wearing lingeries with huge fake boobs lol ( fake vagina too )

I feel sorry for you.

Troll check?

SRS is a bit more detailed than 'lop it off'. Feel free to use Wikipedia for all the fun details.

As I mentioned above, I'm not looking to get a boob job. I'm quite fond of small breasts. My friends and family are fully supportive and even eager to take me out shopping.

Of all the people to feel sorry for, it's your own neck you should be concerned about. I pity you.

Originally Posted by Mario92

Marvo is right, the hormones do amazing things. I'll essentially have a second puberty.

That really sucks.
Female dude, I respect you and your courage. I don't think I'd have the guts to do what you did.
I'd like to know what it feels like to have a vagina though

Originally Posted by TruMotion

That really sucks.
Female dude, I respect you and your courage. I don't think I'd have the guts to do what you did.
I'd like to know what it feels like to have a vagina though

I'm not too worried about it. The first puberty didn't hit very hard at all, and the second one comes with breasts! Happy fun time.

Part of the body map is that I already sort of do know what it feels like.

And suddenly the anime girls in your sig take on a whole new significance...

Like a reverse boner I'd imagine.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

[...] if you had to narrow it down to one single variable, what would you say made you this way?

Originally Posted by Mario92

The current theory is that during development in the womb, there is enough testosterone present to shape the genitals but not enough to make the brain develop as male. Puberty is really what makes males men and females ladies. Marvo is right, the hormones do amazing things. I'll essentially have a second puberty.

Ah, I see now; a hardware problem - which explains why it didn't compile. May I ask why you have not considered testosterone therapy yet?

On a less serious note: did you know that beer contains female hormones?
They recently did a study and isolated a group of men, feeding them only beer. After just a few days they argued over nothing, refused to apologise when obviously wrong, talked excessively without making sense, became overly emotional and couldn't drive.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Ah, I see now; a hardware problem - which explains why it didn't compile. May I ask why you have not considered testosterone therapy yet?

For the same reason regular women don't take testosterone treatment; she is a girl. It is 100 times easier and feels much better to just accept your true nature, rather than struggling against it.

And your programming analogy is creepy and terrible.

Sorry about that. But you are right; he is doing this to avoid pain or gain pleasure. Exactly like everything that every man in all of history has ever done; avoid pain or gain pleasure, 1 or 0. The only difference always is what we link pain and pleasure to. And this poor kid has his pains and pleasures badly wired. Worst of all is that everyone seems too busy trying to be pc to try and help.

Your true nature is a predator that has survived 3.8 billion years of evolution. Your truer nature, however, is a much more recent neocortex. Although it may feel better to accept your animal instincts, it is rarely for the best. Struggling against it and conquering it is what makes us human.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Ah, I see now; a hardware problem - which explains why it didn't compile. May I ask why you have not considered testosterone therapy yet?

Because that's going exactly the wrong way. Besides, my mind is already hardwired female. Flooding it with testosterone won't make any difference. It's what's been happening for years, actually. The way testosterone makes me feel is really not good. Hormones work on a threshold basis. They don't do much at all until a certain amount is in the system, and then they can't do any more, and they can't do any less, no matter how much extra you pump in.

On a less serious note: did you know that beer contains female hormones?
They recently did a study and isolated a group of men, feeding them only beer. After just a few days they argued over nothing, refused to apologise when obviously wrong, talked excessively without making sense, became overly emotional and couldn't drive.

Some, but not enough, and certainly not a testosterone blocker. Testosterone is the trump card of hormones, and will suppress the hell out of anything else in your system.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Sorry about that. But you are right; he is doing this to avoid pain or gain pleasure. Exactly like everything that every man in all of history has ever done; avoid pain or gain pleasure, 1 or 0. The only difference always is what we link pain and pleasure to. And this poor kid has his pains and pleasures badly wired. Worst of all is that everyone seems too busy trying to be pc to try and help.

Remarkable, you take binary thinking to a new level. The reality is that gender and sex are not black and white.

It's not bad, it's just different. I'm getting all the help I need in the form of proper hormone replacement and friends I can confide in. It isn't something that can be corrected psychologically. Just as you can't turn gay, you can't turn into a guy or a girl. You're born what you are, and no matter how you struggle, it can't be changed. Honestly, trying to correct this from a mental standpoint would cause massive trauma and potentially suicide. It would be denying who I've been for 19 years.

Your true nature is a predator that has survived 3.8 billion years of evolution. Your truer nature, however, is a much more recent neocortex. Although it may feel better to accept your animal instincts, it is rarely for the best. Struggling against it and conquering it is what makes us human.

Turn into a girl. You, I'm talking about you specifically now. Go out, put on a dress, panties, a bra, a wig, and some makeup. Shave your face, legs, and arms. Don't tell anyone you're a guy. Now do this 24/7 forever. Feeling uncomfortable? Don't worry, you'll get used to it. Just fight against your primitive feelings of embarrassment. Fight all those manly instincts. Here, have some estrogen and let me know how you feel in a week.

Welcome to my world.

Wow, awesome post.

Much respect.

I am beginning to understand. I knew nothing of your world.

Originally Posted by Mario92

Turn into a girl. You, I'm talking about you specifically now. Go out [...]

That is the least I can do for bearing with me for so long:

Spoiler for R18 SNVL NSFW (will be removed shortly... pm Mario for a copy):

Smack My Bitch Up

I'm not trans but if a wizard appeared and I had a chance to become 100% totally and completely a man, I'd probably change. I think I'd just enjoy that body more, though I do love my lady body. Even better would be the ability to change 100% between male and female each month.

Anyways! I'm going to donate all of my points to you so you can change your username should you want to, and here's my question: I don't know your current name in real life but are you going to change it to something more feminine? If so, what names have you considered? Name-changing seems like it'd be so much fun. :3