Thread: Tell me: What is the best way to tell a guy I'm not interested???

Originally Posted by Aquanina

haha...men are so goddamn stupid

Originally Posted by Aquanina

haha...men are so goddamn stupid

Most men.

And I didn't read through it all, so I'm sure this is already been said... but telling them pointblank really is the best way, in the end.

You can go through the different scenarios of this... like what could happen if you used any indirect way of saying it, is he'll follow you around like a puppy dog thinking you are "almost" interested in him, and it'll take just a little more convincing. Which irritates you more, which may lead to an even more rash way of telling him you're not interested by telling him to fuck off XD Or you could hope the indirect way will sink in and he'll move on.

Directly placed, he knows you're not interested in him. I suggest you do it nicely, while still being direct. A few reactions come of this... either they are mature about it, and move on, or they take it as offensive, cry, ask why you don't like them blah blah blah... in which case proving you made the right decision by not accepting them.

Anyone who would be sad or angry from hearing simply "I'm sorry, but I'm not really interested" will have to grow up, and confronting this will be good for them.

Originally Posted by Oneironaut

you heard me

Originally Posted by Aquanina

you heard me

I also hear politicians spit bs all day, every day. Doesn't mean that what they're saying necessarily holds any weight.

I was looking for you to elaborate, not repeat yourself.

Originally Posted by Oneironaut

I also hear politicians spit bs all day, every day. Doesn't mean that what they're saying necessarily holds any weight.

I was looking for you to elaborate, not repeat yourself.

Her statement holds water, but only with that little change. "most men".

If you're any sort of Gentleman, One, you notice those who share our gender and no other traits about us :/

Then again. If most guys are dumbasses, so too, a lot of girls are whores.

ROLF. Sexist thread potential.

Originally Posted by AspirationRealized

Her statement holds water, but only with that little change. "most men".

If you're any sort of Gentleman, One, you notice those who share our gender and no other traits about us :/

Then again. If most guys are dumbasses, so too, a lot of girls are whores.

ROLF. Sexist thread potential.

Therein lies the problem with her statement.

However there is a difference between saying what many/most men are and what all men are (which is what is implied by not specifying).

No offense, but it's not your place to change the statement for her. If that's her intention, she needs to make the distinction, herself. There are a lot of things that I can say many women are, but if I was just to come out and say "Women are whores," that would warrant a little more explanation than someone stepping in and saying "what you meant to say is many/most women are whores" for me, because I may have, in fact, said exactly what I'd intended to say.

Originally Posted by Oneironaut

Therein lies the problem with her statement.

However there is a difference between saying what many/most men are and what all men are (which is what is implied by not specifying).

No offense, but it's not your place to change the statement for her. If that's her intention, she needs to make the distinction, herself. There are a lot of things that I can say many women are, but if I was just to come out and say "Women are whores," that would warrant a little more explanation than someone stepping in and saying "what you meant to say is many/most women are whores" for me, because I may have, in fact, said exactly what I'd intended to say.

Truth being told. But its a simpler way of redirecting her message to what I believe. As in... I believe that statement is correct, if you were to change this here.

Then again people tend to generalize quite readily o0

Originally Posted by AspirationRealized

Then again people tend to generalize quite readily o0

Exactly my point.

I understand what you saying, though, but unless that's what Nina actually meant, my still stands.

Originally Posted by Oneironaut

Exactly my point.

I understand what you saying, though, but unless that's what Nina actually meant, my still stands.

I can't tell if she was joking or not >.>

then let me rephrase for you...

people are so goddamn stupid

And I don't care if you say "all women are whores" ...being as I'm NOT a whore, I wouldn't take offense or be bothered by it. Hint.

Originally Posted by Aquanina

then let me rephrase for you...

people are so goddamn stupid

And I don't care if you say "all women are whores" ...being as I'm NOT a whore, I wouldn't take offense or be bothered by it. Hint.

But I know from experience that not all women are whores ^_^ just a lot of them.

Originally Posted by AspirationRealized

But I know from experience that not all women are whores

you mean you know from lack of experience.

oh and just tell the dude he's ugly. that should do it.

Originally Posted by Aquanina

then let me rephrase for you...

people are so goddamn stupid

And I don't care if you say "all women are whores" ...being as I'm NOT a whore, I wouldn't take offense or be bothered by it. Hint.

You would have no reason to believe I was talking about you, because my comment wouldn't have come directly after a reply from you and someone else, who happened to disagree with something I'd recently said. Hint.

So, let me rephrase:

What is it about the context of this thread (or, in particular, the portion between your "men are so goddamn stupid" post and your post before it) that caused you to say "men are so goddamn stupid"?

That's all I'm asking.

Originally Posted by Michael

you mean you know from lack of experience.

oh and just tell the dude he's ugly. that should do it.

You don't have to sleep with a woman, and then pay for it, to tell she is a whore...

Originally Posted by AspirationRealized

You don't have to sleep with a woman, and then pay for it, to tell she is a whore...

Duh, that would make her a hooker.

Originally Posted by Michael

Duh, that would make her a hooker.

-.-

lol @ this thread

Um, what, aquanina? Men are stupid when they don't understand what women want... and stupid when women don't understand what men want (because men have stupid needs)?

Right, I think I get it now.

This thread almost makes me want to change back to my feminism avatar.

I've always held that men are stupid. I've also always held that women are stupid. Everybody's stupid, just some more than others.

Well I think that men and women are both stupid...just in different ways.

If you guys really want some proof I should just show you my PM box. I mean, shit...talk about NOT being able to take a hint. And I'm not one for subtlety. I'll say straight up, leave me alone! And they still don't effing listen.

Guy: "Hello, I'm so and so, I'm going to add you on AIM."
Guy: "Hello, why are you not adding me? I want to talk to you!"
Guy: "Are you ignoring me on purpose?"
Guy: "I need to tell you something important!!"
Me: "What!?"
Guy: "Am I bothering you?
Me: "Yes"
Guy: "Should I leave you alone?"
Me: "YES!"
Guy: "Ok, I'll leave you alone."
Guy: "Are you feeling better today?
Me: "NO"
Guy: "Do you still want me to leave you alone?"
Me: "Please leave me alone!!"
Guy: "You're a bitch."

This is directed at no one in particular, so if it looks suspiciously like a PM conversation I've had with you don't take offense. But please take a hint in the future.

Haha! This thread is so interesting. Hopefully it will help out others in similar situations in the future.

Anyway Nina, GAH I've had similar conversations (the "bitch" at the end.. how mature.. ). There's a guy on facebook who keeps trying to add me as his friend.

Guy: Why won't you add me?
Guy: Why are you ignoring me, buddy?
Me: You're not my friend.
Guy: Why? We were in high school...
Me: No we weren't. Leave me alone.
Guy: Okay, I'll leave you alone if you tell me what I did to deserve this.
Me: I'm just not your friend. Get over it. I'm going to report you if you contact me again.

Heh. I may have seemed a bit harsh there, but this same guy does this ALL THE TIME. I'm actually pretty damn convinced he's mentally retarded now.

Anyway, I'm sure most guys aren't like this though.

From my observations, I can't help but come to the conclusion that girls have a tendency to be a bit crueler to guys than guys are to girls, what with the little games that they play and so on. Hmm. I wonder why this is.

I never used to be "cruel" to guys...I'm just SOOO freaking tired of being harassed by idiotic and unattractive men who think I should be dying to talk to them...and when I'm not I'm automatically labeled as a bitch.

If you grab my ass...do NOT expect to get away with it. Does that make me a bitch? If so, then I guess I'm a bitch. *shrugs*

Yeah. Sorry guys...but you'll find no sympathy here.

Originally Posted by Aquanina

Well I think that men and women are both stupid...just in different ways.

If you guys really want some proof I should just show you my PM box. I mean, shit...talk about NOT being able to take a hint. And I'm not one for subtlety. I'll say straight up, leave me alone! And they still don't effing listen.

Guy: "Hello, I'm so and so, I'm going to add you on AIM."
Guy: "Hello, why are you not adding me? I want to talk to you!"
Guy: "Are you ignoring me on purpose?"
Guy: "I need to tell you something important!!"
Me: "What!?"
Guy: "Am I bothering you?
Me: "Yes"
Guy: "Should I leave you alone?"
Me: "YES!"
Guy: "Ok, I'll leave you alone."
Guy: "Are you feeling better today?
Me: "NO"
Guy: "Do you still want me to leave you alone?"
Me: "Please leave me alone!!"
Guy: "You're a bitch."

This is directed at no one in particular, so if it looks suspiciously like a PM conversation I've had with you don't take offense. But please take a hint in the future.

You didn't have to publicly humiliate me