Thread: I don't know why I can't attain Lucidity.

Sure thing Thank you for asking.

My way is just an indirect way of achieving dream recall, awareness, DILDs, awakenings during the night (WBTB)

But what I do is not important, what's important is that I continue to do it.

To put it simply:

The things I mentioned above are all actions that are intrinsically good (good in themselves) and they make me enter a state of mind that I enjoy.
No fap makes me happier do not ask me why I honestly do not know, meditation also makes me happier also it's a bit of a mystery to why, and sleep is essential for us and also makes us happier, again we still don't know why.

So my three steps are simply just MY way of enjoying taking action.

However, when you do something instrumentally which means that you do the action PRIMARILY to achieve something else, which isn't bad but when you don't enjoy this action... well it is bad because then you are basically a slave to the technique.

Happiness (or continuous motivation) does not come from the result, it comes from enjoying the action. The people who are happy with their jobs are those who don't need to get paid anything at all in order to do what they do. And since they enjoy what they do they take 400% more action than the average person and the big result is just a bonus not the price.

So when you choose a lucid dreaming technique make sure that you enjoy the practise more than the result and the result will come.

What I have done through my years of practise is to get so interested in the theory behind everything, for example I once used to make a whole idea about how awakenings triggers substances in the brain that trigger logical thinking and I just enjoyed making experiments to figure out more! So I did LEARNING my primary criteria of success and I had lucid dreams from time to time, perhaps not at a mastery level but one thing is for sure, I sure had more compared to those who quit.

Also do not judge yourself and be realistic. Lucid dreaming is the act of becoming aware while you are asleep <- Read that again, do you see how advanced that skill actually is? We are really privileged to have access to this forum and all resources. But look around the forum! You are not the only one who experience problems with this. So to judge yourself and create a self-image as "The one who doesn't get lucid dreams frequently.." is equivalent to crying over having five fingers one your hand.. You are not a special snowflake!

So with the knowledge of knowing that this practise is not a walk in the park and most people give up you should really give yourself a pat on the back each time you practise this.

Last advice: When you feel down, watch motivational videos! Or meditate... But if you can't stop thinking, fill your mind with better thoughts!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5WY2RWWVkA