Thread: What causes physical attraction?

A little makeup's fine, but some girls overdo it and heavy makeup can be a bit of a turn off. For the most part, I don't really care; a lot of girls look better with very little on, if any. Some can look a little drained without it though so even a bit of eyeliner or eye shadow can make a big difference. When it comes down to it though, it's not really something that'll either make or break a relationship (imo).
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Is it weird to gravitate towards girls with emotional baggage (for lack of a better term)? Like if I had a choice between two equally attractive girls to go out with, I'd probably choose the one that's going through a rough time or has in the past. It's not that I'm insecure and lack self-esteem or that I want to be with a depressed submissive, rife with imperfections and a troubled past so I can feel better about myself or w/e.

There was this one girl that I started spending a bit of time with after she broke up with her abusive ex and, although she left soon after she got herself together, I didn't mind much. Like I really enjoy... nurturing and accommodating I guess. That's not too odd, is it?

Originally Posted by juroara

I got a question, how do the boys and men of DVs feel about makeup? For so many women, they wouldn't dare go outside in the public without some makeup on. They believe they look ugly without it. It's insecurity in its glory! Of course you have some women who say "but I only wear a little bit of makeup" but even a little bit of makeup means you looked in the mirror and felt ugly.

I prefer my ladies without makeup, or with very little. It shows confidence, and perhaps just a touch of the "bachelorette frog" lifestyle I kinda dig.

I do think that if every woman just stopped wearing makeup, we'd all be completely fine. We'd adjust pretty quickly and then actually start to like our appearance as it is. I mean, I liked my appearance before I started wearing makeup. Not in a "I'm so gorgeous" kind of way, but a content way. If guys can live without makeup I'm sure we can too. When girls walk around with a full face of it I just want to take a makeup wipe and rub their face in it.

The worst thing is probably orange girls though. I hate fake tan.

Here's a question and a bit of a rant.

I normally take meds for anxiety. Even still, I HATE being out and around people. But when I am, I am always nice, I always smile.
I get a lot of positive feedback. People smile back if only in a friendly "how do you do" sort of way. Every now and then I catch a guy with a glint in his eye meaning he's attracted to me.

I'm off my meds for the time. I'm having adrenaline surges and problems with anger. I still hate to be out and about, but when I am, I'm still nice. I still smile. But I'm in more of a hurry and even I can perceive the giant chip on my shoulder.
MORE guys are physically attracted to me at this time.
My looks haven't changed at all, just my attitude.

Here's the rant:
Even my hubby has responded positively to me. We've not had sex in almost a year (more like 8 months, but it feels like an eternity). He frequently gets on my case about having gained weight and for taking my meds. But I'm the subservient little wifey he knows and loves and I take his grumpiness as part of his personality which I know and love. (I weighed about 98 pounds when we met, which he loved and I was okay with. Now I'm up to at least 130 which irritates my bad knees and self-image though it's still within acceptable/normal range for my height at 5'5")
I was helping him move around furniture and boxes the other day. I was so grumpy I wanted to rip his head off, so I left for about half and hour.
Last night he told me how good I had looked- that I had a glow to me seeing how I'm off the meds "they" have been keeping me doped up on. Well no. I'm still taking an ANTI-freakin-psychotic (off labeled use for anxiety). He knows that. I looked good? I reminded him I had wanted to rip his head off. He just laughed.
He does not accept anger from loved ones well. And if it comes across as a contradiction (from me), then he gets all pridefully male and acts like I just had an affair or something.

What the heck is going on lol Do men actually like attitude problems? I can write hubby off as being hubby, but everyone else?
I feel like my world's been turned upside down

I think your getting more in touch with your emotions since you've been off the meds. I'm not sure how that works for guys being attracted to you. Maybe you just notice more? Maybe your hubby is just attracted to that side of yourself.

"Maybe you just notice more?"
Nah. I'm one to always look people in the eye (not uncomfortably so though lol). If someone's physically attracted to me, I notice immediately I don't have very healthy self-esteem so their attraction always takes me by surprise. And seeing how I'm not "getting any lovin' at home", the carnal side of me especially notices because it's nice to know there's options... even if I'm not the sort of girl to give in to such inclinations

As for hubby... I think he's just being himself. He doesn't mean to be an ass, he just psychs himself out too much.
Like, when I told him I stopped smoking then lapsed and didn't tell him, he still commented on how I didn't smell like cigarette smoke (the smoke was the same but he didn't smell it because he didn't want to).
If I don't tell him I'm off my meds (I run out every once in a blue moon), he still perceives me as being doped up (which, BTW, Celexa does NOT "dope you up").
Thinking on it more, I believe he was more attracted to me because he KNOWS I'm off my meds.
But he still shouldn't have reacted positive to the anger. THAT isn't in his nature.

And men say women are hard to understand...

Sometimes it's hot when a girl is pissed off. Or angry or whatever.
Dunno why. They have to be good looking though lol

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

If I don't tell him I'm off my meds (I run out every once in a blue moon), he still perceives me as being doped up (which, BTW, Celexa does NOT "dope you up").
Thinking on it more, I believe he was more attracted to me because he KNOWS I'm off my meds.
But he still shouldn't have reacted positive to the anger. THAT isn't in his nature.

And men say women are hard to understand...

Maybe he doesn't want you to be on meds, showing anger doesn't always have to be bad, there's the friendly anger and straight out destructive anger, when one notices that it's not with bad intentions it seems cute and funny, because it's an honest expression but not necesarly a bad one.
People change and have been changing a lot lately.

hahaa. Thanks guys.
The way I've been feeling, all that's missing is the stiletto boots, leather jeans, whip and motorcycle. That would be the embodiment of the anger I've been feeling I guess that could be kind of hot

And yeah, hubby does NOT want me on meds but that's one battle he just has to lose. It's either meds or narcoleptic-ish type anxiety. Having a cataleptic attack while driving will ruin anyone's day. He might not understand that, but I do. Thus, meds FTW.

"People change and have been changing a lot lately." Maybe it's the fast approaching arrival of Spring that's doing it.

I like it when women are sane and calm...and snuggly. Yes, it's very nice when they're in the mood to cuddle. =3

I am more attracted to personality then physical beauty for example Rasberry sounds like the perfect girl. All the posts of hers I have read all point to a girl with what is in my opinion the perfect girl. For example she has (from what I have read at least) a very mature outlook of the world and is the epitome of the younger generation that I hope can bring more positivity to this world Now this could just be my tired brain talking but she does seem Perfect.

Now on the physical attractiveness side Maggie Lawson is very beautiful and so is Rachael Leigh Cook(at least in psych I haven't seen her in anything else) so they are what I find attractive with Maggie it is a blend of personality and physical attractiveness and with Rachel it is all about how beautiful she is(well actually to be frank she is mind blowingly hot) and mainly that has to do with the face but you could also say she is well endowed. Anyway sorry if this post seems a bit scattered I haven't had very much practice writing and I have had trouble sleeping lately. So if anyone could give me pointers on how to write better I would appreciate it very much.

Thanks,
Wraith500000

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About the make up I find that it is mostly unnecessary as girls and women are beautiful the way they are and don't need something to enhance their appearance (however a girl wearing Ancient Egyptian make up certainly doesn't hurt her appearance

Originally Posted by Wraith500000

I am more attracted to personality then physical beauty for example Rasberry sounds like the perfect girl. All the posts of hers I have read all point to a girl with what is in my opinion the perfect girl. For example she has (from what I have read at least) a very mature outlook of the world and is the epitome of the younger generation that I hope can bring more positivity to this world Now this could just be my tired brain talking but she does seem Perfect.

I am flattered, thank you

And your writing seems fine to me

Originally Posted by Wraith500000

I am more attracted to personality then physical beauty for example Rasberry sounds like the perfect girl. All the posts of hers I have read all point to a girl with what is in my opinion the perfect girl. For example she has (from what I have read at least) a very mature outlook of the world and is the epitome of the younger generation that I hope can bring more positivity to this world Now this could just be my tired brain talking but she does seem Perfect.

Back off she's mine! *challenges to a duel*

*Blushes*

Raspberry is too young for me and I'm probably not emotionally mature enough for her but I'll toss in on the duel here anyways. I could use someone to cook and clean for me. So after I kill Mario and Wraith, she has to come out to Maui and spend her days cleaning up after me (so it's still sorta like a relationship). If she still has time to meet her true love, then I won't interfere and I'll sell her to him/her for a reasonable price.

Originally Posted by Mario92

I like it when women are sane and calm...and snuggly. Yes, it's very nice when they're in the mood to cuddle. =3

But the damaged ones are the ones that need to be hugged more often.
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I find Raspberries rather tart; strawberries are the way to go.

Originally Posted by GavinGill

But the damaged ones are the ones that need to be hugged more often.
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I find Raspberries rather tart; strawberries are the way to go.

... LOL

@PhilosopherStoned: You're in luck that I'm a good cook. My speciality is a sort of chinese/italian chilli mince stir-fry hybrid Or fried tuna.

Maybe that's what causes attraction What's that saying? A way to a man's heart is through his belly?

Something like that

Originally Posted by Mario92

Back off she's mine! *challenges to a duel*

Your on. * pulls out links master sword from twilight princess and brings it to guard*

Originally Posted by Raspberry

@PhilosopherStoned: You're in luck that I'm a good cook. My speciality is a sort of chinese/italian chilli mince stir-fry hybrid Or fried tuna.

Maybe that's what causes attraction What's that saying? A way to a man's heart is through his belly?

You cook, too? Come with me...together, we shall make delicious meals the likes of which the world has never seen.

Originally Posted by Wraith500000

Your on. * pulls out links master sword from twilight princess and brings it to guard*

Pssh, that toy won't defeat me. *Draws Cloud's gigantic sword*

I think it's cute the way you two use this fight over Raspberry as an excuse for you guys to get together for a duel with your "swords." A clever ruse indeed, gentlemen. :]
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Anyone else think those "Dimples of Venus" on a girl's lower back are... well... awesome?

*shoots Mario and Wraith*

Asian-Italian fusion is actually my specialty. No joke. It's quite a coincidence. I guess I can cook for myself (unless you do mexican. I haven't got a hang of that yet) but I am still in desperate need of someone to clean up after me.

*shows Raspberry where the mop is.*

*Pulls out Angel's Dagger*

I refuse to be a housewife aka slave

And you killed the romance between Mario and Wraith! It's tragic. I must avenge my friends

I am a ninja

[QUOTE=GavinGill;1624121]I think it's cute the way you two use this fight over Raspberry as an excuse for you guys to get together for a duel with your "swords." A clever ruse(end quote)

What! *Goes back in time grabs the Tsar Bomba with spirit powers now that I am dead and drops it on GavinGills head*

Lol

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About the dimples of Venus I don't really see what is attractive about them.

Originally Posted by Raspberry

*Pulls out Angel's Dagger*

I refuse to be a housewife aka slave


And you killed the romance between Mario and Wraith! It's tragic. I must avenge my friends

I am a ninja

*shoots Raspberry too*

Dammit. Who's gonna clean up after me now. I knew I never should have moved out of my mom's house.