My husband is 30 years older than me and he says the last truly hard-working generation was that of my grandmothers age (people now in their high 70's-80's). He's seen a lot of change, but so have I.
When I went to school, paddling was still practiced. My last year of middle school changed that. Some girl claimed when the Dean paddled her, she miscarried so corporal punishment was done away with. The students immediately started misbehaving more.
My own kids were chronically truant to school so I was forced to attend with them for about a month. I spent my mornings at the High School with my oldest daughter (14) and my afternoons in the Middle School with my 13 year old.
I couldn't believe how much had changed!!!!! The classrooms were absolutely out of control. Everyone talked over the teachers, students started answering questions then rambling off on tangents that had NOTHING to do with anything. My kids always told me they liked getting In School Suspension because it was the only way they could get any work done. After my brief experience, I understood why.
As far as welfare... the State makes dependency too easy. I was once on assistance. My husband at the time worked very hard and put in many long hours. But any time he made more money, our benefits were docked. It was impossible to get ahead and break the cycle.
Mine is a sort of Cinderella story. When that husband left me, I became a stripper, met a well-to-do Dr. at the club, we had one "date" (spent 6 hours or so talking on the swing on his back porch) and we've been together ever since.
We don't live together because I never learned to keep house properly nor how to control my brood. We're next door neighbors. He always said he couldn't be both my husband and my father, so he's given me my own space so he doesn't nag and destroy our relationship.
Is it my parents fault? Societies fault? A combination thereof? I don't know.
But even I, at 37 years of age, can see the differences between generations. No matter how hard I tried to teach my kids religion, morality, ethics, GRATITUDE, it's never stuck. My psychiatrist says it's because there are so many other things influencing them from school to peers to the media.
Some differences between generations:
My kids start fighting or goofing off, put a hole in the wall, be made to repair it themselves, but they still do it all over again. Why don't they learn? If that were me at their age, I wouldn't have repeated it because I would have gotten spanked if I damaged the house a second time.
If that were my husband, he would have gone immediately to the "wood shed", THEN he would have to repair it.
My one daughter is in a facility for misbehaving kids and she still pees in a medicine bottle, keeps it in her undies and uses it to fake her urine test just so she can sneak smokes during her home visits. Should I tattle on her? Why is she setting herself up for failure?
At least 75 children were removed from their homes and placed into facilities during the last school year for skipping or otherwise missing school. As soon as those children turn 16, they drop out of school so they don't have to deal with that anymore. And what do they do then? They get pregnant, start a family, and drain the State of more and more money. Removing them from their homes, seems to me, to only make things worse in the long run.
But what's the solution? I don't know about other countries but here in the US, the State is taking away more and more parental rights. Though spanking isn't the only answer (and shouldn't be used as a first resort) it should still be an option without fear of having CPS harass you for the rest of your life. Many kids today have no respect, partially because they have no fear.
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