Quote Originally Posted by complete newb View Post
effeminate is effectively a nice way of saying 'camp'.
:S or it's a more accurate way of identifying what we're talking about without the implication that it's a show or an act. Using terms like 'camp' or 'fey' further confuses the matter because some people do exagerrate or impersonate effeminate traits to fit in certain social sets, such as the gay and 'metrosexual' party scene, whereas others just find it the most natural way to express themselves.