The subconscious is like a child. It wants what it wants and if it isn't interested it isn't interested. What I do is get it interested. Like a child. I tell it how fun it will be to lucid dream. I tell it that it can communicate better to me if we lucid dream. I tell it that I will listen to it and hear it. It IS like a child and so you are right, we shouldn't trick it, we shouldn't work against it.
After all, the subconscious is more powerful than the conscious. If the subconscious is not on board then it aint gonna happen. You can consciously promise not to get mad at your boss anymore but if your subconscious is still mad the next day you might throw your shoe at the boss. You are totally right, not only should we work with the subconscious, but we have no other choice.