Why This Keeps Happening To Me ?

**Jericho** · 07-05-2011 11:58 PM

this is embarrassing yet unfortunate , this has happened to me 3 times already !

why whenever i seduce a girl in a lucid draem and wish to make love to her she refuses ?

i normally don't care what i say to her if it might have been a mistake or whatever because there is no such thing as consequences in a lucid dream or any kind of dream in general. with that being said , it does contradict the claims of those who say u can control or influence what happens to you if your lucid dreaming , i need help !

after i wake up i start getting upset and always tell myself next time i might rape someone in a lucid dream if she refuses lol but that's harsh , i rather have it the easy way than experience negativity in a dream.

all we freaking do is talk to each other and she smiles , so I'm thinking yes she might be in a good mood but she ends up refusing if i wanna kiss her or do anything sexual , this is driving me crazy.

**TheAuthor** · 07-06-2011 12:11 AM

It could just be that somewhere in your subconscious, you're doubting your ability, and their behavior reflects it.

Another possibility (that could go hand-in-hand with the first one) is simply that your dream control isn't very strong. If you haven't already, you could try lesser things (non-sexual/romantic, I mean) and build up until your control is strong enough for something like sex.

**Jericho** · 07-06-2011 12:59 AM

thanks for the help Author. I'll consider your words.

**Caretaker** · 07-06-2011 01:09 AM

You're not actually talking to another person. TheAuthor is probably right. You need to have more confidence and conviction. I'm guessing you're probably not "ladies man" type guy in reality? Just remember that in a dream, you can make anything you want happen. ...it's kind of like having sex with yourself. Extreme masturbation?

**Jericho** · 07-06-2011 03:20 AM

something important i forgot to point out , my last dream i had regarding the same issue which was my 3rd dream , at the end of the dream before i woke up i saw this strange menu pop up as if it were a playstation game or something , and it had a message asking me (whats the purpose of this lucid dream?)

it was really crazy. as if it gave me a last chance to continue the dream after this menu was infront of me for like 10 to 15 seconds , went back to the dream fortunately but i got the same results trying to seduce someone else in the same particular area i was in.

**Sugabombs** · 07-07-2011 11:52 AM

I've actually never heard of this before but like TheAuthor said it sounds like you're doubting yourself. If you go into a dream and think "I hope she doesn't reject me tonight :$" then hell, she will son. Have more confidence!!

And go get that girl!

**Jericho** · 07-08-2011 10:06 PM

lol its normally hard for me to believe with certainty as you said its important not to ever doubt yourself , with all the pressure thats surrounding me right now with whats going on in my life , then i go to bed with full confidence and conviction that i have the dream of my desire , it normally depends on my mood if i had a good night or not.

because i do believe what i want to do is possible , i had a lucid dream happen to me 2 times in a row at the same day which was amazing , its just a matter of mastering my thoughts from the moment i go to sleep , as others say it depends on the level of will power you got.

**Solarflare** · 07-08-2011 10:25 PM

rape her?

or try getting really horny before going to sleep

**Jericho** · 07-08-2011 11:25 PM

Originally Posted by gameoverlord345

rape her?

or try getting really horny before going to sleep

the rape part was just my anger for not succeeding in my lucid dream lol but i wouldn't really bother doing that , also i've felt horny many times before going to sleep and no results of dreaming anything sexual at all , instead it turns out something totally different whereas a girl isn't even included in a dream nor is it a sexual dream.