Those are excellent thoughts, Earthatic, and well worth sharing -- especially because clear theories with immediate practical applications are pretty rare around here!.

My usual take on stabilization is to learn, over time, not to care that the dream might end. This ties in to what you are saying (though I personally never explained the "why" so well, if at all), I think, though I would add "keep any thought of the dream ending from your head," to your list. And keeping any thoughts out includes trying not to think about the dream ending, which might take some practice.