Hello everyone!

I've got a particular situation that I am hoping to find some creative solutions for. I am a total lucid newbie (first read about this a month ago) and my progress to date is a couple experiences with HH (Wow! What a trip!). Anyway, I've been very excited about the idea of lucid dreaming, but when I brought up the topic to my wife (several attempts), I was met each time with a rather hostile dismissal of the whole idea. I've been with her for over a decade now, and I know exactly what this behavior means. "Don't talk to me about, don't pursue it, forget you ever heard anything about it." Ok, she's not a monster, but once in a while she will make a snap judgement on something and prides herself on never...ever.....ever changing her mind. I've come to see this as an endearing quality of hers. On the other hand, I've never won an argument.

So there's a little background. I am completely hooked on the idea of lucid dreaming, so I've been lurking in the forums and finally signed up with a new (secret) email address yesterday. I want to train myself to have a lucid dream, but obviously there is a major obstacle. What I need is a suggestion for training in secret. My main issue is improving dream recall, but I am interested in suggestions for all aspects of training. I'm sure there are others out there who have a similar need for private training, though, perhaps for a different reason. Below I will list a few of the things I have going for me, as well as what obstacles stand in my way.

Pros:
  • Most of this can be done in my head, so she won't see me working on it.
  • In my profession, I have summers off which gives me a great opportunity to peruse the forums.



Cons:
  • The number 1 issue is figuring out how to do this without a dream journal, which I understand is of vital importance. A physical journal is out of the question. In the mornings, I have to wait an hour or so for her to leave the house which makes remembering a dream for an online DJ nearly impossible. Surely there are some other techniques for improving recall.
  • There aren't other people that I speak with regularly enough or consider close enough friends to discuss my dreams with. I'm on my own when it comes to doing the actual training.


Ok, the lists are short, but that's about all I can come up with at the moment.

I really look forward to the ideas you guys come up with. Thank you in advance for your help!