Thread: Mother being difficult.

She got all angry and asked me what was the point of lucid dreaming, and gaining insight to your subconscious. I explained her how it helps you discover your inner self, and much more, but she said that I had control problems, and that maybe wanting to LD was just that.
How would you explain it to her?

You don't. Just accept that she probably won't accept it, and continue on as planned. OR, if you find this idea unappealing, back it up with science and explain to her exactly why you'd like to lucid dream. Of course, some parents simply will never understand, and you need not always seek approval.

Just tell her that instead of wasting 7 or 8 hours sleeping, that instead your increasing your mental capasity and creative thoughts. It worked on my mom.

Instead of trying to explain all the science behind how it can help improve your memory and cognitive abilities, etc etc, just tell her you're doing it because it's fun, like a hobby.
Tell her that the thrill of flying, riding dragons, exploring space, meeting idols, and all that good stuff, is just pure fun (which is true anyways).

IF SHE ARGUES AGAINST FUN THEN SHE SHOULD BE PUNCHED IN THE FACE!!

Well since I don't know your reasons for wanting to have LDs, I cannot intelligently answer your question.

people like your mother piss me off, so close minded its scary

sounds like my mother
Since Lucid Dreaming isn't so popular(I just came to know about it last month), people (like my mom) tend to associate this stuff with paranoia or stuff like that.

Don't try to explain, I don't think she really wants to hear your reasons.
Though you can try saying that it will help your concentration and memory (hey, you improve your dream recall, isn't that better memory? and there are various techniques as well where you have to concentrate, so no lying here! ).
Say that Einstein used to do this too! (I've "just heard" about it though, I can't say its true)
If she still doesn't listen, say that you have stopped doing it, I know its lying and its not good, but isn't it still better than to have an argument with your mom everyday?
Remember, you have the right to do anything you want, don't let your mom hold you back, its your life, live it your way.

Originally Posted by JamesLD

people like your mother piss me off, so close minded its scary

This. When did people become so paranoid and close-minded, completely intolerant to the lifestyles of others? It irritates me, no offense. It's like all the people that claim lucid dreaming is dangerous or can kill you. Plain ignorance. Grrr...

Originally Posted by Moose

Instead of trying to explain all the science behind how it can help improve your memory and cognitive abilities, etc etc, just tell her you're doing it because it's fun, like a hobby.
Tell her that the thrill of flying, riding dragons, exploring space, meeting idols, and all that good stuff, is just pure fun (which is true anyways).

IF SHE ARGUES AGAINST FUN THEN SHE SHOULD BE PUNCHED IN THE FACE!!

QFT

Originally Posted by Moose

Instead of trying to explain all the science behind how it can help improve your memory and cognitive abilities, etc etc, just tell her you're doing it because it's fun, like a hobby.
Tell her that the thrill of flying, riding dragons, exploring space, meeting idols, and all that good stuff, is just pure fun (which is true anyways).

IF SHE ARGUES AGAINST FUN THEN SHE SHOULD BE PUNCHED IN THE FACE!!

THIS

But can I just let you know, it is actually the opposite of finding your inner self. Interpreting normal dreams does that.

Lucid dreaming is about not wasting a third of your life on pointless dreams.

Tell her that the reason you want to lucid dream is because most of that wasted third can be actually used.

Besides, who gives a shit what she thinks. It is your decision to do what you want to do.

I never actually told my mom I lucid dream but I talked to her about it and she was like "that's cool how you can control your mind like that" and I'm like "yeah".

My gf knows I do it though but that's about it.

I guess mothers have this propensity to do these sorts of things. Mine gave me a hard time when I looked into religions other than Christianity on my own and would bring them up in the living room. It seems like baby boomers... whenever you talk to them in a more or less philosophical way, they take it all in basically this same way, as per based on their own religious worldview. Not specifically, but methodically.

You don't have to give her all of the details, just tell her the simple definition. It is a dream where you know you are dreaming. Then tell her 1 or 2 reasons why you are into it. I don't understand why she would get angry, but if she does just don't bring this up with her again. You don't need her permission to have some dreams.

its a natural part of life! wtf mom!

Originally Posted by JamesLD

its a natural part of life! wtf mom!

XD

I haven't told anyone from my RL yet, the one person who would probably really like the idea is kind of busy and I doubt he'd be all that focused on it. That's like telling someone they can have all the adventure, women, food, and anything else they want in the world if they can wash a limitless pile of dishes

Some people are just non-believers(or infidels) and will not listen to what you have to say.

You could back it up with every reason possible but they will only hear what they want to hear, and that just so happens to be "Lucid dreaming is not real/weird/a mental problem/etc.".

I think you should at least try once with either scientific backup, book backup, etc.

After that, if she doesnt believe you, theres just no reason to continue trying to convince her.

And yes, i agree with Moose. Fun is basically my reason for Lding and alot of people reasons. Cause it IS fun :3

I don't see a point in convincing her- I've tried telling mine and she was like "lets never speak of this again"- just do your dreaming and don't let anyone bother you.

Just tell her "Mom, you're right. I have control issues. What of it?"

Originally Posted by yuriythebest

I don't see a point in convincing her- I've tried telling mine and she was like "lets never speak of this again"- just do your dreaming and don't let anyone bother you.

I agree. Why even tell her about it at all? How is she going to know what you do in your sleep?